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If they are local and reply to your first message, do you ask for a meet and greet immediately, or is it more polite to exchange messages for a few weeks first? What are your thoughts?
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Edited by
HumanMale
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Sun 09/24/23 12:49 PM
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Prehaps not the first message, but soon. You can establish some compatability after a half dozen messages.
Meet and greet -- that's the entire point, isn't it? Sending endless texts raises yellow or red flags to me. |
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Politeness has nothing to do with it.
Wait til you figure out; 1. If she's real. 2. She's not going to add another meal to the tab "for her landlord" or order fifteen dollar cocktails. |
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Thanks for the replies. I wondered if it was a good way to separate out the 'Wheat from the Chaff', to immediately extend an invitation for coffee if they say they live local. Scammers would decline for some reason or fail to answer and disappear. Then I thought is it impolite, would it scare away the genuine people, maybe exchanging a few more messages is the better way, it's just frustrating when it comes to nought. |
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I wait a couple messages since 99% of the 99% fake women on here will give themselves away within 2 days.
I then extend an offer for coffee or lunch, whatever at some public location that she can easily walk away from without feeling pressured or trapped. In 2 years I have gotten 3 actual meets, good luck. |
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What is considered local? I'd say within 30 miles. I'd talk for at least a couple of weeks before deciding to meet.
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Myself I want to exchange some messaged here prior.. At least for a few days to make sure they are even who they say or live where they say..
And to see how the conversation goes.. Then it's a meet half way from where they live and I live.. I pick some restaurants in between and let them know so we decide on which place is best. I always let them know the first meet is Dutch.. That way I order what I want too and same with them.. If all goes well then a second meet.... |
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Thanks for all the replies. It is better to take the extra time with a few more messages before suggesting a meeting, even when they live round the corner so to speak. Gives time for deciding whether or not you really want to meet them, and ladies need to be more cautious with their decision on meeting anyone for the first time.
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Sat 09/30/23 05:58 PM
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I only met one man local and I talked online a few days ! It was ok because he wasn't my type when we met in person Twice.
I met several men in person from online Relationship site . Long distance meetings so I talked Long time on phone. I had to get everything I wanted to tell them necessary before meeting. I'm not into meeting just any Man. They all traveled to me. |
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A great meet and greet for me would be Terry Bradshaw, Bill Mazeroski, or Eric Clapton!
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I would want to email a few times before I do a meet and greet.
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Myself I want to exchange some messaged here prior.. At least for a few days to make sure they are even who they say or live where they say.. And to see how the conversation goes.. Then it's a meet half way from where they live and I live.. I pick some restaurants in between and let them know so we decide on which place is best. I always let them know the first meet is Dutch.. That way I order what I want too and same with them.. If all goes well then a second meet.... So you can't meet him outside the country |
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Myself I want to exchange some messaged here prior.. At least for a few days to make sure they are even who they say or live where they say.. And to see how the conversation goes.. Then it's a meet half way from where they live and I live.. I pick some restaurants in between and let them know so we decide on which place is best. I always let them know the first meet is Dutch.. That way I order what I want too and same with them.. If all goes well then a second meet.... So you can't meet him outside the country For me that is a big NO it's local or nothing.. I'm not moving ~~~ |
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I normally exchange a few messages on here , just to get the feedback... and then I extend an invite to a meet and greet and always welcome to bring a friend along , for her comfort... just in case the date starts to go downhill
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