Remember most people do not have their priorities right anyway. In such a state life is confusing and unstable. Take a good look around at what is really going on, believe your eyes, forget what you have been told. It is reality. Get your ship in order, find someone who has their ship in order and you have something that could work out. Whatever happens that you have no control over, let it go. You must accept that things beyond your control which is almost everything are what they are. You really only have control of yourself and maybe not even that. Master thyself.

Takes two to tango. Break-ups are rarely completely one sided, they fail for a multitude of reasons that build up overtime in my opinion, and which we don't always see coming. Yes, look back and try to understand why it happened and learn from it as best you can. When you have done that, look forward and not backward anymore. Time to draw a line under it and complete the divorce, a separated but still married person is much less attractive to women for many reasons. You sound confident, stable and financially solvent, these are all very attractive qualities to women. Maybe you need to expand your search for a partner, join a few more dating sites, and in the real world think about where you can meet women with similar interests to your own. It could be at hobby clubs, evening classes, dance clubs, church meetings, exmilitary social clubs, and wherever you feel comfortable in going to as well, takes time but you will find the right one for you. Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

And there you go again, attacking someone else who is only answering the question you yourself asked!

What I get from what you're writing is that you're very negatively focused, judgemental, and I sense deep sadness which might be why you spew anger.

You cannot express love by holding hands?
That's the least intrusive way to show affection. If even that is too much you may want to seek some help.
If you can get into a softer warmer vibe, better able to express your feelings & affections -verbal & non-verbal- you may find you'll do much better in life in general AND in love.

No one feels good around someone who cannot show warmth & affection, instead holds & exudes anger, and when in relationship with such a person you get affected by that too.
Human beings need love, touch, hugs, touch, shows of affection, touch, and care and touch. Touch is very important! That's part of our nature.
When you cannot give that, you deprive your partner of it too.
Logical that goes wrong.

First thing to do is to stop accusing and judging other people. Stop spreading anger and chaos around you.
Learn to focus on good things in your life.

Sounds like you always try to be the good guy and the women leave you to be with the bad boy. Stop trying to make them happy and worry about what makes you happy. That's what women do, that's what men should do. If both sides meet in the middle than you have something, if one side is only willing to acknowledge their own needs and not your own than you have nothing. Be a man and stand up for yourself.

I stood up for myself. When I seen the texts and cashapp payments I exploded

"Jaah Doh"

Response was Excellent !

It was wasn't it? I immeditly knew what was wrong

Thank You Toody an Ron ...



Maybe I'll change my name to Dr Jaan Doh

Most People giving advice do not follow their own advice.

Jaan if you were Close by I would have a cup
of coffee with you!!

It would have to be Tea ☕ and cake lol , I don't drink coffee, or maybe drink it once a year...

Thank you , it would be nice to chat over tea/coffee and I'd even let you pay , just to show I'm okay with ladies being independent and all that

I have done that for men I really like sometimes.
Oh and I like tea.

i feel like im manipulated with my husband

You need relaxing your mind and focusing on kids & other activity in your daily life so you won't get the flash back of days deal.

Start your own thread and get on topic feedback to your question
Welcome to Mingle too...

I honestly wouldn't even worry about it, man. Women have an inherently high disposition for neuroticism, which means they tend to dwell on negative emotions until they collectively conform into a relationship hurdle they can't clear. It's the main reason over 70% of all divorces are initiated by women & also why lesbian couples have a much high divorce rate than gay men.

I'm not even hating on women by that. It just is what it is. If Tom Brady can get cheated on & left for a jui-jitsu instructor, then no man is safe from it 🤣

I think the harsh responses are to get you to not give a ****. Ole hawk tuah girl gave a solid piece of advice. Best way to get over 1 is under another.

Hello

It’s unfortunate that the original poster has deactivated his account. But I’m still going to give my two cents! it sounds like your exes chose men that were nothing like you. Which (to me) means that there was something lacking in your relationship that they found with these “losers” (affection? Support? Open communication?). No idea. But it also means they didn’t understand you either. So their loss. The right woman will come along (hopefully).

Also!! Pda is huge for most women (or just affection in general). If that’s not your thing, they might have felt starved for affection and jumped on the first guy that gave it to them. People do crazy things when they feel starved