Is it possible to fall in love with two people at the same time?
How would you choose the one?

We are allowed to fall in love with up to 4 simultaneously

But imagine two of the opposite sex pursuing you? Both have amazing attributes....
What do you do???

Is it possible to fall in love with two people at the same time?

Depends on what type of "love" you mean.
If you're referring to the biological process of pair bonded romantic love, then kinda sort of.
It's a process. You can develop along the process a couple people at the same time.
Most people don't really understand the process they're going through, only its emotional effects. They then translate that through their biased personality/ identity.
The ultimate purpose of the pair bonded biological process of love is procreation. Eventually it's going to cause pair bonding to one.

Otherwise what most people do is compartmentalize, relegate, rationalize, and delude themselves they "love" more than 1.
Sometimes they love neither, only themselves, they only want the benefit of the relationship(s), so they manipulate their own emotions to make themselves feel they are in love (or simply label their emotions as love, and then choose behavior they think validates the idea they want to be true), then use that to manipulate the other(s) to stick around.

Mostly they "love" (in some manner) one person, but don't want to lose the (emotional/mental/physical/social) benefits of the relationship with another.
So they make it (the relegated to lesser status in reality) out to be more than it is in order to motivate to keep it going.


The negative consequences of "loving more than one person at a time" is that to the 1 person who "loves" the other none of the relationships will last without the others, a problem or change in one relationship will affect the other.
Relationships aren't absolutely static where you get a popup that explains everything and get an obvious warning or option to fix it handed to you before small changes/problems become major and you can quarantine one from affecting anything while you "fix it."

A small change in one, leads to a big change in another, which then reflects even greater change back. It "resonates" due to the stress of juggling.

There's a reason why people set up "harems," or "just friends."
Shallow relationships, people niched into what they provide.
Side chicks, gamer chick, handyman, bug killer, drinking buddies, forum pals.

From a biological objective standpoint, you can't develop the same depth of (romantic) "love" for more than one person.

From a subjective personal standpoint you can delude yourself into believing you are unique and special and better than everyone in that you can "love" more than one person, and then choose behavior that you identify as showing/proving "love," for a short while or in spurts. The more shallow that relationship is, the longer you can keep it going.

Depends on what type of "love" you mean.
If you're referring to the biological process of pair bonded romantic love, then kinda sort of.
It's a process. You can develop along the process a couple people at the same time.
Most people don't really understand the process they're going through, only its emotional effects. They then translate that through their biased personality/ identity.
The ultimate purpose of the pair bonded biological process of love is procreation. Eventually it's going to cause pair bonding to one.

Otherwise what most people do is compartmentalize, relegate, rationalize, and delude themselves they "love" more than 1.
Sometimes they love neither, only themselves, they only want the benefit of the relationship(s), so they manipulate their own emotions to make themselves feel they are in love (or simply label their emotions as love, and then choose behavior they think validates the idea they want to be true), then use that to manipulate the other(s) to stick around.

Mostly they "love" (in some manner) one person, but don't want to lose the (emotional/mental/physical/social) benefits of the relationship with another.
So they make it (the relegated to lesser status in reality) out to be more than it is in order to motivate to keep it going.


The negative consequences of "loving more than one person at a time" is that to the 1 person who "loves" the other none of the relationships will last without the others, a problem or change in one relationship will affect the other.
Relationships aren't absolutely static where you get a popup that explains everything and get an obvious warning or option to fix it handed to you before small changes/problems become major and you can quarantine one from affecting anything while you "fix it."

A small change in one, leads to a big change in another, which then reflects even greater change back. It "resonates" due to the stress of juggling.

There's a reason why people set up "harems," or "just friends."
Shallow relationships, people niched into what they provide.
Side chicks, gamer chick, handyman, bug killer, drinking buddies, forum pals.

From a biological objective standpoint, you can't develop the same depth of (romantic) "love" for more than one person.

From a subjective personal standpoint you can delude yourself into believing you are unique and special and better than everyone in that you can "love" more than one person, and then choose behavior that you identify as showing/proving "love," for a short while or in spurts. The more shallow that relationship is, the longer you can keep it going.

Really fall in love? Not for me, nope. I really fall in love and then there's no room for another.

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