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| Topic: Seriously? A mid life crisis? My story........... .. Yours? | |
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Well... happy you got the cars you want. But there is this things, yes. Example... I knew this older dude, fat, in his 60s, and not particularly attractive with his huge belly and underchins. Then he suddenly had a gf, some 20 yrs younger. Oh, glory halleluja! Love of each other's life and more blabla. But okay, if he was happy, why should I care. He did put himself on a diet, I guess he was suddenly self-conscious of his huge protruding belly. Then a while later he posts photos of himself having bought a cabriolet for his birthday, because, hey, he'd always dreamt of that! And I knew right away she'd broken up with him. I checked it, and yup. Compensation to get the car. Somehow the car is compensation for not being able to get/keep a woman I guess. When younger, it's often losers who drive the expensive cars. They have no life, no girl, and money to spend so they get an expensive car that young guys with a life cannot afford. Not making this up, I've seen it too many times. Somehow a car is a man's way of compensating. It's related to his ego. And sure, almost all men may dream of an expensive 'p*ssy mobile' as this dude in "True Lies" called it. But I know few who have a full life who actually own such a car... And when an old geezer is driving it... well, do I have to say it... Yes. In high school (and later) I purposely avoided the guys with the fancy, expensive cars..for the reason you stated above.. I found they were mostly jerks and ***holes, who had no real interests and personality, and needed the car as a "hook".. Meanwhile..I am over here dating the fabulous guys with the Dodge Omni, Ford Fiesta, Festiva, and Ranchero... 
This was quite some time back. Yep, it is simply the truth, even though some have a major knee-jerk reaction when hearing it. 
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Edited by
bobtail76
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Well... happy you got the cars you want. But there is this things, yes. Example... I knew this older dude, fat, in his 60s, and not particularly attractive with his huge belly and underchins. Then he suddenly had a gf, some 20 yrs younger. Oh, glory halleluja! Love of each other's life and more blabla. But okay, if he was happy, why should I care. He did put himself on a diet, I guess he was suddenly self-conscious of his huge protruding belly. Then a while later he posts photos of himself having bought a cabriolet for his birthday, because, hey, he'd always dreamt of that! And I knew right away she'd broken up with him. I checked it, and yup. Compensation to get the car. Somehow the car is compensation for not being able to get/keep a woman I guess. When younger, it's often losers who drive the expensive cars. They have no life, no girl, and money to spend so they get an expensive car that young guys with a life cannot afford. Not making this up, I've seen it too many times. Somehow a car is a man's way of compensating. It's related to his ego. And sure, almost all men may dream of an expensive 'p*ssy mobile' as this dude in "True Lies" called it. But I know few who have a full life who actually own such a car... And when an old geezer is driving it... well, do I have to say it... Yes. In high school (and later) I purposely avoided the guys with the fancy, expensive cars..for the reason you stated above.. I found they were mostly jerks and ***holes, who had no real interests and personality, and needed the car as a "hook".. Meanwhile..I am over here dating the fabulous guys with the Dodge Omni, Ford Fiesta, Festiva, and Ranchero...
This was quite some time back. I had an Omni when I was 16! Ugly yellow!! Got a camaro by 17 though! |
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Yay, Mingle Road trip with Arty!! 
Not every friend gets it right. Some friends really are not our friends at all. Who cares what this friend thinks? It is your life. I used to have a single friend berate me for staying in an unhealthy marriage. But I took vows. Then years later she was in a way worse marriage. Some people just need to mind their own business. Thanks notlooking.
If you ever visit downunder, happy for you to jump on board and hit thae road.  (as long as we're both single and free to mingle, that is. ).
Sad to hear about your marriage situation. Hope you have this sorted. Going  now I know, but I'll share this with you. My marriage/relationship /partnership, of 30 years, was incredible. I haven't stopped loving my beautiful former wife. She very suddenly left our matrimonial home and instigated divorce proceedings. I was quite shocked. For some time before this, I was convinced there was something not quite right with her, not us. The short story is that, she was undergoing eimedical treatment, without my knowledge. As I discovered much later, she was suffering from signs of premature dimentia. Apparently, she wanted her share of our estate to be distributed according to her wishes. Her closest sister (confidant), has since revealed that my wife new where she will soon be, mentally and physically. She wanted that I move on and not be burdened with her affliction. My wife was older than me (no young floozies for me). Her condition deteriorated quite rapidly. Unknownst to me she chose a Nursing facility near the ocean where we often road tripped, and is there to this day. My adult children tell me she barely remembers them, and most times, not at all.
Goodness Arty, words fail me ... That is one of the saddest and most beautiful/unselfish/kind/strange things I have ever heard.  Sorry that happened to you.
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Yay, Mingle Road trip with Arty!!
Not every friend gets it right. Some friends really are not our friends at all. Who cares what this friend thinks? It is your life. I used to have a single friend berate me for staying in an unhealthy marriage. But I took vows. Then years later she was in a way worse marriage. Some people just need to mind their own business. Everybody knows what's good for somebody else - just not themselves Truth
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Well, maybe I'm coming to my mid-life crisis a bit on the late side. I thoroughly love my little Jeep Wrangler and have a bunch of fun during North Dakota winters. It's was my second choice of a mid-life crisis vehicle. Of course it's also highly practical in consideration of where I live. The first Mid-Life vehicle has been desired since I was still in my teens. It's not gonna happen, 'cuz a restored Jaguar XKE convertible is out of my wheel house. It would be a disaster in the snow too. Maybe you're having that crisis. If so, aren't you enjoying scratching that itch? Jeep Wrangler (I'm assuming Chrysler made?) Huuugley popular here in Oz. Sometimes (jokingly) referred to as a**holes. Bloody everywhere! 
WOW! Jaguar XKE! Now we're both dreamin'. Couldn't buy one here for love or money my friend.  Arguably the most iconic sports cars of all time.
Cheers 
XKEs were so undependable in the 70s that many owners installed Chevy 350 engines and 4-speed transmissions in them. |
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Well, maybe I'm coming to my mid-life crisis a bit on the late side. I thoroughly love my little Jeep Wrangler and have a bunch of fun during North Dakota winters. It's was my second choice of a mid-life crisis vehicle. Of course it's also highly practical in consideration of where I live. The first Mid-Life vehicle has been desired since I was still in my teens. It's not gonna happen, 'cuz a restored Jaguar XKE convertible is out of my wheel house. It would be a disaster in the snow too. Maybe you're having that crisis. If so, aren't you enjoying scratching that itch? Jeep Wrangler (I'm assuming Chrysler made?) Huuugley popular here in Oz. Sometimes (jokingly) referred to as a**holes. Bloody everywhere!
WOW! Jaguar XKE! Now we're both dreamin'. Couldn't buy one here for love or money my friend. Arguably the most iconic sports cars of all time.
Cheers
XKEs were so undependable in the 70s that many owners installed Chevy 350 engines and 4-speed transmissions in them. My son has a project Jaguar .. a 1983.. and it had been replaced with that Chevy motor set up before he acquired it.. |
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Well, maybe I'm coming to my mid-life crisis a bit on the late side. I thoroughly love my little Jeep Wrangler and have a bunch of fun during North Dakota winters. It's was my second choice of a mid-life crisis vehicle. Of course it's also highly practical in consideration of where I live. The first Mid-Life vehicle has been desired since I was still in my teens. It's not gonna happen, 'cuz a restored Jaguar XKE convertible is out of my wheel house. It would be a disaster in the snow too. Maybe you're having that crisis. If so, aren't you enjoying scratching that itch? Jeep Wrangler (I'm assuming Chrysler made?) Huuugley popular here in Oz. Sometimes (jokingly) referred to as a**holes. Bloody everywhere!
WOW! Jaguar XKE! Now we're both dreamin'. Couldn't buy one here for love or money my friend. Arguably the most iconic sports cars of all time.
Cheers
XKEs were so undependable in the 70s that many owners installed Chevy 350 engines and 4-speed transmissions in them. My son has a project Jaguar .. a 1983.. and it had been replaced with that Chevy motor set up before he acquired it.. Yes cityblues, . That donk is rock solid  . Just a tip: apply rustproofing, then do it AGAIN! Hope the resto ends well.,
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Edited by
Unknow
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Sun 01/17/21 09:14 AM
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Cars don't stop being cool. We do.
Fun is the meaning of life. Maybe some don't want to accept they are getting older, but some are just still having fun and appreciating well-made and exciting things. Apart from allowing whatever is in the clearance section to limit my wardrobe choices, I am fairly picky and love quality things. If you can just look at something and get the "hell yah" feeling that makes you want to keep looking at it....AND it serves a purpose...AND that purpose is also fun... why not? Plus... there is always the excuse that quality things are good investments. Not your fault if they help start conversations, etc... or that being an interesting, fun person gives others the "hell yah" feeling. |
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Cars don't stop being cool. We do. Fun is the meaning of life. Maybe some don't want to accept they are getting older, but some are just still having fun and appreciating well-made and exciting things. Apart from allowing whatever is in the clearance section to limit my wardrobe choices, I am fairly picky and love quality things. If you can just look at something and get the "hell yah" feeling that makes you want to keep looking at it....AND it serves a purpose...AND that purpose is also fun... why not? Plus... there is always the excuse that quality things are good investments. Not your fault if they help start conversations, etc... or that being an interesting, fun person gives others the "hell yah" feeling. I'm hearin' you load and clear my brother. Wish I could've explained it that way in my OP. Still, I guess it hit the spot for some.? Grow old, stay Bold! You said "Plus... there is always the excuse that quality things are good investments." Spot on! Any "excuse" is good enough if it gets you what you want. "Good investments" (?), is probably the excuse I sold to my finance manager (wife) at the time. Now worth about 30% of what I paid for them. Still great to look at, awesome to drive! Cheers
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