If they know they hurt you and they do not initiate contact -and with an apology early on -or at least with an apologetic attitude -things would not likely be different if you did start talking, etc.

If they posed as a crystal monger, well.... that's just super head-gamey.
Mayyyyyyyybe it could be some ill-advised, awkward attempt to figure out your current situation if they would like to get back together, but still not respectful.

Some use psychology to manipulate rather than understanding it so as to better treat someone even more respectfully.

There may or may not be sincerity within your ex, but insincerity can also exist in the same person -each concerning various aspects of a relationship and/or overall respectfulness/positive regard (real love).

Realize you are already upset and angry. Not a good start -and you may be simply revisiting what you have already sorted out because they are in some way very attractive to you.

Consider the difference between your deal breakers for someone being THE ONE and the things which you find attractive in this person.
If the deal breakers are not likely to change, are they really the one?

Have you ever had that? Unexpectedly seeing your ex again, the one that you thought and felt you'd finally met THE one?

A few weeks ago I thought I saw mine, but wasn't sure because of the face mask, but in a way I was sure.
Just now at the information counter of the supermarket, and I see him standing on the other side also waiting for the employee to arrive.
I see the recognition in his eyes and I'm not sure what to do or say. Do I say something at all even?
Then the supermarket manager comes toward him to talk about something and the way that goes I can tell he's been there more often.
Then I'm ready, so I walk past him, still not sure what to do. But I decide to just leave and not say anything either. After all, if he had wanted to see me or talk to me he could've initiated that. He knows where I live.
It did make me nervous as hell though and I quickly cycled home.

Back home, I get these questions. What the F is he doing here in my village? Why come here? He lives on the other side of the country. Is he still with that woman he left me for? WTF is he doing here, did he move to this area?
And then I get angry. Meaning there clearly is some work to do concerning that relationship and what happened in the end.
I can still feel the hurt now, and I'm angry. Angry he looked happy, angry he's here, angry he didn't say anything.
Just GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

I had not expected this to ever happen with him as he lives nearly 2 hrs away from me.
And really odd this happens after I got a few voice messages from a crystal seller whose voice and accent was EXACTLY the same as my ex's. How's that for coincidence?

Have you had similar things with similar feelings?
And what did you do?

.....and thank you for reminding me that I am content being undateable. It doesn't really matter who I meet. I'm certainly not ready to have strong feelings and have nothing to give. I am a decent catch, but I -baggage, situation and all -would not be good for someone -the one or otherwise. :p

Love seeks not its own.
I just want everyone to be truly happy -even if they treated me badly.

If they are not seeking what is best for you -it is not love.

Have you ever had that? Unexpectedly seeing your ex again, the one that you thought and felt you'd finally met THE one?

A few weeks ago I thought I saw mine, but wasn't sure because of the face mask, but in a way I was sure.
Just now at the information counter of the supermarket, and I see him standing on the other side also waiting for the employee to arrive.
I see the recognition in his eyes and I'm not sure what to do or say. Do I say something at all even?
Then the supermarket manager comes toward him to talk about something and the way that goes I can tell he's been there more often.
Then I'm ready, so I walk past him, still not sure what to do. But I decide to just leave and not say anything either. After all, if he had wanted to see me or talk to me he could've initiated that. He knows where I live.
It did make me nervous as hell though and I quickly cycled home.

Back home, I get these questions. What the F is he doing here in my village? Why come here? He lives on the other side of the country. Is he still with that woman he left me for? WTF is he doing here, did he move to this area?
And then I get angry. Meaning there clearly is some work to do concerning that relationship and what happened in the end.
I can still feel the hurt now, and I'm angry. Angry he looked happy, angry he's here, angry he didn't say anything.
Just GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

I had not expected this to ever happen with him as he lives nearly 2 hrs away from me.
And really odd this happens after I got a few voice messages from a crystal seller whose voice and accent was EXACTLY the same as my ex's. How's that for coincidence?

Have you had similar things with similar feelings?
And what did you do?

i posted a reply using quote for this topic , but I see now , its not attached to the quote .... hmmm! gremlins atat it agaiin...
all i said was ...
my meeting with One and only ex, are all planned or scheduled mainly because the kids are involved . there is no turning back ha ha !!

We split by mutual agreement. Occasionally, mine would call me and ask about how things were going. She'd ask questions. I wasn't allowed to. I got pretty fed up with it. One morning she woke me up. She'd hit the breaking point with me. I wouldn't answer any of her questions, and told her to take a flying leap.

Then I Was getting a couple calls from her step-mother's friends. They were trying to get in touch with my ex, I was guessing she had gotten sick. I told them I wasn't in contact with her anymore, I didn't even have a phone number to give them.

Right now, my ex is an unknown person to me and I no longer care what she does.

I have no X nor a Y ,
So for me, this Does not Apply ,
Happy and Thrilled to Read and Re-read all the Comments !

I was going to say I move around way too much for that to happen. But then remembered after my seasonal job in Michigan I visited my sons for a couple weeks. Most of the family gatherings we had included their father. It was strange at first, we hadn't talked in the ten years I lived in Florida. But then it was like one big happy family again, only different because we were just friends this time. Though there never really was that romantic spark/chemistry between us, we always clicked better as friends. I imagine it might have effected me differently otherwise.

Have you had similar things with similar feelings?

Ha ha. Bump into the ex from time to time. No problem. Usually I laugh. poor thing, she hasn't changed. I'm always surprised I made such a fuss lol.

She phones sometimes, remembers birthdays n stuff, emails from time to time, odd bits and bats. It's fine...Nice even. The past is, well, past.

Me & my ex are civil...casual but not into each other again. He has been with the other woman for quite sometime now

I guess there never having been much chemistry makes it a little easier?
Interesting, would that be what makes it something you shrug off or not?

I have spent a somewhat longer time with my ex at some point and I quickly remembered why we broke up. It started out friendly but quickly turned sour, not me, him with his narcissist moods and being nasty. I couldn't wait for him to PO again, hihi.

I guess you miss him