I would love to get into shape and join the coast guard! it's a goal of mine, just not working too hard at achieving it lol! i think it would be great though!

yeah im too flabby to be doing any kind of running lol

lol! I've never been able to run due to asthma, so i'm sure i'll never be qualified to join, even if i was in shape!

you have 2 options

1. meditation - learning to let go of attachments. (check out zen buddhism)

2. new girl(s) - redirecting your focus to other females. plenty of them are just as good or better as the ex you are obsessing over. (check out PUA stuff)

1. Never talk about it and it starts not to matter.

2. Hash House Harriers - Go laugh.

have sex with someone sexier, no not really, find that someone who is everything you liked about your ex and then some

I had the same problem -- tried to forget, went out with a few other girls who were either compulsive liars or who bored me half to death -- tried a bunch of dating sites (slightly LESS effective then nine small birds trapped in a hatbox) -- then one day she came BACK and showed up at my door and we straightened it all out.

The moral of the story is -- well, there is no moral to the story. Just that you never know what can happen.

when you lose something ..it means you will gain a lot...
failure is the first step to sucess..should keep trying...

ALL WINNERS CANT BE WINNERS FOR ALL TIME .ALL LOSERS CANT BE LOSERS FOR ALL TIME

go hook up with someone else..

sometimes it takes years, but things do happen for a reason, just date other girls, find one a little better, a little different, 6 months is not long enough to get over someone and the fact that she cut you off makes it harder to get over, it's like having heroin and going cold turkey, so much pain, but you will get thru, find anyway, talk on here, keep talking, it will fade, and don't keep asking why, it was meant to be, god has other plans for you. really he does

aw thanks that was sweet if you to say. talking on here auctually helps a great deal. at least i know im not alone

well sweety Desi says its not good getting involved with some1 else wen you not done with the pain of the last, you need to be just about you for now surround yourself with friends and family do thing that you enjoyed before her if she caused all that pain she wasnt for you any whoo. you dont want to date too soon cause rebounds never workout an you can end up hurting some1 in the end an you shouldnt want any1 to feel that same pain your feeling now...so take time out for you sweety you will see jah will send an angel for you....

as much as I try to move on myself, It just tears my heart apart that she's not around. It's different for me. We still talk everyday. We were long distance love. This one is different than any other i've had. The love is so intense. I pray everyday. I keep getting the same answer. Patient but steady. I believe we will be together again soon and for good. But I have every reason to believe so. She is young and confused but one thing is clear. She loves me and is a little scared of commitment. I would let her go otherwise.

how does that saying go? If you truely love something let it go, if it comes back, then it was meant to be.

I never understood that until recently. It's still a hard concept to grasp, but it is so true! By granting youself the willingness to let something go, allows you to cherish it so much more if it comes back!

While this is not specifically a behavior practiced by females (males do it as well) you were being used. I swear to you I know how you feel, but I can also tell something that might help. Play it out--look out a year from now, five years from now, 20 years....ask yourself: "What would it be like and how much more hurt would I have felt if I'd stayed?" In other words, there is absolutely NO good outcome, save for the one she gave you. If she was in it for her, and you were a sideline attraction, you were going to get owned. Everyone who has responded to you is saying the same thing. What looks bad now will, in time, look very different. You took a fall, and that sucks, but don't think it doesn't matter how you fall--because as someone once pointed out: "When the fall is all that's left, it very much matters." In other words, keep your self-respect, dignity, and learn from this. Good luck man.

-Drew

Would that be fair to the "new chick"?? What if the "new chick" became emotionally attached and he had nothing to offer because he was still attached to the "old chick"?? Just an "Old Man's" opinion..

dude u think thats bad i got married january 20th 2007 got seperated 7 mths plus after. negtiating the divorce. i did'nt get married to get divorced, but i way over that controlling pyscho.

Pretty many of us are on here with broken hearts...this may make you smile....Two different guys e-mailed me. One said that I resemble Carol Burnette the other said Frenchy on Grease

Nothing against those two ladies but guys? Please don't tell women they resemble someone.

Unfortunately there is no magical cure for heartbreak, other than time. It doesn't make it any easier for you, but you have really poured out your feelings here, including baring your soul in those lyrics and you are on your way, my friend. It may be overly simplifying things, but I will share what has gotten me this far in life through a lot of grief and that is a sense of humor and exercise. When you feel the LEAST like doing it, put one foot in front of the other, put the tunes in your ear and WALK. You don't have to run, unless you just feel it. Pump that iron, lift that bale..... It will not magically cure things, but the renewed energy and self-esteem will do wonders. ****, now I sound like Richard Freakin Simmons. I just wanted to share what has helped me. But, I disagree about finding someone else will magically make it all better. It just drags someone else in for comparison. Wait until you are over her, THEN go for it!! Good luck, and I know how you feel. Immerse yourself in creativity....it was times like these that created some of the world's great music!

wow thanks man i appreciate that