I meet a man approxmately almost 2 months ago. The frist date didnt start off well lets say fantastic. He is recently divorced and that was his frist date since his divorce. As the night wore on it begin to have potential. It finished i thought on a good note. I didnt hear from him for weeks then he got in touch wanted to know if we could go out again. Said that i surprised him. Now theres not a day that doesnt go by with out us being together or at least a phone call. He says he wants to take it slow and I agree. We have not had sex but alot of touching feeling but no sex. He says he isnt readyand even that is fine. He wont say im his gf but says he wants what we have now. Is this a relationship budding or is he skittish from the divorce?

How recent was the divorce. If is was pretty recent I would be worried that he is not ready for a relationship.

I would say hes' skiddish..........would you rather have this or someone trying to get in your pants 24/7??

This is a question only he can answer. If he wants to take it slow, either agree or disagree. However, since you're the other party involved you are more than deserving of an explanation. Don't expect too much from a recently divorced person in terms of being ready for any sort of relationship, but always expect honest and direct communication from everyone. Can I ask why he is already dating so soon??

he should take time to heal before he jumps into a relationship.it has been two years for me and i am not in a rush.

I as a man can only say if he has no desire to get your knickers off...No way is he ready for a relationship !!

He has been divorced fora little more than a year. She cheated on him with several men. He even went into marriage counciling but she told him she didnt love him and wanted it over with. I think im going to follow his leads to get to know him more and if something more develops then that would be great and if not then maybe I can at least have a close friend. We were talking last night and in one sentence he called himself my bf but then he just changed the subject.

don't go for the rebounds, is too risky. his just bouncing.

Would you "take his lead" rather than just asking the question? There are two ppl involved, right? And you are one of them?

If it has been over a year, I wouldn't consider yourself a rebound. I would take it slow!

we know how long he has been divorced for, but how long was he married and how long was he with her before the marriage?

if he was the one cheated on and they went to counseling...he had to be heart-broken and wanted it to be fixed. after the exes words, he probably came to terms with the fact that it is over and want to quickly move on. Its just not as easy as he thought. even if he wanted to rush that's something you definitely don't want to do. by taking it slow you can get the least out of it by gaining a friend. don't get hung up on titles. just enjoy what you have. don't get attached. find other interest...even other men to talk to.

at this point in time sounds rather harmless and as far as a budding relationship no one would know better than you two so have a good time and enjoy it for what it is at this point ..try not to stress it and i hope things work out the way you want them to...