It's been 9 months off and on I've been on this site with absolutely no luck from anyone but those wanting a gift card.

Am I being unrealistic? I dont know anything about dating. I barely understand women.

I'm just a dumb guy. One who joined the Army and the got married at 18 and never dated.

Maybe I'm just setting myself up for failure with my expectations?

Lower your expectations a little. The heart is a hard animal to figure out. If it is meant to be held onto by another that is something that will happen on it's own when you least expect it. Your profile looks good but I would delete the first couple of lines since they are negative. You want a positive profile.

I've been here almost 4 months. I havent found anyone real or close to me.
It seems this site is full of catfishers or whatever.

Great profile! Don't change a thing! You will find someone!

Your profile looks good in my opinion. Some women prefer a guy to be clean shaven rather than having a beard, maybe it's worth thinking about a few photos of yourself clean shaven as well, so you appeal to more women out there, but definitely not essential all your photos are OK.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

I agree with Poetrywriter, you gotta get rid of the first few sentences as they’re too negative. If I read that in a profile I tend not to read any further but that’s just me. Positive attitudes attract likeminded people.

Your profile is great without those few sentences as it gives us an insight to who you are. Besides, scammers don’t tend to read profiles anyway.

The only small criticism I have is you could write about the type of person you seek.

Good luck!

It is beyond frustrating at times when nobody seems to actually live anywhere near where their profile sats they do, or even in the same country. Hearing "I am Mary by name, for what are you seeking?" gets repetitive. That, or they will ask for a Steam gift card to buy "foodstuffs". I wasn't born yesterday and have had a Steam account for 15 years and know it can only be used on videogames. Maybe I'm just holding on to the cynical NCO in me.

I just want honestly. It's very important to me. I dont care where someone is. I am quite prepared to bring the right person to me here in America. My ex was from Iran. I dont care where someone is from. I dont care if they are as black as my coffee cup. As white as the hairs on my chin. I dont care if they are orange with purple polka dots. I dont care if they are 50kg or 500 kg. Only that they make me feel like i matter and let me love them and feel like they are the only woman there is. I just want to know the real person i may fall in love with. My previous marriage was 27 years of hell. I just don't feel like repeating that again.



i think the last two photos are from around my birthday last fall before I grew the beard. I left them in my profile because I wasn't sure if I was going to shave the beard off or not, but figured I might want to at the very least update my profile with some new photos.

I didn't look that close at all your photos, that's good having some where you are clean shaven, the more ladies that find you appealing the better. Just patience now, good luck.

It takes some practise for most after a relationship to get into the dating groove.
Doesn't mean you can't learn. The most important factor in this I think is learning to enjoy the process. So even when a date doesn't turn into a relationship, still enjoy the time you spent & spend with that woman.

Your profile is too 'dense' in the sense of one solid block of text.
The entire first section is negative. I'd remove it and start with the sentence "I want someone I can kiss on the forehead and tell them I love them each morning."
Remove the whole lot before that, it will get great women running for the hills and what most don't seem to understand: negativity does NOT repel scammers, it attracts them. So get rid of it.

The rest is okayish, in the eye of the beholder.
To me it feels too much of the cry of someone who's lonely and in essence that's not appealing.

What is appealing is a man who has something going for himself in life, who is positive, can laugh, enjoys life even when alone etc.
Your profile doesn't exude that. You don't even have a photo with a smile.
Now maybe you don't feel all that happy, having lost your partner. But finding purpose in life is something you can work on.

In any case, good luck.

Your picture is nice, but you have a couple where you are smiling that would be even nicer.

My feedback would be to take all the negativity out of your profile. It's not going to keep the scammers away--most don't read profiles anyway. It just makes you seem mean to the legitimate contenders.

Also, you might want to be dial back your posts a notch in the political forums. You don't have to get emotional in order to argue a point. In fact, people have more credibility when they stick to logic and facts. Your posts are going to be huge red flags for some of the ladies who might be interested. You come across as very extreme, closed-minded and angry. I think most ladies will assume that's the way you are in a relationship also. Who wants to be with a person who is unwilling to hear another's point of view without becoming angry or name-calling? Many posters find partners in the forums (not to mention there are more ladies than men in the forums) so this might be something to consider. Maybe also think about branching out and posting in the other forums. Show off your fun side!

All the best to you! I hope you find what you're looking for.

Like everyone else, delete those first few sentences. You don't want to sound like a grumpy old man lol. Also delete the last two sentences. No need to denigrate yourself.

Re photos. Use the one without sunnies as your main profile pic. Good luck ☺