Is it possible to fall in love with two people at the same time?
How would you choose the one?

We are allowed to fall in love with up to 4 simultaneously

lol that's easy. wait for the inevitable nervous breakdown. And see if either still wants you.

Yes, but you would want one more than the other. So choose the one you want more!!

Good to know 🤫

I generally try to avoid such situations.

But, I suppose it happens.

Really fall in love? Not for me, nope. I really fall in love and then there's no room for another.

To be honest, I think you can only develop feelings for 2 people if you hold back on some level, don't dare to fully open your heart, afraid to get hurt, don't dare to commit and fully go for something, and so on.

As Toodygirl says, you simply choose one.
And you choose so as not to make 3 people unhappy.

Flip a coin

But imagine two of the opposite sex pursuing you? Both have amazing attributes....
What do you do???

Two?
Means they're options.
A disservice to both.

Choose a priority.

Date both until you know for sure which one truly makes your heart sing. And maybe in time you find neither will... Anything is possible, just enjoy in the moment.

Depends on what type of "love" you mean.
If you're referring to the biological process of pair bonded romantic love, then kinda sort of.
It's a process. You can develop along the process a couple people at the same time.
Most people don't really understand the process they're going through, only its emotional effects. They then translate that through their biased personality/ identity.
The ultimate purpose of the pair bonded biological process of love is procreation. Eventually it's going to cause pair bonding to one.

Otherwise what most people do is compartmentalize, relegate, rationalize, and delude themselves they "love" more than 1.
Sometimes they love neither, only themselves, they only want the benefit of the relationship(s), so they manipulate their own emotions to make themselves feel they are in love (or simply label their emotions as love, and then choose behavior they think validates the idea they want to be true), then use that to manipulate the other(s) to stick around.

Mostly they "love" (in some manner) one person, but don't want to lose the (emotional/mental/physical/social) benefits of the relationship with another.
So they make it (the relegated to lesser status in reality) out to be more than it is in order to motivate to keep it going.


The negative consequences of "loving more than one person at a time" is that to the 1 person who "loves" the other none of the relationships will last without the others, a problem or change in one relationship will affect the other.
Relationships aren't absolutely static where you get a popup that explains everything and get an obvious warning or option to fix it handed to you before small changes/problems become major and you can quarantine one from affecting anything while you "fix it."

A small change in one, leads to a big change in another, which then reflects even greater change back. It "resonates" due to the stress of juggling.

There's a reason why people set up "harems," or "just friends."
Shallow relationships, people niched into what they provide.
Side chicks, gamer chick, handyman, bug killer, drinking buddies, forum pals.

From a biological objective standpoint, you can't develop the same depth of (romantic) "love" for more than one person.

From a subjective personal standpoint you can delude yourself into believing you are unique and special and better than everyone in that you can "love" more than one person, and then choose behavior that you identify as showing/proving "love," for a short while or in spurts. The more shallow that relationship is, the longer you can keep it going.

You are such a romantic.

I agree with the ciretom but without the condescension.

It is within the capacity of a person to love two or more people at the same time but in different ways and at different depths.
Think of mom & dad, siblings and your children.
The love you feel is real but unique for each relationship.
Its not a 'one love fits all' kinda thing.
You probably don't love your mom & dad the same as you love yer brother and sister or son and daughter. You probably feel love for each but as much as you might think it is equal/the same, it is not.

Before I was married I loved two young ladies at the same time.
In my heart, I knew I needed to make a choice and after much deliberation I did and never gave it another thought till I found out 25 years later I chose poorly.

As much as we may try, we really can't see the future.
We all change constantly.
I suspect either of my choices might have failed because I committed myself based on what I felt at the time and failed to consider life changes that could occur over time.

Had I chosen differently, I might still be married or I might have ended the marriage earlier while I was healthy enough to endure such a life change.
I did have a good marriage for the most part. What I realized though was I was seeing it thru my own rose-colored glasses.

My advice is pretty common here.
Choose Wisely

Does that have anything to do with freesomes?

This!

I wound up with plenty of heartache after one never mind two ,if ever a lady enters my life again it is just one, my heart is not designed for splitting and my head even less , what if these two lovers also have two lovers each ? And so on