Ask anyone whether they want to love, and I am pretty much sure they will answer "yes, of course I want"...

Ask to the very same people whether they are willing to dedicate their life to another person, going through highs and lows always smiling and happy, keeping his/her hands tight even when cold burns the skin...

Ask all the above to the very same people and they will likely answer "No.. I only want to love"

Does really everyone want to love?

Cold hands = warm heart.

warm hands = cold heart, if youtl takr too much sun you can still use some skin protection cream, you can probably avoid any burn

but can you use cream to protect hands when it is cold? But this would be something else and we need to create a separate discussion

Love everyone ? yes but humans or even animals are not really meant to stay together lifetime . why ? we all love and want change and that is fundamental nature of universe . Every one gets bored . Together in Highs and low may not be a problem but change is must even when we are together . Even if we dont like , the entire universe is made for change . So not to crib , keep meeting more people , love every one . keep together till comfortable and change when not should be the game . But never get sentimental is the key .

hmm.... I still think that Less is More in love -) sorry, although I am getting old, the idea of being happy with a lifetime partnet did not vanish with age-)

I want cherry coke.

Humans are not animals. Common mistake made by many.
When a human cannot commit it is usually because of issues. Animals change mates to keep the species strong, not because they get a boner from another tigress or bear or whatever. That's what happens to people, lust-based.
Many people have issues with sexuality, in various levels of it hindering them lots or not at all, due to our glorious history of sexual abuse and oppression and not being allowed to simply enjoy it.
I have serious doubt a blackbird, magpie, bear, lion etc. will have sexual issues.

We are so far the only species that can choose to deviate from what the rest of our species does. Or we choose not to.

A man doesn't need to impregnate as many women as possible, and this need hasn't been around for thousands of years. With that, there is no need to swap partners either. Except for choice, ego, unresolved issues.

There is one other ancient and ongoing need that separate into: stability, love, belonging, safety.
So I think based on that it is pretty safe to say it IS natural for humans to be with 1 partner for a longer period of time as that fulfils all those needs.

i totally agree with you, still I find we are not all aligned with what love means

I want cats to love me

Correct. Many people have closed their hearts due to whatever. Not just because of romantic love going wrong although for many that is the reason.
But looking at the bigger picture... it's something that has happened over time for thousands of years... societal pressure, religion, disease, and so on did not leave much room for love.
We couldn't be, do, or have, what we needed to be fulfilled, didn't have much say in anything. Not easy to keep your heart open and loving then.
Having this freedom of choice is very new, so discovering what love actually is, how to deal with it etc etc., is also new.
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I wouldn't want to love someone if they didn't love me back.

Everyone minus the one person I know very well...and that person has no designated spokesperson...

most people wants love but don't know what love is

People nowadays are so busy that they don't have time to wait until love happens itself. They "make" love.

and this is the topic-), i think all definitions may work...all but one: love has nothing to do with possession, control and ego.

Oh really? So what are we plants, bacteria, virus? LOL


There's lots of people that do not know or understand what love is.

Love...is something you feel inside. You feel other things inside too. They are called 'feelings'. Feelings, like 'love', trigger strong emotional states.


Lots of people confuse love with something else.
Love is simple, people make it hard.

Dedication and commitment is how we 'display' the love we feel for another.
We have to display the love we feel because love itself can't be shared, only felt within. Its a feeling.

Like other 'feelings', sadness, anger & joy, love rises and falls with our moods. Love has never and never will be a constant emotional state.

Each person displays their love for another in different ways to different degrees. Just as each person is an individual, the love they display is individual...unique.

Love is not a set state.
The love each of us feel is unique to ourselves.
This is because love is a feeling, felt within.
There is no set definition of love for all people.
Its not quantifiable to any standard measure.

There are, however, standard displays of love people recognize.
Dedication, commitment, respect, honesty and other displays define love when we see/experience them.
Love, being a feeling, may come and go in intensity but it usually takes something severe to end those feelings.
Betrayal, rejection and dishonesty usually break the feeling of love in a person.

When two people love one another it means each is able to display the love they feel for the other in effective ways.
It also means the one to which that display is intended, is able to recognize and accept the other's display as genuine.

Its very possible you can love someone for a lifetime.
Its even possible to effectively show the love you feel towards another over a lifetime.
However, since love is a feeling, love changes over time.
When the changes align with the other, love displays persist, if the changes stop aligning, love displays fade away.

Feelings of love have different degrees of intensity and different conditions.
The love you feel for you mother or father is different than the love you feel for your sister or brother, son or daughter, spouse or best friend.
Each feeling is valid in its own way as it applies.
This is because its a feeling within you.

How you feel and display your love changes as you age.
Just as we adults no longer have emotional upheavals and exaggerated displays of our feelings, how we feel and display love changes.
Love we feel during puberty is very different than love we feel after marriage or having a family.
Sometimes it can be less intense, sometimes it can be more intense.
But, its all rooted in how we feel.

Everybody wants someone but it’s hard to find a good man

i thought women always look for a "bad" man ... dang ! gotta change my behaviour and polish my discarded 'Halo' !!! thanks for that heads up !!!

We are human beings :) Nothing LOL about it. To me putting humans at the same level as animals is LOL. Not that I want to diminish animals, what they are, what they do, their greatness, etc. Not at all. But that still doesn't make us animals.
Matter of learning how we are different from them, which isn't rocket science.

If someone wants to marry with me I spent my life with you