Topic: Datimg sucks ! im going to waste
The last night's photo
Mon 10/11/21 06:45 PM
people judge too quickly with their eyes by what they first see and forget about the other five senses yes I said five because to touch is not the same as to feel I consider them two different senses .

no photo
Mon 10/11/21 10:03 PM
hence the phrase "touchy feely"

no photo
Mon 10/11/21 10:09 PM
I would not let anyone touch me unless I was visually attracted to them. We are allowed to chose our partners, it is called free will.

Auto's photo
Mon 10/11/21 10:46 PM
Yes, it's not easy.

Try being a shoe sales man to the ladies. That might help. Lol

Rock's photo
Mon 10/11/21 10:56 PM
But, to feel is to judge.

Rather the assessment is negative, or positive.
Judgement is still judgement.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 10/12/21 03:34 AM
So you've learnt that first impressions are important. Then why not put some effort in getting a decent profile photo?

As for the rest... I think most people get skipped or rejected immediately because of how they present themselves, either in their profile or in messages or both.
It is far more dependent on behaviour and expressing of self than looks.
I mean, it's not like almost everyone is pretty or handsome and a mere few aren't. It's the other way round.

If it was looks that counted most, hardly anyone would have a partner. So... that's not it.

Larsi666 😽's photo
Tue 10/12/21 03:40 AM
Self looks? Reading this, personal hygiene springs into my mind. Many people might hide behind designer clothes, brand new cars, tons of make up, you name it. But then they neglect themselves by some unhealthy lifestyle choices.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 10/12/21 04:20 AM

Self looks? Reading this, personal hygiene springs into my mind. Many people might hide behind designer clothes, brand new cars, tons of make up, you name it. But then they neglect themselves by some unhealthy lifestyle choices.

I've not come across that to be honest?
But I guess we're all different in what we focus on.
For me it's basic, normal grooming: having a decent haircut, brushing your teeth and/or go see a dentist if need be, dressing properly, regular showers & using deodorant, and so on.
And that's nothing fancy, just normal average taking care of yourself.
Someone that cannot be @r$ed to take normal care of themselves is also not attractive to another.

Dramatic Muffin's photo
Tue 10/12/21 04:35 AM

But, to feel is to judge.

Rather the assessment is negative, or positive.
Judgement is still judgement.


Agree. I never understand when people claim they don't judge. Yes we do. We all do. Especially in dating, but in our regular lives as well. It's how we determine who to surround ourselves with.

Larsi666 😽's photo
Tue 10/12/21 04:37 AM


Self looks? Reading this, personal hygiene springs into my mind. Many people might hide behind designer clothes, brand new cars, tons of make up, you name it. But then they neglect themselves by some unhealthy lifestyle choices.

I've not come across that to be honest?
But I guess we're all different in what we focus on.
For me it's basic, normal grooming: having a decent haircut, brushing your teeth and/or go see a dentist if need be, dressing properly, regular showers & using deodorant, and so on.
And that's nothing fancy, just normal average taking care of yourself.
Someone that cannot be @r$ed to take normal care of themselves is also not attractive to another.


Of course, you did. I only tried to highlight your opinion, and support what you said :smile:

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 10/12/21 06:27 AM



Self looks? Reading this, personal hygiene springs into my mind. Many people might hide behind designer clothes, brand new cars, tons of make up, you name it. But then they neglect themselves by some unhealthy lifestyle choices.

I've not come across that to be honest?
But I guess we're all different in what we focus on.
For me it's basic, normal grooming: having a decent haircut, brushing your teeth and/or go see a dentist if need be, dressing properly, regular showers & using deodorant, and so on.
And that's nothing fancy, just normal average taking care of yourself.
Someone that cannot be @r$ed to take normal care of themselves is also not attractive to another.


Of course, you did. I only tried to highlight your opinion, and support what you said :smile:

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