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Topic: The romantic chase ...
SparklingCrystal đź’–đź’Ž's photo
Tue 11/02/21 03:24 AM
I've done some chasing as well, in the past. In my experience it rarely leads to anything much. It's as if the man moves you from the 'potential partner material' to the 'nice for a while' box. You might end up having a 1 night stand, or a 7 night stand but that's it.
Men want to chase. And almost every woman wants to be chased. And why skip that part?! It's a phase of not knowing the outcome, but there's so much excitement, butterflies, flirting, and fun!

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Tue 11/02/21 03:30 AM
The chase? What century are we in? It is about connection, the chase can be very manipulative. He gets his and takes off, or vice versa. Real relationships are about connection. Dopamine works for awhile.

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Tue 11/02/21 03:37 AM

I disagree, just look at the age old question of, "why do women put nice guys in the friend zone and chase bad boys that they know are no good for them". The chase isn't just about men chasing women, I'd say it's about 50/50.


I don’t think the age old question is “chase bad boys”, it’s “fall for bad boys” - who have
usually done the chasing. I think it’s in a woman’s nature to be chased, it can be
flattering and in general they love to be romanced.

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Tue 11/02/21 03:40 AM
Edited by Unknow on Tue 11/02/21 03:48 AM


I disagree, just look at the age old question of, "why do women put nice guys in the friend zone and chase bad boys that they know are no good for them". The chase isn't just about men chasing women, I'd say it's about 50/50.


I don’t think the age old question is “chase bad boys”, it’s “fall for bad boys” - who have
usually done the chasing. I think it’s in a woman’s nature to be chased, it can be
flattering and in general they love to be romanced.


Then why am I different? The chase bores me. Yes, I am very blunt, but I would also like to think lets cut to the chase, you fancy me, I fancy you, so let's do something about it. Romance then begins .... slaphead


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Tue 11/02/21 04:09 AM
Edited by Bastet127 on Tue 11/02/21 04:10 AM



I disagree, just look at the age old question of, "why do women put nice guys in the friend zone and chase bad boys that they know are no good for them". The chase isn't just about men chasing women, I'd say it's about 50/50.


I don’t think the age old question is “chase bad boys”, it’s “fall for bad boys” - who have
usually done the chasing. I think it’s in a woman’s nature to be chased, it can be
flattering and in general they love to be romanced.


Then why am I different? The chase bores me. Yes, I am very blunt, but I would also like to think lets cut to the chase, you fancy me, I fancy you, so let's do something about it. Romance then begins .... slaphead


If it’s mutual, that’s how it should go! The chase is when one fancies the other before
the other fancies the other. laugh

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Tue 11/02/21 04:12 AM
Edited by Unknow on Tue 11/02/21 04:18 AM




I disagree, just look at the age old question of, "why do women put nice guys in the friend zone and chase bad boys that they know are no good for them". The chase isn't just about men chasing women, I'd say it's about 50/50.


I don’t think the age old question is “chase bad boys”, it’s “fall for bad boys” - who have
usually done the chasing. I think it’s in a woman’s nature to be chased, it can be
flattering and in general they love to be romanced.


Then why am I different? The chase bores me. Yes, I am very blunt, but I would also like to think lets cut to the chase, you fancy me, I fancy you, so let's do something about it. Romance then begins .... slaphead


If it’s mutual, that’s how it should go! The chase is when one fancies the other before
the other fancies the other. laugh

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Yeah, will ever be confused.... lol . Still cant message you. Sending huge hugs and love ❤

SparklingCrystal đź’–đź’Ž's photo
Tue 11/02/21 05:12 AM
It can be different for some. These days there are quite a lot of women that have shifted into more masculine energy. Nothing wrong with that, but it typically won't work with a masculine energy man as then you get a clash. You need Yin & Yang for it to work, not Yang & Yang or Yin & Yin.
There are also more feminine energy men and the same goes then that there won't be attraction with a feminine energy woman.


The shift in women happened when we began to change our role in society, having jobs and careers too, and especially having a say in things. Claiming our birthright to be, to claim our space, wanting to be seen and treated as an equal.
This is great, but because society has remained utterly masculine for a long time -still mostly is- you had to toughen up in order to maintain your position in the man's world. You'd still get laughed at, ridiculed etc., even if mostly behind your back. It did happen.
Many women in higher places at the office for instance became hard, biotches. It is possible to not do that but then you'd have to be totally empowered in your femininity which isn't easy in current society (yet). It takes a lot of personal development and most aren't there yet.
This shift in women has of course also created a shift in men. Many began to feel insecure with women suddenly approaching them with a "What's a nice bloke like you doing in a place like this?"
Just a silly example, but that stuff did happen, maybe still does.

Even though women are now quite far with this process, men aren't there yet. I think this is also why so many of us cannot find a match that's truly equal.


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Tue 11/02/21 05:29 AM

It can be different for some. These days there are quite a lot of women that have shifted into more masculine energy. Nothing wrong with that, but it typically won't work with a masculine energy man as then you get a clash. You need Yin & Yang for it to work, not Yang & Yang or Yin & Yin.
There are also more feminine energy men and the same goes then that there won't be attraction with a feminine energy woman.


The shift in women happened when we began to change our role in society, having jobs and careers too, and especially having a say in things. Claiming our birthright to be, to claim our space, wanting to be seen and treated as an equal.
This is great, but because society has remained utterly masculine for a long time -still mostly is- you had to toughen up in order to maintain your position in the man's world. You'd still get laughed at, ridiculed etc., even if mostly behind your back. It did happen.
Many women in higher places at the office for instance became hard, biotches. It is possible to not do that but then you'd have to be totally empowered in your femininity which isn't easy in current society (yet). It takes a lot of personal development and most aren't there yet.
This shift in women has of course also created a shift in men. Many began to feel insecure with women suddenly approaching them with a "What's a nice bloke like you doing in a place like this?"
Just a silly example, but that stuff did happen, maybe still does.

Even though women are now quite far with this process, men aren't there yet. I think this is also why so many of us cannot find a match that's truly equal.




I respect you, but I am not a believer in masculine energy etc. How do we move on girlfriend? ❤

SparklingCrystal đź’–đź’Ž's photo
Tue 11/02/21 05:35 AM


It can be different for some. These days there are quite a lot of women that have shifted into more masculine energy. Nothing wrong with that, but it typically won't work with a masculine energy man as then you get a clash. You need Yin & Yang for it to work, not Yang & Yang or Yin & Yin.
There are also more feminine energy men and the same goes then that there won't be attraction with a feminine energy woman.


The shift in women happened when we began to change our role in society, having jobs and careers too, and especially having a say in things. Claiming our birthright to be, to claim our space, wanting to be seen and treated as an equal.
This is great, but because society has remained utterly masculine for a long time -still mostly is- you had to toughen up in order to maintain your position in the man's world. You'd still get laughed at, ridiculed etc., even if mostly behind your back. It did happen.
Many women in higher places at the office for instance became hard, biotches. It is possible to not do that but then you'd have to be totally empowered in your femininity which isn't easy in current society (yet). It takes a lot of personal development and most aren't there yet.
This shift in women has of course also created a shift in men. Many began to feel insecure with women suddenly approaching them with a "What's a nice bloke like you doing in a place like this?"
Just a silly example, but that stuff did happen, maybe still does.

Even though women are now quite far with this process, men aren't there yet. I think this is also why so many of us cannot find a match that's truly equal.




I respect you, but I am not a believer in masculine energy etc. How do we move on girlfriend? ❤

haha, trust you flowerforyou
I think that's up to you.

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Tue 11/02/21 05:38 AM



It can be different for some. These days there are quite a lot of women that have shifted into more masculine energy. Nothing wrong with that, but it typically won't work with a masculine energy man as then you get a clash. You need Yin & Yang for it to work, not Yang & Yang or Yin & Yin.
There are also more feminine energy men and the same goes then that there won't be attraction with a feminine energy woman.


The shift in women happened when we began to change our role in society, having jobs and careers too, and especially having a say in things. Claiming our birthright to be, to claim our space, wanting to be seen and treated as an equal.
This is great, but because society has remained utterly masculine for a long time -still mostly is- you had to toughen up in order to maintain your position in the man's world. You'd still get laughed at, ridiculed etc., even if mostly behind your back. It did happen.
Many women in higher places at the office for instance became hard, biotches. It is possible to not do that but then you'd have to be totally empowered in your femininity which isn't easy in current society (yet). It takes a lot of personal development and most aren't there yet.
This shift in women has of course also created a shift in men. Many began to feel insecure with women suddenly approaching them with a "What's a nice bloke like you doing in a place like this?"
Just a silly example, but that stuff did happen, maybe still does.

Even though women are now quite far with this process, men aren't there yet. I think this is also why so many of us cannot find a match that's truly equal.




I respect you, but I am not a believer in masculine energy etc. How do we move on girlfriend? ❤

haha, trust you flowerforyou
I think that's up to you.


Oh shush beautiful. Truth is I was bought up by a man.... lol. Xxx

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Tue 11/02/21 05:55 AM
Best to quit after the first real indication of disinterest -or things get weird

"No thanks"
"No"
"I'm not interested"
"Dude go away before I call the cops"

SparklingCrystal đź’–đź’Ž's photo
Tue 11/02/21 06:22 AM
flowerforyou :heart:

Slim gym 's photo
Tue 11/02/21 07:33 AM
as a guy who never had the luxury of being chased , I can only say from my experience , that there is no better feeling than being the hunter ... and that is a real man thingy ....only problem being , the thrill ends after the prey is bagged and tagged and then a new thrill replaces that feeling ... a mutual connection leading to a first and exciting date ..... which lasts for more than one night !!!
always wished that our first date could last forever ....

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Tue 11/02/21 08:01 AM
Yess

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