I seem to be in great demand in Asia,
Latina countries hold me in high regard,
African beauties greet me hello each day ..
but it would seem the closer i get to home,the less attractive i become
is attraction culture based?
is perception of beauty different elsewhere?

the third option ofcourse is the dreaded "SCAM"
i would like to ignore the third option and consider...

what is attraction?

and

is it linked to culture ?

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As one who has frequently traveled overseas, I can assure you that you are held in MUCH higher regard in some (not all) countries than you ever will be here in the US.

If you can pull if off, get the F out of the US for a visit elsewhere and you will never, ever, look at women in this country the same ever again.

Feel free to message me for my personal favorite countries. It's like night and day!

Maybe it's because looking different than the locals (like yourself, a white male) would make you more attractive. Of course you would stand out in a crowd of people in, for example, Vietnam.

Me, as a Southeast Asian woman would stand out in a group of white Irish women.

I think that's just how it is. When you look different, you attract attention.

mr.good guy, i'm lost for words and thankyou for offers of advice / visits abroad etc, i am infact irish and well travelled and i agree with and understand some of each of your sentiments, currently paddling a singlemans dingy in german waters eu. Slainte Sir good guy

hi Valkyrie and thankyou for your interesing point of view, yes i agree we would standout in respective examples you gave,bravo. reading your reply i was left with one question, please xan you tell me what your definition of attraction is?
i am hoping we will get a nice platform of different peoples perception of what attraction is and maybe we will a correlation between different perspectives and possibly matching cultures...

hi Valkyrie and thankyou for your interesing point of view, yes i agree we would standout in respective examples you gave,bravo. reading your reply i was left with one question, please xan you tell me what your definition of attraction is?
i am hoping we will get a nice platform of different peoples perception of what attraction is and maybe we will a correlation between different perspectives and possibly matching cultures...

And do you become more PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED the farther away from home you are?

ha ha yes very good Basel , thanks for your input

Exactly

Nice

Someone may be attracted to you because they see you as someone that can feed their ego in terms of being their bit of arm candy or culture and beliefs that an english man is far richer monetary wise for the woman to depend upon.

Beauty for me isn’t what you visually see as our looks change as we age. Beauty comes from how you are treated by actions, which always speak louder than words.

Mr.Goodguy seem more attractive to me
I do rather choose someone with a good perspective and the way the use their common sense rather than a narcistic. Thats one of attractive definition for me

Attraction is not just looks, but you can't help but become attracted to someone who is physically pleasing to the eye.

But, I don't deny that the western man is attractive to many non-western women from poorer nations because they see them as a ticket to escape the hardships in their home country. To help their families live better lives by marrying a man from the west. For them, the west is where wealth and opportunity come from.

As for the western men, so many would fly to places like Thailand to meet local women for enjoyment, even though they have to pay for fun. There just be some kind of attraction there, or a "fetish". Or, they specifically look for an Asian wife because they believe the stereotypes of the "submissive, feminine, exotic" women from the East.


That's just my 2 cents

I like men who live closer to me. I would rather have things in common to talk about.

that depends what you consider culture as .. in my mind culture is not just ethnicity it is a group that shares something in common . For example the culture of being a parent , a sibling , a student , of being single ,being a member of a group whether political , religious , common interest or social etc . If culture was the ultimate determinant in attraction then your theory should demonstrate that the closer you get to home the more successful you should be with dating endeavours . I am sure to some culture is a big influencer but attraction has many catalysts . Attraction plays a role not just in romantic connections but also social connections .

As for online .. if you consider that internet dating only really took off in the 1900’s . Prior to that meeting other cultures largely depended on travel . The online world exposes us to a multicultural experience . Social platforms allow people to experiment with and consider other cultures . When it comes to attraction .. intention is a strong driver . For example if someone seeks only friendship .. what attracts them to someone to interact with is likely different to what would attract them
If they were seeking a romantic attraction . Likewise if the intention is to better a living situation/lifestyle someone they perceive as being able to support them could become a stronger driver for attraction than romantic preferences .

Although rather cynical .. the online dating world is a risky environment which lends itself not just to experimentation but also fantasy , allowing people to act and be who they want to be .. rather than who they are . (One reason why face to face meets can be so disappointing ).

Romantic attraction is multifaceted and unique for each person. Even those who claim to prioritise personality over looks .. overlook the importance of physical and involuntary chemical reactions when it comes to arousal . All are necessary components for successful “romantic” attraction .

As for why you are besieged by Asian , Latin and African beauties there is also another consideration .. perhaps the Irish reputation for humour is a strong attractant .. after all., in the dating world humour seems to be a sort after attribute

Thank you for your Post...

Apologies as I am a bit perplexed with the premise and the resulting query. That I feel is good as it allows us to examine our own selves…

1) Does not a red marble in a tray of white marbles catch your eye or attract attention more readily?
2) A. Does African beauties refer to beautiful looks (superficial)? B Did the old & young not smile too?
3) Could it be the reverse also that because they were different, you noticed somethings more?
4) Are these questions to understand the people and if the valued attention was genuine (to belong with them) or why same was missing where you belong (you feel you want to belong more or accepted more)?

There are 3 levels of evaluation…
1st is literal – as it is.. casual interest or understanding…
2. Analysis – Analyze and understand meaning. (Did you ask many of them the same question?)
3. Pursuit of its soulful Meaning or essence of it so that it brings you a contentment… be one.

For our own sake we need to be sure that our query is for level 3. Else, no answer shall satisfy.

Even Lust has been explored in places to emulate the highest levels of spiritual ecstasy and bliss or as one may experience in meditative trance…

Thus, finally…
is attraction culture based? Yes & No.
is perception of beauty different elsewhere? Yes & No.

Main Question is who is on the other side and who you are? The pursuit of each will matter more…

Many drinks out there, starting from pure water to nectar & poison, each different due to reasons, such as, (geography, process, source, - akin to – culture etc… )
Yet what matters is what you thirst for.. and the process you employ…

(Hope I shall have offended none.)

thanks for the remark

interesting perspective and profile Leah,
thanks for your contribution