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Do women still appreciate it when a man opens doors for her, offers his coat to her, escorts her back to the front door of her place after a date, ect...?
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Women don't have their own coats? What century is it again?
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I honestly donβt mind a guy with those values but some of those things I donβt mind doing myself unless he insists on doing them then Iβll let him.
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A little chivalry won't hurt
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I always do this, because that is the way, I was brought up.
Besides, being kind to the elderly is important as well ... like my late granny always used to say "One day, you will be old and you will be glad if someone offers a seat on the bus to you". |
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I always do this, because that is the way, I was brought up.
Besides, being kind to the elderly is important as well ... like my late granny always used to say "One day, you will be old and you will be glad if someone offers a seat on the bus to you". |
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Is this another "nice guy" topic???
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Is this another "nice guy" topic??? Sure why not? It's better than reading in every second post that us fellas only post derogative stuff against women |
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Yes, I very much appreciate it and welcome it.
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Taking notes
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Taking notes Smart man! |
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This gets asked quite regularly on here.
First and most important thing: Do what feels good to you, what is 'you'. If you're not like that then it won't help to try and pretend you are that way by doing it while dating. After a while you will forget and might lead to problems as you have created the wrong image of who you are. The same goes for when you are that way, liking to be chivalrous. If you then hesitate and not do it because you fear the woman won't like it, or when a woman indicates she doesn't want it, then you're not a good match as it means you can't be yourself --> the chivalrous guy. In the end that's what counts, being able to be yourself, and simply being yourself. Without that a connection is going to get sticky after a while. So... Do what feels best to you and if that's not what the woman wants/likes you're not the right match. Best to find out as soon as possible. As for myself, I sure as hell appreciate that! It makes me feel all woman, cherished, appreciated, and I like that :) It doesn't mean that I expect a man to hold up my coat each time we go out. I don't expect a man to hold open each and every door wherever we go. In a way it's also a special thing, certain occasions for sure (fancy dinner). So there's a time and place for it. That does not mean, however, that when we're going to the supermarket, and thus not do anything fancy, I'm going to be happy when you let a door slam shut in my face. Also common courtesy to hold a door open when it has a door closer. So... be yourself whether chivalrous or not, use common sense, and intuition on when and when not. |
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Well said Crystal, be yourself!
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To be chivalrous is a good thing, and appreciated by most women in my opinion, but I wonder if it will survive into the future, times change, many now see it as "old-fashioned". |
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To be chivalrous is a good thing, and appreciated by most women in my opinion, but I wonder if it will survive into the future, times change, many now see it as "old-fashioned". I hope, it will survive into the future But let me add, chivalry should always be extended to old folks. From my experience, they are quite often worse off than women. As in being lonely, isolated, being left in nursing homes with no or little contact to their family. |
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looking for a guy who knows how to treat a woman properly online and in a relationship
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Yes to chivalry
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I make it clear on the first date that though I know she can do it herself, I will be the one to open doors and pull out chairs. If she doesn't like it, then the 1st date will also be the last.
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I am young and I still would love my doors opened and my chair pulled out. Also go to the door to pick her up.
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