Hi nice Members of Mingle2,

Why is it so hard to find a man to embrace me with his strong arms and make me feel safe?

The point of view of a man compared to a woman...

I guess you need a man like me feel free to check me out Nicole

You are too far from her.

its the woman that the strong arms hold sometimes

wait for good time , it's not easy to find strong and genuine person

Agree, nowadays it's more difficult to find a person who is genuine. Either we need to have more patient or give up after too much of disappointment.

hi Nicole
you made it clear you were focused on finding an American man .. . I am sure there are strong armed men in your country who would be only to happy to embrace you

The difficulty in finding a man is relative to the restrictions and limitations you place on the search . Hope that makes sense .

Hi Blondey111,

Yes, you're right, but..
Maybe it will be difficult to understand me and my point of view.
Why I'm trying find a new friends and acquaintances from another countries..

I'm not interested in meeting people from my country because here are living people with another kind of mentality which doesn't suits me and I don't fit here. It is so difficult explain it, but now I'm 45 almost 46 and after this what I experienced by living here on different planes of life, I decided to try a meeting people from another countries not only from a States. Of course meeting people and a lovely man from another countries doesn't mean that it will happen a great love but maybe a friends. For me to find in life a true friend or friendship it is a big challenge because like you wrote it is a limit on difficulties of restrictions and limitation but I would like to try.

Sometimes in our life it happens like a romantic films on Hallmark Channel, I unfortunately have a romantic soul and it didn't help me in this part of life related to feelings..

because men are *******

It's maybe, you put too much pressure on finding someone? You are not that old, you are still young enough and a nice person. Sometimes, things happen, when you least expect it

Hello Larsi666,

I hope that you are doing fine and safe today.
Yes you're right. Sometimes we don't expect that something amazing and wonderful will happen in our life.
Maybe we can meet this lovely person when we don't searching him or her...
I think that something change when I started be on this dating site, I feel a lonely at times, I don't know why maybe I can realized now that I'm a single woman

Jestem dobrze

Nothing wrong with being single though. It's better than being in a poisonous relationship and hoping, things might get better. I speak from my own experience.

Hello Brayn77,


Thank you for nice gesture.
Have a nice and wonderful day.

Hello Phoebetbh,

You're right. Nowadays are so difficult meet a genuine people and it doesn't matter the place of the world, but they are exist.
It is I don't maybe a destiny...

I wish you a beautiful day.

I'm reading it as you need a man who has a strong sense about him because you need that type of stability in your life right now.

Perhaps its not the strong arms but more of a strong personality which supports you in a loving manner. From what I have read that you have written, I can understand how this would be appealing to you. It seems to me you are looking for a strong, stable base to form a relationship.

The way I understand relationships, it takes two.
A strong, loving man will want a strong, loving woman.
Both parties must be willing to step up to the plate, equally.
Each partner compliments the other's character.

If one partner does all the lifting, it results in an unequal pairing and time will rip the relationship apart. Each must bring something to the relationship the other doesn't have and hasn't been able to get elsewhere.

Its been my experience relationships built on a single foundation creates a power conflict and breeds resentment.

From another viewpoint...
At 45 years, you are nearing (if not already in) menopause. Menopause is a significant life change for a woman. It marks the border for reproduction.
Your request may be physical (actual strong arms) because you are trying to make a last ditch effort to have a child. I don't recall if you mentioned whether you have children or not. Menopause is a driving factor for many women your age in looking for a mate. A strong driving imperative to become a mother or to have another child to care for and show motherly love (if you have children already).
Since you mention loneliness since joining dating sites, you may have developed a sense of desire based on seeing so many different men who are available.

You should be careful with that. Too many choices changes how you see them.
It prevents you from focusing on the one that fits you because the next one might be better. So you remain alone because you fail to act when you should.

No matter your reasons, they are YOUR reasons. They are valid to you and IT IS YOUR LIFE. Just try to remember, if it isn't working, change your strategy.

I hope you find the one you are seeking.

Hello Tom4Uhere,

Thank you so much for your point of view, your time and all your thoughts.
I can understand now what I'm really feeling and what I try express by this what I wrote.
I'm glad that I could see how the man sees it.

I'm thinking that it is not about being a mother.
I have a wonderful son, he is almost grown up, and I'm so proud that He is my son.

You're right. I would like build a relationship with a strong and stability man , because I have the same personality, even I have a romantic soul.
Always a strong relationship needs a both a man and woman and stable base to build compatibility.
I was wrote earlier answer to you, but this site log me out and all what I wrote dissapeared unfortunately.

"A strong, loving man will want a strong, loving woman"

It is the essence of thought and you have captured your thoughts very accurately for me.
I think that you have a very interesting and amazing soul.

I was reading a post about sex in the forum and I agree with your point of view.
Everything in relationship "needs a soul" , every details are very important when the both woman and man would like build the strong relationship.

Thank you by the way for a flowers. It was nice.

I think that my feeling loneliness isn't associated with this that I can seeing so many different men, because the most of them are a frauds unfortunately and ...
I would like to focus on meeting only one charming, genuine man and I would like to talk to him about many interesting topics and different areas of life.

I'm very happy that I'm a member of this community Mingle2, and I have a possibilities correspondence with a nice man like you , and other interesting people here on the forum.

Thank you so much and I wish you a beautiful, amazing day with a rays of sun.

Like sop much of what I post here it is all my own opinion and how I understand what I read.

I know I can be wrong when it comes to specifics.

You seem to be sincere and sure of your quest.
If you keep your focus and use this tool correctly, you can find who you seek.

Yes, there are a lot of frauds and scammers but there are also some really nice, genuine and sincere men here too.

Time can do different things to different people.

Positive:
You develop a 'sense' to detect the frauds and learn how to avoid their traps.

Negative:
You develop mistrust expecting all men to be the same.

A few things I can suggest:
1. Don't second guess your decisions.
You know what you want and if you dismiss a guy for one reason or another you are probably right in doing so.
2. When you do dismiss someone, end it there and then.
It does no good for you or them to drag it out if nothing is going to develop. Just politely bow out.
3. If you suspect a fraud, do not contact or reply.
If you bite the hook, they will try to pull you in.
4. You know what you want. If that person does not have what you want, move to the next one.
5. Set yourself some ground rules.
Example - Smoking:
If you don't want someone who smokes anyone who smokes is not qualified, move to the next one who doesn't smoke.

Interests:
Pay attention to the interests you see guys putting on their profile.
Word your interests the same, as it applies.
You can click on the interests and it will open a search focusing on guys with those interests.

Example: If you put "camping" and men put "camping" and you click on the word "camping", you get a list of men in your search preferences who also put "camping" as an interest. If you put "pitching a tent" you will get only results of men who also put "pitching a tent".

Its a sunny day but a bit cold.
The sunshine in my heart keeps me warm everyday.
May you be rich in wisdom

Hello Shiva Kumar,

Thank you for your answer. "The wait for good time" You're right..

Have a nice and wonderful day.

Only you can make you feel safe, just like happiness is a choice, so is security. It’s sexist to think you ever need a man, wanting one is different. Explore instead, by prayer if possible, why you feel unsafe. You may come up with ways to secure your own well being that will serve you far better when you find the right relationship.