Topic: what's 1st personality or looks?
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Thu 05/11/23 03:24 AM
Personality is more important than looks.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 05/11/23 04:32 AM

Personality is more important than looks.

Not really. Your personality won't attract a new potential partner as it takes time to get to know someone at least a bit.

First thing is looks, also the energy someone exudes which in essence is a combi of looks & personality.

Both are important, but it got politically correct to say looks don't matter.

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Fri 05/12/23 11:05 AM
Looks are all that matters. But, looks can be boosted by sex appeal and attitude.

I don't give two shots about your personality. Just don't be rude.

Poetrywriter's photo
Fri 05/12/23 11:12 AM
^^^^^ This coming from someone who has his face blocked off.

OT: They both have their pros and cons and need each other.

Slim gym 's photo
Fri 05/12/23 02:20 PM
It's all about looks in the first 5 seconds of meeting a potential partner . Then it's the kinda Gold card you carry, which hopefully will build personality someone is attracted to ... from there it morph's into whatever ...IMO

Rachel 's photo
Mon 05/15/23 05:11 PM
bit of both!!

Duttoneer's photo
Tue 05/16/23 12:43 AM

Unless you want to end up with a blonde having a permanent moment, it has to be personality. Attraction to someone is not just their 'looks' in my opinion, there are many important things that draw two people together, and I would put personality above beauty in my list.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Tue 05/16/23 12:43 AM
Way too many variables to classify one over the other realistically. Both have merit.

1. It depends upon your goal.
Are you looking for a mate to start your family?
Are you looking for sexual relief?
Are you looking for a life partner?
Are you looking for eye candy or arm candy to impress other people?

2. It depends upon your self-esteem.
Are you threatened by strong personalities?
Are you looking for self-respect?
Are you looking for strength?

3. It depends upon how well you know yourself.
Are you aware of your own actual appearance?
Are you aware of your own personality?
Do you realize your 'looks' fade over time?
Are you honest to yourself about your own mortality?

Are you more attracted to super-models than regular people?
How intellectual are you...do you feel at ease having conversations and discussions?
Do you have excessively high expectations?
Do you really know the 'Type' which matches you or are you fantasizing?

In reality, when selecting someone for an intimate relationship, many more factors are involved.
If you do not know yourself, you cannot make wise choices when selecting a mate.
If you allow fantasy and expectations to cloud your choices, you might experience poor results over and over till you figure it out.

If you can see the beauty in the one you choose and appreciate their personality, it doesn't really matter does it...

Sam's photo
Tue 05/16/23 03:42 AM
Personality for me.. when i am snookered with the looks, it is usually lust.

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Wed 05/17/23 05:13 AM
Personality is more important than looks.

If you are on a dating site :wink: Your looks will show first.

Personality later, what are the odds someone will talk to another person in the hope that their personality is attractive? I would say pretty low.

However I can see people starting out as friends become attracted to each other by personality.


Rock's photo
Wed 05/17/23 08:40 AM
I'm gonna say looks.
Nobody wants to date ugly.

SerenityBreeze's photo
Sun 05/21/23 11:25 PM
Realistically I think in the first few moments it's looks that draw curiosity, after that is personality that keeps the person attracted.