Topic: The Courtesy in a small response...
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Thu 11/17/22 02:53 PM
Edited by Unknow on Thu 11/17/22 02:55 PM
Hi, its funny that most people want to be treated like they treat others. If that were the case would anyone have a dialog with another here?
IDK but I feel obligated to respond to people who take their time to write me regardless of attraction. Its just simple common courtesy to answer (even a smiley face works) people who speak to you directly. I have to assume that most women here don't give 2 shhhits about common courtesy. The vast majority don't seem to care who writes them. Perhaps if I looked like Brad Pitt I would get more responses. Alas, I'm just simple old me looking to have a wonderful time with someone new. I doubt that I will spoil someones time with a single date and then if you still aren't happy just walk away.
Peace Albert

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Thu 11/17/22 03:13 PM
Good luck.

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Thu 11/17/22 03:14 PM
Maybe not Brad Pitt, but a younger Gene Hackman maybe?

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Thu 11/17/22 04:03 PM
I have to assume that most women here don't give 2 shhhits about common courtesy.


This is nonsense. Women are not obligated to reply to a man whom they do not know.

What you call common courtesy is something of your own making.

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Thu 11/17/22 04:10 PM
Just focus on the ones who reply. People who are dating with purpose know what they want and they don't waste time and give false hope to those who aren't what theyre looking for.

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Thu 11/17/22 04:44 PM
I think many of us have had the “Damned if you do, damned if you don’t” experience. You’re assuming that when we reply and politely say we are not interested (in some variation) that all men take it well. Not all do. Some get very offended and even belligerent. It’s not worth it. No answer IS an answer. It’s no indication of whether a woman has common courtesy.

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Thu 11/17/22 06:25 PM
No is NOT an answer, It just shows the lady or man is too ignorant, lazy and has no manners to reply

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Thu 11/17/22 06:59 PM

No is NOT an answer, It just shows the lady or man is too ignorant, lazy and has no manners to reply


You can't label everyone into your way of thinking. People have differences of opinion and if they choose not to reply to every single message they get does not make them too ignorant, lazy and have no manners. Some people get tons of messages and to answer every single one would leave them with no time to interact in the other areas of Mingle like the forums. Dramatic Muffin is correct. Some do not take it well when rejected so I feel not answering is better than answering and saying not interested.

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Thu 11/17/22 06:59 PM

No is NOT an answer, It just shows the lady or man is too ignorant, lazy and has no manners to reply


It means not interested...move on.

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Thu 11/17/22 07:00 PM

No is NOT an answer, It just shows the lady or man is too ignorant, lazy and has no manners to reply


It means not interested...move on.

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Thu 11/17/22 09:07 PM
I prefer a clear "NO" answer to no answer.

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Thu 11/17/22 09:37 PM
I find that whenever I respond to a message and say I'm not interested in the politest way possible, some guys couldn't handle rejection and start insulting me. So I just ignore them instead.

No answer, IS an answer.

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Thu 11/17/22 10:01 PM
Looks like you have your answer.

No reply IS a reply.

Take it as such and move on with your life.

It's the internet!

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Fri 11/18/22 02:44 AM
Edited by Dramatic Muffin on Fri 11/18/22 02:45 AM

No is NOT an answer, It just shows the lady or man is too ignorant, lazy and has no manners to reply


Since snap judgments based on not actually knowing anything about a person seem to be okay with you, I’ll go ahead and make one about you. Your reply tells me you’re cranky, judgmental and entitled.


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Fri 11/18/22 07:03 AM


No is NOT an answer, It just shows the lady or man is too ignorant, lazy and has no manners to reply


Since snap judgments based on not actually knowing anything about a person seem to be okay with you, I’ll go ahead and make one about you. Your reply tells me you’re cranky, judgmental and entitled.




And that's why he's here, looking for a woman, instead of in New Jersey.

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Fri 12/09/22 02:35 PM
I agree replying is definitely a must doesn't hurt anyone for you to reply doesn't take that much time all you have to do is be real about who you are and what you want then I can move on if it's not for me

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Wed 03/01/23 06:40 PM
Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate your candor and understand where each of are coming from.
Younger Gene Hackman, I'll take it, thanks... Dodo, you are correct... Carebear, you make a lot of sense... Miss Muffin, thanks, I hadn't considered that and will moving forward... Unknow, I can't say I agree with you but ty for your input. Poetrywriter, I feel you ty... Again Carebear, yes, I agree and like Basel, I'd prefer that as well, but know now not to expect it, ty... Ms.Adams, I get it, it's almost scary Mortica, quite frankly it's reportable in my eyes... Motown, thx... at this point, it would be the nicer thing but I see Mortica's point clearly... As does Miss Muffin, ty...lol, I kinda got the same feeling, but such is life... Mike, I would like to say that ur right, but not quite, ty tho... And Dreamonme, I suppose I did feel the same previously but after hearing from Mortica, I fully understand why not getting a response can work to a womans benefit, who needs tha kind of abuse if you can simply avoid it. Although, something tells me that a lot of the men who strike at someone who answers with any kind of response (no) will or could do the same when ignored as well.
Thank you all for your feedback. I do appreciate the lot of you.
Peace, Al

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Wed 03/01/23 07:31 PM
That is good to know Drama Muffin.
I wondered that myself and it makes sense if someone is uncomfortable that they may just shutdown.

I always like to give one more try the next day or in a few and if no reply get the hint and move on.

Unless its summer and they may be on Vacation