I know that most men would say that after meeting online, that contacting eachother in person should be ASAP. On the other hand, myself as a lady being cautious...I think it should be after a few conversations on the phone, emailing, etc...after you get that feeling that he/she could be safe. That is just the way that I see it because I have not been doing this for that long.

And of course, there must be some kind of chemistry between both parties.

Do you think that is being to careful...or am I right on?

I would like to know the opinions of male and female. Be honest ~

Thanks in advance and good luck to you all...

Lisa in Venice ~

YOUR RIGHT

i agree with you 100%. safety is most important

I wouldnt want it any other way.

I don't think you're being too careful. I would also let a friend or someone know who you're meeting and where. Nothing wrong with a safety net.

that's definitely a good plan, although, if you want to meet up sooner, just pick a nice public place. And station some friends in spy gear across the street and inside the restaurant/bar/coffee shop. And get a gps tracker on you. And bring some mace, a stun gun, and some roofies, so you're evenly matched

I agree as well.

Never be too careful, it's a strange world out there these days, just take it slow

I would think it is up to you, do what you want, if the other person cant wait then it is there lose, right?

I think there should be communication via e-mail, telephone, etc. for atleast a few months before even thinking about meeting in person. When you finally feel it's safe to meet one another, the first meeting should be in a public place.

I agree with u!!!!!!! for a quick hook up.... who needs the internet... u can find that around the corner or up the block....why waist time with forums and email...,..

throw caution to the wind, meet them right away, act more crazy then anyone you have ever met, if this is recived as a turn on then ask were the bathroom is and split, if there mouth drops, tell them your just pulling there leg. and offer them a smashed hostess twinkie.

I don't believe it's a good idea to rush into anything. The soonest I ever met someone in person after meeting on line was two weeks, and that was a huge mistake. On average, my normal time frame was about three months -- which, by a strange coincidence, is normally the same amount of time I can go out with someone before being bored to tears.

On the other end of the scale, I once talked on line and by phone to someone for about a year before we met in person -- even though, at the time, she only lived about 25 minutes away from me. And she turned out to be the best girlfriend I ever had, and we recently got back together after some time apart.

So I'm a firm believer in taking as much time as you feel you need.

110% absolutely correct

If I were a vulnerable person, I'd have copies of their birth certificate and drivers license faxed over for confirmation before I met them.


With the high percentage rate of felonies committed, you know there are many felons on this site - some good, some not. It wouldn't be smart to not play it safe.

your right chica! There are sooooo many weird people out there you have to be safe! If a guy likes ya he will be cool with it~ you can talk to a guy a few times and it be cool, but on the second third or fourth conversation you may realize or find somethng not right, so yeah im feein ya. I've heard some horror stories!
keep doin what ur doin*
xoxo

This is okay, but carry a pistol too.

I usually have online conversations for a few months. I don't do phone numbers. I meet the person at a public place. That way they don't have my address or my phone number. But I tend to be cautious and slow to trust.

Meet in a public place... not necessarily ASAP, but... anyone can BS you on the phone or thru email. You don't pick up a true "vibe" till you meet them. Can you imagine spending a looong time talking to someone and they are totally different in person? Unless you turn out to be good friends, it's really a waste of time. BUT I emphasize....PUBLIC PLACE, with maybe a friend nearby as back-up? Can't be too careful.

ya definitly.

U have no idea how many girls message me a few times. we talk on aim for like a day or two and then theyre ready to meet me in person and im like "Wtf. slow the **** down. i dont even know ur last name yet"

u know?


def.