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Topic: Curious To know your opnions
IndnPrncs's photo
Tue 01/15/08 06:08 PM

I know that most men would say that after meeting online, that contacting eachother in person should be ASAP. On the other hand, myself as a lady being cautious...I think it should be after a few conversations on the phone, emailing, etc...after you get that feeling that he/she could be safe. That is just the way that I see it because I have not been doing this for that long.

And of course, there must be some kind of chemistry between both parties.

Do you think that is being to careful...or am I right on?

I would like to know the opinions of male and female. Be honest ~

Thanks in advance and good luck to you all...

Lisa in Venice ~



You're right on!

TheShadow's photo
Tue 01/15/08 06:09 PM

I know that most men would say that after meeting online, that contacting eachother in person should be ASAP. On the other hand, myself as a lady being cautious...I think it should be after a few conversations on the phone, emailing, etc...after you get that feeling that he/she could be safe. That is just the way that I see it because I have not been doing this for that long.

And of course, there must be some kind of chemistry between both parties.

Do you think that is being to careful...or am I right on?

I would like to know the opinions of male and female. Be honest ~

Thanks in advance and good luck to you all...

Lisa in Venice ~
Hell if anyone don't want to take the time to even try to get to know anyone a little bit before they meet. send them on there way. don't even wast your time

nuenjins's photo
Tue 01/15/08 06:12 PM
Edited by nuenjins on Tue 01/15/08 06:13 PM
My last relationship was from a girl on here who wanted to take it alittle too fast, I let her lead with that. It ruined the relationship because we didn't get to know each other well enough first. It caused ,her especially, alot of anxiety. taking your time is time well spent. If someone dislikes a boundary like that, then just move on. Shadow is right.drinker

cali4niagrneyes's photo
Tue 01/15/08 06:14 PM
Wow...you guys are great, I didn't ecspect to get such a fast reply/feedback..LOL...Now I know where to come for some honest answers, from peeps I never knew until today. Thanks, I'm sorry to sound like such a newbie. Anyway..I am Lisa and its a pleasure to meet you all. Take care and I will be back to share more with you and maybe have some advise from some of my experiences as well..LOL

Nite all...Lisa flowerforyou

AllSmilesInTulsa's photo
Tue 01/15/08 06:18 PM
Ted Bundy was a very charming and attractive man yet murdered many women. How long would you have to talk to him before you decided to meet? Regardless of how long you talk to someone before you meet, your safety must be in the forefront.

breakdown's photo
Wed 01/16/08 03:03 AM
There is nothing wrong with being cautious, especially if you're meeting me devil

breakdown's photo
Wed 01/16/08 03:07 AM

Ted Bundy was a very charming and attractive man yet murdered many women. How long would you have to talk to him before you decided to meet? Regardless of how long you talk to someone before you meet, your safety must be in the forefront.


I always thought Dahmer was far more gorgeous than Bundy.blushing

Adeph's photo
Wed 01/16/08 03:57 AM


Ted Bundy was a very charming and attractive man yet murdered many women. How long would you have to talk to him before you decided to meet? Regardless of how long you talk to someone before you meet, your safety must be in the forefront.


I always thought Dahmer was far more gorgeous than Bundy.blushing


seriously? dahmer looked like a retarded frog with glasses and a moustache

unsure's photo
Wed 01/16/08 05:11 AM
I think you just need to be careful when you meet someone from here. I actually give my friend their name, phone number, and where they are from plus where we are meeting..that way just in case something happens. I do think when you meet them you need to meet in a public place and you should never get into a vehicle with them..you should always be smart about things.
I don't put a time limit on things, I just go with my gut feelings. I do like to talk to them on the phone for a bit and that way when I meet them for the first time, there are no ackward moments.
I think you know when the time is right, so just go with how you feel. Just remember, safety first!!! flowerforyou

krazienough's photo
Wed 01/16/08 09:06 AM
I'm with you girl... safety first.

Blackwell's photo
Wed 01/16/08 09:11 AM
Na not at all, in today’s day and age you never can be to careful with stuff like this. Best air on the side of caution. Besides if this person is truly worth meeting they’ll understand and odds have it be on the same page.

no photo
Wed 01/16/08 09:40 PM
I just found out in forum what I have to do before go for it!Oh damn!!!I did hung out with a guy from site at night and I don't drive...lucky me nothing really happened.

midnigt960's photo
Thu 01/17/08 09:06 AM
Being carefull is a must! and with no chemestry there really isnt anything to begin with.


midnigt960's photo
Thu 01/17/08 09:11 AM
I agree with you! I recently met a guy I totally clicked with and he asked me to be his girlfriend on te second date unfortunatelly he doesnt have enaugh time to spend with me. My question is Wy would you ask someone to be your girlfriend if you don't have the time to spend with them, It would be easier to stay single and date at your convenience. Whats your opinion?

no photo
Thu 01/17/08 09:15 AM
I agree 100%. I think many phone calls to get to know each other. Months. No hurry if you think it might be special. And when you do meet in person, meet somewhere away from your home at a large populated restaurant.

MyrtleBeachDude's photo
Thu 01/17/08 09:16 AM
Its certainly on the news a lot. People hook up blindly and end up in major trouble. I have met 2 women from "online" and they both scared the hell out of me.

no photo
Thu 01/17/08 09:18 AM
If someone doesn't have time for you, your not important, stay away from that person. If someone is really special, its impossible to stop thinking of them, and you can't wait to see them.

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