That sometimes when a women likes a man she can be guilty of sending too many messages .. Or contacting him too much !!

What man In his right frame of mind would complain about that ???

Every message sent by a woman is a gift .. lmao .,

Have you ever been put off by someone (you are interested in ) contacting you too much ??? Or at weird times ??

Personally ... I have never had a man complain I contact him too much . Usually the opposite . (Bad blondey!!!) ... In my defence .. My professional life is a social nightmare

its true

can she contact you to say good morning and goodnight and to check on you during the day ., or is that too much ???

There are times when phone calls can be inconvient.

My x used to call me multiple times while I was at work. Up until I became manager, I got in trouble everytime she called, even on breaks (before cell phones).

My current gf calls me once a day when she isn't here.
We don't talk about anything more than what's fer supper, how we're doing and misc topics, call duration around 10 minutes.
Once I was napping when she called, I figured I'd let it ring cause I was tired. Next thing I knew, she was at my door, worried about me?
We had to talk about that because I don't usually take my phone when I go out, unless I'm heading out of town.
I love that she cares but I don't want her worrying about me, I can take care of myself.

There are different faces to contacting.
The motive behind the contact is important.
Meaningless pestering can be irritating.

Gotta realize just because she has time to contact him, he may not have time to respond.

It also has much to do with how men focus on tasks.
How men feel love and empathy.
Most men are demonstrators of their love.
Many women verbalize their love.

I think the best way to deal with contacting is to communicate in person about when and how often, honestly.
Both of you come to an agreement.
Both being understanding of each other's needs.
Then stick to the agreement.

quit being so insecure and clingy.

Thanks for your honesty Tom .

there can be many incompatibilities and barriers when it comes to contact. People often have different preferences and expectations . I am sure the intention is never to pester , rather to connect, but I totally understand how that can become problematic or a turnoff .

You know men are just as guilty of that

I met a guy for coffee and after that I was inundated with messages from him. We had agreed to meet again but because of his constant messaging it didn’t happen. It was relentless and I found that so tiresome. It totally turned me off.

Yes I'm afraid it's true, a woman can 'come on too strong' when dating, a guy needs some 'me' time. In some respects it's nice but it can feel just too much.

Di .,,I have had similar experiences not impressive at all .

I totally get the excitement of meeting someone new and wanting to show interest but that borders on harassment .

You are so right...it was harassment.

Looking back I just thought oh he’s keen but I don’t think it was that at all. I think it was all to do with control. He needed to know what I was doing all the time and how I was spending my days. There’s a fine between taking an interest and being overbearing

Hi Duttoneer women seem to have a reputation for being “talkers”. (Thought that was just after sex lol ). In my experience , men can overdo the enthusiasm too ... especially calls in the middle of the night .

oh my goodness ... that type of behaviour early on. Is very worrying . Glad you sent him on his merry way

I don't think that trait is exclusive to gender, more personality type. I, like you, have a job that makes having a social life difficult. However, I am up front about my time and work schedule. There have been some guys who thought they could handle it and later found out they couldn't. Now, when I schedule time with/for someone I am dedicated to that and give my full attention. I event turn my phone off like a good girl! :)

hello cellabr8 you are definitely right . Personality is a big factor .. also expectations .

Just between you and me ., laughing ., I am not so much a planner , more spontaneous ., I prefer to text or ring when it suits me and when I get the urge . I can see how flawed that is lol. Obviously I have work to do in that regard

Hello!

Why work? Be who you are unapologetically! Some day, the right person who matches the beat of your drum will show up and love all the things you are. Including your spontaneous texting!

I am not apologising just reflecting . I already have someone who appreciates my spontaneous texting but thanks for your kind words .

The rewards of compromise can be delicious .

How can anyone call too much when all one has to do is not answer?

I would think if you are responding once per 25 calls
they might get the hint.

Or not from work, if that is the issue.

I am so sorry ... what u have to go through and thank goodness u can still talk about it ... even if it is a nightmare an always thankful for you



long ago I would send to many messages ... but as a friend ... then realized I was not a friend so ... I tend not to do that anymore ... not saying I don't make the first move sometimes...but if ignored ... understandable ...
I don't take it as personal as I use to :>)

You ladies have good points, people these days are lacking in social graces and I admit men are probably worse.