life is created by love it doesnt matter wealth or colour, education, or anything since love is every where anyone could fall in love with anyone at anytime that my opinion my friend

thanks for your honesty Nicole ... I will be honest with you .. when you first started posting in the forums you seemed to have a specific agenda ., to meet a “Native American man “ as you put it . Nothing wrong with that but to me it seemed you were more interested in a way out of your country (something that is very common on international dating sites ). You say you do not like the mentality of where you live and you do not fit in ., yet you have lived there for 45 years . Why have you tolerated it for so long ?? Do you have the resources to relocate yourself to another country ? If you did not meet a man would you remain where you are ??? Feel free not to answer my questions . There is nothing wrong with seeking a better life or a new citizenship as long as you remain honest and transparent with those you meet... There are many who are unsuccessful in finding love on dating sites . My advice would be to also look at options to help you relocate Independently ... ., for instance if you are employed in a critical field or one that is difficult for a country to fill, your application to work in that country will likely be supported . Covid is making international relocation very difficult at the moment ... many countries have a requirement that a couple live together for at least a year and can prove they are in a relationship before any kind of residency/citizenship will be granted . During covid where countries have travel restriction that requirement can be difficult to achieve . There are hurdles for you to overcome to relocate to another country .... not impossible .. just challenging . Hope you find what you are seeking .. best of luck .

I can understand this, up to a point, as I myself live in an area of my country where I don't fit in, don't feel at home, don't resonate with the people. Yet I have lived here for a total of 17 yrs now, and I've known & felt for 13 yrs that I don't belong here.
Nevertheless I'm still here. It isn't easy -near impossible- for me to move due to circumstances.

But... I am free if an opportunity comes along to move as I don't have young children anymore. Mine have left the nest 8 yrs ago.
You on the other hand still have yours at home with you. And you want to move abroad? How does their father feel about that?
Also think about what's driving you to want to make such a huge step. Is it escapism, maybe after a bad relationship or getting away from the ex? Or another form of escapism, thinking the grass is greener elsewhere?

I do hope you find happiness in life as like I said, I do know what it is like to live where you don't really feel you belong and fit in.

Part of me is also counting & hoping on a man so I get out of this chit area. Not in a desperate way. I am not going to settle for some knucklehead to get away. That would've been easy to achieve. I'm going for real love, that one intense love or else I'm staying.
I hope you have some boundaries in that sense too, especially since you have kids to care for and think about.

Good luck.

the same question to you crystal .. why have you not relocated yourself .. I would certainly relocate myself if I was living in a “chit” place .. but then I have the resources and qualifications to do that if it was something I desired ., .. I do not understand why it requires a man’s help??? Perhaps you can explain what is stopping you from doing it yourself ... does it all come down to financial stability ...you have said before you live in council accommodation .. so I am guessing that is part of what keeps you there ??? Of course I could be totally wrong ?? If you find the questions too personal there is no obligation to answer . .

Hi Blondey111,

Thank you for your honesty, and I have to say that, this part of discussion was missing me.
Be honesty, about it, it is one part of this life here, which I don't understand and I can't axcept, people here aren't honesty, they even have a problem with tell a true and be honesty for example with a small things.

I have to say, that we can only explain something by this what we experience in our life.
You are living in the another part of live for me and it is so difficult explain me to you, because I was born in country which unfortunately can't give me a chance for these parts of live which gives you your country, it is very sad for me but I can't change it in another way only by find a new way of my life.
I'm very independent woman, and a single mother too, and my son, told me now, when he has almost 18, that it is incredible for him that I raised him on this man who is now, only by being honesty.
How I did it in such a difficult place.
How I wrote earlier, the understand it maybe it will be difficult for people which can experience another life, the better life than I.

Yes,my agenda about" Native American Men ", first I found out by this subject from nice woman on the forum, that I was wrote this with one mistake , because the Native American Men it doesn't mean like I thought "Native speaker" sorry for comparing but it is a second part of my answer...
I know now that Native American Man are historical origin from Indians..

About meeting Native American Men, when I was staring on this nice dating site, I had a few reasons, and first was that I would like learning better my English, Like you see I made a mistake in English times.
Then I was fully hope that I can use my English very often by correspondence and maybe video conversation because I would like much more better understand English in conversation on Live, and especially I wanted to learn the language that is used in everyday speech, just like someone wrote back something to me on the forum and for me it was not understandable because it concerned everyday life and the characters of the film.

Another reason was that I would like maybe in the future when it will be possible of course traveling and maybe I can now get to know better the mentality and custom, and culture the people from States.
Of course I would like meet the man in my life maybe from States or another country, which could became maybe my friend.
I like learning foreign languages and I would like in the future with my family and friends use a few languages
About starting new life in another country, I was reading about all conditions that must be met to be able to live for example in States.
It is a long proces, and you are right that I can try apply for a position when the situation with pandemic will be better, but just to try it, I was trying learning English in speach by meeting here people.
I'm watching films only in English from almost a half a year, but I don't a possbility use my English in speach unfortunately, and it was my idea for this to be here.


You're right : "There is nothing wrong with seeking a better life "
Yes I was trying move out , and I was living in Italy for a few months , but because I was emplyee form my country, my obligatory fees and taxes forced me to come back.
I think that if you can earn like me only for example 650$ by month ( not week) and with this money you have to pay rent apartment and raise a child it is understanding that you can seeking a better life..
And what important that your employer may not pay your salary and there is nothing you can do about it, it doesn't matter if I'm a single mother or not.
Yes, I was growing up here without a possibility moving out, and after this time was born my lovely son, and and overnight I I became a single mom when he was almost 1,5 , and on the next years I could only fight like I can a survive.. this was a life which I have to experienced.


Like I was wrote we can only explain sometimes by our own experiens not always which are a easy..

It was part of my life, but now I'm so happy that I have a son.. and maybe I can meet nice American people and man not only American but from another parts of world ..maybe not.
I'm happy that I can correspondence with nice people like you here.

Thank you for your time for me.

Hi Blondey111 and Hi SparklingCrystal ,

I don't know why my answer to Blondey111 is below answer to SparklingCrystal, I'm sorry for confusion, I guess I didn't notice that I'm writing in the wrong window, because the site earlier log me out

i do understand and appreciate that the life in your country is vastly different to mine . We have no choice over where in the world we are born and the circumstances we are born in to . The struggle can be difficult to overcome ., especially when the focus is on just surviving . I am glad you now feel in a space that you can think about yourself and what you want .making international friends is a great way to expand your English skills and learn about other cultures .. it is lovely seeing you in the forum and your English is coming along nicely . I can highly recommend New Zealand as a country to live

Ireland might be an option, too. It is an English speaking country, and a member of the EU. So you don't need to worry about work permits or a visa. Sometimes, it is important to look into these things as well

Hi SparklingCristal,
Thank you so much for your answer, and for your time I hope that you are fine and safety in this difficult time.
I would like to tell you that if only I have the opportunity now, I will not hesitate to move out to another country.We have only one life and it passes so fast.I think that sometimes we need life changes, and if only it makes us feel happy, or much comfortable it is worth doing it.If the life, world and situation in our life can give us so much opportunity and possibilities it is for me only one way, the risk.Maybe you don't know, I'm sure that you don't know about the situation in education in my country ..Two years ago they changed the education system, and thousands of young people can't finish and learn in High Schools , because there are not enough places for children. ( it was because they changed system when the children start learning in primary school - for example I was in 1 st class primary school when I was 7  years old , and they changed it when my son was in primary school and children are starting in 6 , next they does another change and it was two years ago and by this now the children can't start and finish High School, after this they changed that the young people can finish public education in 16, earlier was 18, it was easier change the age not provide enough space and places in schools.My son in Junior High School , when he was 15 he was maybe 1,65 cm tall and he spent 8-9 hours in school in benches and chairs adapted to children from 6-7 years old.. This situation and another which I have to survive here decided that I'm not happy here and my son and I don't have a future here.
About parents, like you know I'm a single mother, it was my life mistake, that I choose this man to be his father and unfortunately I can't turn back time, but I'm so happy that I'm a mother and that this amazing young man is my son . This man is never not interested in his son, and doesn't want to be a father and this man never contacts my son...For me for many years it was not to understand and not acceptable that people can do this.. I think that the man can leave a woman but if he don't love his son it is not a human for me..and I think that sometimes is better if is like this, because not always people should be parents..I know that in States the young people are of legal age when they finish 21 if I remember , in Poland is this when they finish 18.
Like you see our life has a thousand colors from the rainbow not always it is easy and beautiful but I hope that my life can change for the better and I will be able to experience another life in a good perspective.
I'm so happy that I can correspond with you and so nice people here, thank you for your time, and think please maybe it is a time when you can change something in your life.Tha man it is not needed in this situation I think, but like a partnership in a strong relationship for me it is more important if I will have a chance to meet this kind of personality in the man to build maybe in the future some more that friend.. I think now that only from true friendship can we build a good relationship. 

I wish you a beautiful day.. with a smile and a sun 

Hi Larsi666,

Thank you for your advice , I think that Ireland it is a beautiful country and it has amazing history and customs.
If I will have a choice I would like life in a country in which is a much more the sunny days and sea or ocean because I love the nature and water.

I wish you a beautiful day

Hello Slenderart,

It is very interesting what you wrote.
Thank you so much for your answer.. Like you see we are learning each day new things , we knowing new perspective and we have a possibilities experience what we can change in our life.
Sometimes it can be failure sometimes success.. Yes you're right that happiness is a choice and only we ourselves we can make a choice.
I think that the ways to secure my own and another woman is not in strong arms of man but in our mentality and in our character traits.
Strong is in our thoughts and and the way of life and being.
It is my option of course.
The strong man arms I need in another point for me ...

I wish you a wonderful day with a smile and positive energy

Hello Tom4Uhere,

I wish you a wonderful day with a smile.
It is so important what you wrote to me, thank you for yours thoughts and advice. I'm learning everything day a something new, and by this I can get to know myself better
I'm happy that you have a sunshine in your heart it is very important, I think.

I know now why this strong man arms are so important but in another perspective that I was thinking when I started this subject here.
Thank you so much for so nice and positive energy which I can find in yours advice. I found out more about myself, and thank you for this.

Hi Blondey111,



Thank you so much , it was nice. I think that by meeting people from different parts of the world we can find out about some interesting things. People have different points of view and so many interesting kinds of hobbies. I'd love watching a news about new technology and about everything that can help people now and in the future, not only about technology which we can use in such parts of live like a transports, communication, devices, but which are connected with our health and another parts of our life. The world is so amazing for me now, I can find everything online , when I was 20-30 I didn't have this possibility.. Therefore I'm open for this.
I know that people in States asking without reason "how are you" and smiling very often. It is very important for me, because it can showing us that people without reason are nice. In Poland when I'm smiling on the street without reason or when I'm nice the people think that I'm crazy and they are often aggressive, that's why I would like meeting new culture from another part of the world .

The new Zealand is very friendly country, thank you for this idea

I wish you a nice day 

We have lovely summers here as well, and in winter, it is still very mild, compared to Polska or Germany. And, since Ireland is an Island, there is plenty of beautiful coastlines. You might check places like Howth, Bray or Galway

Thank you so much. I see on the map now these places
I appreciate what you wrote, and I think that Ireland is a beautiful and interesting country.
Have a nice and sunny day

ya I am ready to come u ok

Dziekuje bardzo

Feel free to come over for a visit, once this dupek of a virus is gone. There is lots of Polish shops here, so food and drinks would not be a problem

Hi Lars666,

Thank you so much for invitation to your visit your beautiful country Ireland.
I hope that you understand that I don't like a Polish food because it is very unhealthy.
With pleasure I always would like tasting all dishes and cuisine from the country which I would like visiting.
This Polish word which you use is not suit to this sentence, this word it means like a "jerk" rather.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Ps. Today was a firs day in Poland with a sun. I send you too this sun to your country

Hi Lars666,

Thank you so much for invitation to your visit your beautiful country Ireland.
I hope that you understand that I don't like a Polish food because it is very unhealthy.
With pleasure I always would like tasting all dishes and cuisine from the country which I would like visiting.
This Polish word which you use is not suit to this sentence, this word it means like a "jerk" rather.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Ps. Today was a firs day in Poland with a sun. I send you too this sun to your country