Seems to be just another rant against getting unwanted messages from uninteresting men. It's the internet! Delete, block, and move on with life.

I read it and reacted to my interpretation of what it was about. Like I said in my next post I missed your telling the poster to reread it. After I reread it, I was able to see what you were saying, not what it triggered in me... which touched a sore spot that caused me to read it differently.

And yes, I agree with you. Men seem to want what they can't have... I see it also in women too, at least me... I tend to pick the ones that don't want me.




Please accept my apology. It's a good post, I just didn't read it correctly.

I believe it's part of our human nature to want things we can't have. Especially when it comes to someone we're interested in. Maybe it has to do with feeling rejected so there's a need to "win" that person over? Or it's an ego thing?

i've been there and done that to my own misery

but just looking at your quiz...


ok maybe she'll like my beard i'll show it to her

note to self don't be pushy about massages.

no he doesn't think that's a direct rejection(you didn't hit him with a brick then slam the door)
you set the bar he needs to reach to go forward

usually yes he has to feel some level of desire to chase and "capture"
to keep going and sometimes his emotional infatuation overrides his logical understanding so in typical linear bullheaded guy fashion he keep on

Crystal, I genuinely enjoy reading your
opinions.

Your topics and posts, are quite informative
and full of insight.

We all have our own personal view on
researchers. You have yours, I have mine, etc...

My view, is, the researchers cited, did as many
other researchers do. They tried to stuff everyone,
neatly into boxes. It's convenient, it's tidy, and,
it makes their task easier.

As to your email issue, with a certain type of man.
Once you've clearly rejected someone, the "chase"
is officially over. The occasional butthurt rants from
the rejected butthurt wannabe suitors, is just butthurt
rant.

Most guys always chase tail...

Still no explanation if that isn't what you mean...(What Riverspirit1111 said)..then what does *this* you wrote mean?

"What they say, men like the chase, it shouldn't be too easy.
And yes, this is still true, with masculine energy men at least, which is the kind of guy I want.
You do of course got to give a sign, the equivalent of dropping the lacy handkerchief.

But... Abraham Hicks says "The less you care -or show you care- the more they are interested."
Dating coaches say this too btw, referring to the fact you shouldn't be needy."

It's a great topic, and depending on what experiences we've had, and what variance of the topic, There might eventually be a possible subtle variance of an age old behavior bent toward the beginning of better communication figured out, to more of what is desired or steered to, with possibly more appreciation and less and or slower chase between the individuals...... or... maybe not.

The only thing that I chase is . . .

At this point in my life, you play hard to get, I lose all interest. Not worth wasting my time on. Women and their subtle hints = failed communications!!

Dead on.
Time is too short for silly, 'Catch me if you can games.
He or she is interested, introduce, go have coffee and talk.
If, there's a click, set up a lunch date and go from there.
I've even invited no-clicks to go hang out for lunch. One of my no-clicks is a trusted friend.

I’ve never run into these quizzes Crystal, but then again, I’m only on mingle2,
but simply by responding to a quiz must send a signal you’re interested,
at least to the point of taking time to do the quiz.

I know some women who enjoy being chased, but have no interest in an
actual relationship. And men who play uninterested, move along.
Some people need to just grow up and quit it with the silly head games.

There's an oldie but a goodie.

A young bull and an old bull are on a hill top over looking a heard of cows.

Young bull says, "lets run down there and do one of em!"

Old bull says, "lets just WALK down there and do ALL of em."

Quizzes are not accurate. People write B S. Not all men are the same.
Some have score boards, some have scars.

After a lifetime of chasing and rejection, I'll drop you like a hot potato at the first sign of rejection. No time left to waste. Got to keep looking.
"just friends" is OK for a little while, but again, no time left to waste.

I may be just friends if I'm not attracted to you but do like you, but then you may be disappointed if you really are/become attracted to me.

If I want time wasting rejection I'll do it properly and ask out the most impossibly beautiful girl, fully expecting the usual answer. And always get it so far.
One day she will say yes.

My quiz: would I ? (yes I would)
Any remote possibility ? (probably not)
is a ring on finger ? (seems like no)
impediments and detractions (kids, BF, etc)? (unknown)
Distance ? (massive and insurmountable)
Does it look worth further investigation or asking ? (remotely possible)
Do I have the guts to ask right now ? (no - maybe one day)

And a new one: do I have to see this woman often after the rejection. (only on line)

I asked a local supermarket lady, who was most unkind, and I had to avoid her 'till I moved away. My 'perfect partner' was only skin deep.

The 'heart' is not really amenable to quizzes.
To live is to suffer highs and lows. Not much a better rollercoaster than falling in love and being stabbed in the heart. Makes you FEEL alive.
But makes you question staying alive sometimes.