AMEN TO THAT!!!!!

reasons? or excuses?

I can tell you that none of these describe me. Maybe that is because I will not cheat. I have been on the receiving end of that crap too many times. Revenge is not good ... two wrongs do not make a right. You just need to end it and move on if you are wanting to cheat.

Everything you list is about sex. Sex is a big part but not everything.

You forgot Borderline Personality Disorder.. I love you I hate you Come here Leave me. Back and forth and it leads to cheating.

How about f*ing Vanity and attention.

My ex had both conditions and she was a repeat offender.

I cheated many years ago and it was because my wife at the time didn't want intimate relations at all. I didn't understand it as everything in life was soooo cool... new home, had great kids, money comin' in.... but she wouldn't get together with me any longer..... Soooooo eventually I ran out of patience and I fell for someone who had "Life" in them. My ex in 10 years after the divorce has never dated anyone. Not one person. She's still lifeless.

I had very young kids and my needs were not being met by the wife. It was real tough to know that I would be exiting a part of my childrens lives not to be able to come home to them.

I wasn't being disrespectful.... per se.... I was at my wits end and my need for intimacy was essential to my sanity.

Selfish??? Well don't we all have needs that must be selfish but they are considered normal?

Self Control??? I waited for 1 year....and it wasn't the only year I waited patiently. I think that is more than enough Self Control in a relationship. I left after I was with another woman but it was a difficult time.

Never cheated again though! She used that as the reason for our relationship problem when, in fact, it had nothing to do with the problem whatsoever.

Someone cheating? who? why!

and what i'm saying is you coulda left first instead of cheating but you chose not to.

I can only speak from my own experience...My ex told me that if I didn't care enough about her (love?) to worship her and do what she wanted, when she wanted, then she could get it somewhere else...I wish her and her five previous ex-husbands the best of times (I was her third and seventh)(I'm not too bright either!) Most of the women I have met are so insecure in themselves that they need a man (or another woman) to make them feel whole and worthwhile...neurosis and psychosis abounds in both of the sexes. Physical, emotional and psychological abuse and neglect is like a plague on society. "It is better to go through life alone, than to be with someone you can't trust or respect". Now that I've PO'ed just about everyone...Have a Merry Christmas!!!

There is no excuse for cheating, bottom line. If you are unhappy enough to cheat, you should have already ended the relationship

Yeah but the manner in which it is stated makes me out to be the bad guy "Disrespectful, Selfish, and No- Self Control."

I am very well known by my freinds to be extremely respectful, generous, and normal behavioral controls.

You can label me for one act for one day or even a couple of weeks but it doesn't take into account the "WHOLE" life I had led and lead now.

I was shocked when I found out the marriage I worked so hard for was failing. It was a real heartbreaker to learn that my ex hid personality traits until after we were married and had kids.

Luckly I have always had a key to the home and see my kids any time I want. Essentially my divorse worked out better than anyone I know.

Didn't PO me. I understand cheating. Don't agree with it but completely understand it. I don't ever expect to do it again and I have been tested several times already and passed with flying colors. I tell others who are cheating to consider other means of resolving problems. In my situation I requested counseling for me and the wife. She told me I should go to counseling by myself because I was nuts. She refused because she knew the counselor would tell her that she was wrong. Simple as that.

Still looking for a woman I can trust to be who she says she is and appears to be! Haven't found one yet but my freinds have so there is hope!

The ONLY time I EVER cheated was when a guy cheated on me first, plus I was about to dump him anyway and just wanted to show him how it felt. I would never do it again cus its just not me, but it definately left an impression on him.

very true and funny

great answer. I couldn't have put it better myself.

I dont put this on only women cause i think its a mutual thing on why people cheat. They feel like they found somethin better and their willing to risk what they have to just see if it might be better

I have done the whole cheating thing and believe me once a cheater NOT always a cheater.