For me I prefer a relationship with a guy around my own age. If a younger guy chases me I think why are you interested in me? In 20 years time I'm going to be a wrinkled old woman. I want someone who will grow old with me and we'll still be able to connect when we're in our 80s and 90s. Not some guy who is just reaching middle age and looking at some 30 or 40 year old and then leaving me at home in my wheelchair.

Hahaha, I tend to exclude a number of sunsigns and Chin. astrology years
And I know it's not that black & white, but life has proved certain signs to always have certain tendencies that do not resonate with me.

<-- Gemini / year of the monkey

Both my Western and Chinese sign have a natural 'nemesis' that comes with it. Ain't it grand...
I believe in both cases they are the worst astrological matches possible. I can tell from experience this is true. But I don't attract them into my life a lot so generally it isn't a problem.

My rising is Gemini :)

I'm Taurus sun, I'm hoping for a great Tiger, possibly Leo. For some reason the default Taurus signs don't work so well for me.
Tiger & Horse is a good combi :)

I tend to attract airheads... I mean aries.
It's like a torment for a past existence.

Over 50 for me if I ever were to get involved ,I just assume young women are after what you have and not attracted to your looks or body

I don't really know many Aries to be honest. It's funny how it works that you just don't get certain signs in your life, or not often.
Of course you don't know everyone's sign but still. I often end up with Capricorn for best friends. But I doubt this would work in a relationship. As such, I've never really come across a Capri date, or male even.
I never have that spark with them, but deep friendship, yes!
Hardly ever any Pisces either.

I like a man who's going for maturity :)

Apart from what I stated I don't even look twice or fantasise about younger girls,

hi

Nice!

I've had older but prefer younger, and women my age never wanted me so forget them. Younger are silly, but have energy and passion (if misguided), youthful charm, and are fun, and want to do things, other than gardening and chatting about ailments.
Growing old together - no one is going to do that with me anyway.
Wanting my stuff - if I die happy they are welcome to it.
Feeling insecure about the inevitable dumping, or possible cheating is hard.
Short attention spans are annoying.
Not quite so deep but still meaningful.
Mature is nice, but smooth firm wrinkle free is very nice.
I've seen some awesomely hot gilfs as well.

Because people are raised (socialized, indoctrinated) and gain experience which creates, evolves, strengthens, biases they use to deconstruct, categorize, compartmentalize, and label what they identify leads to fulfilling what is desired, its relative cost, and how to shift the ratio (benefit to cost), especially through rationalizing.


Don't understand why.
There are a lot of studies, textbooks, reference and self help books, not to mention innumerable dating and general website forums asking/answering the question.


You want to re-enact the "great taste! Less filling!" or "you got your peanut butter on my chocolate! You got your chocolate in my peanut butter!" commercials?

Commonly spouted on internet forums is something like "Insanity: Doing the same thing repeatedly expecting different results." Of course there's also the saying "if at first you don't succeed, try, try, again." And then you can go down the rabbit hole of "Do, or do not. There is no try."


I/we live in a society.


How do you know?
Do you know of a test you can give to other people that proves they are "really" in love, and the results can't be faked in any way, that you can take with you and feel comfortable making everyone you encounter take it?


Neither? Both? People aren't 2 static variables in either/or situations?

Because they are serious about what they want and dont waste time with undesition, etc..

Because they are not silly and they know what they want plus they dont waste your time, etc...

I am most interested in men about my age or a little older. I think we would relate more to each other and similar ideas. Guys become more attractive in their 40's and 50's anyway.

But but but I'm a Leo.....

I always dated younger, several times, much younger. I think musical
interests were the initial part of the attraction. But, now, if I were to
date, I think I’d be looking for someone in the same stage of life.
Retire early and have some fun :)

I have no idea what your are referring to in the light of what I really said? In your stated case the goals then might not match, not many people in their seventies (at least that I know) still want to have children. Then they will look for someone that doesn't want children either. So again, there has to be matching goals/lifestyles etc. - and that you can find matching up even in some larger age gaps (nobody is talking about 50-60 year age gaps, but even that happens, whatever works for them).

It is none of my business, but I actually made an error in my typing. It was supposed to say because you are 50,(not 71), when your grown children need you you could be too old or have passed. Is not responsible parenting being there for them?
You do not need to answer, it is your personal choice. Yet as a mother, I know my daughter still needs me and wants me to be active and capable, when she has children. God bless you irregardless. Shalom.