This is so peculiar, and knowing what I know it isn't, but seeing it really work is sure great...
I'll explain...

What they say, men like the chase, it shouldn't be too easy.
And yes, this is still true, with masculine energy men at least, which is the kind of guy I want.
You do of course got to give a sign, the equivalent of dropping the lacy handkerchief.

But... Abraham Hicks says "The less you care -or show you care- the more they are interested."
Dating coaches say this too btw, referring to the fact you shouldn't be needy.

Now this: On a dating site you can fill out quizzes, you can make your own too.
I have noticed many times when I am NOT in the slightest interested but do answer the quiz, the men always want to talk to me.
EXAMPLE
Q- Do you like beards?
My Answer -not really, I'd have to see it.
Q- Do you like massages like me?
My Answer: every now and then is okay, as long as it hasn't got great emphasis.

To me that is almost direct rejection, "I don't like what you have or want" yet... he adds me immediately and wants to talk?

Not the first time I have noticed this.
I'm clearly not enthused about it all, yet he seems to be triggered by it?

And then they say women are difficult to understand

"The less you care -or show you care- the more they are interested."

If someone acts like they could care less whether they talk to me/ have an interest in me/ want to go out with or spend time with me....then it's NEXT.

I want someone who is JUST as interested in getting to know me as *I* am them.

I like the chase?
No, I don't.

Somewhere between daytime talkshows,
and "reality" tv, the act of courting has
been turned into a farce.

I don't chase at all, and yes woman are very difficult to understand

Sounds like silly games to me

Maybe it gets easier if you start chasing

Games. Maybe read again?
It's about a woman giving clear signal "not interested" and guys trying to engage regardless.
Not unlike PMing back to a guy on Mingle, directly saying not interested in a polite fashion. What that gets a girl: the guy thinks it's a clue to engage.

Men and women are animals, and animals take off after other
animals at the first sign of refusal, or running away.
Instinctively.
So being polite does not turn that off.
They become deaf and blind.
They will chase, you will run.
Such is life.

Sorry I thought we were talking about ladies , not teeny bobbers, They are not even grown and they want to show you what they got . What ever happen to being a angel during the date and the devil after you all get along ??

Lol.

Flight or fright...
I tend to stand like a statue and hope bushes hide me.

So what I'm hearing is I'm to play hard to get, but not too hard... treat him like I could care less and don't need or want him... but on the same token, have plenty of handkerchiefs to drop in his path.

Reminds me of a cat and mouse game or like the "nice guy" who finishes last because he's not a stereotypical manly man. Guess I will be the one who finishes last or be alone for the remainder of my life because I refuse to play that game. It's not in my nature to do that so if I did, I wouldn't be being me.

Sorry Crystal, I get what you're saying and respect your opinion and point of view, along with the dating experts... but that stuff doesn't sit well with me. I do see it though, some women treat men badly, or hard to get and the men fall all over them... and vise versa. It frustrates the heck out of me because it's not in me to do that... and I don't want to resort to that to snag a man. He either likes me the way I am, or he doesn't.

Haha, guess you touched a sore spot in me. Definitely food for thought! :)

I like the chase.
I also like catch and release.
Release them back into the wild.

Ah, I missed this when I posted my little rant... which I still hold to, haha. But I understand more what you're getting at now. I believe that happens because guys don't read signals very well, being more direct works better. Although I have found with the ones that have messaged me here, early on when I used to respond, that even politely saying I'm not interested doesn't work, they still engage thinking somehow I will change my mind for them. Ignoring them or blocking them seems to work better.

Animals eat each other

I do rescue relationships.
I take care of them until they can find Forever Homes

But.. you DID say:
"What they say, men like the chase, it shouldn't be too easy.
And yes, this is still true, with masculine energy men at least, which is the kind of guy I want.
You do of course got to give a sign, the equivalent of dropping the lacy handkerchief.

But... Abraham Hicks says "The less you care -or show you care- the more they are interested."
Dating coaches say this too btw, referring to the fact you shouldn't be needy."
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That doesn't sound at *all* like "Maybe read again?
It's about a woman giving clear signal "not interested" and guys trying to engage regardless.
Not unlike PMing back to a guy on Mingle, directly saying not interested in a polite fashion. What that gets a girl: the guy thinks it's a clue to engage."

Unless *I* am missing something?????

Have you actually READ my OP or are you just reacting to what you think it is about?
It's about how weird it is that men seem to want you when you don't want them. I'm not saying to play hard to get. I'm not playing hard to get, I'm not interested.

Oh well, never mind. No one seems to have read what it is about.

PS and that's not just you actually. So please don't take it personal, it isn't. I'm just unhappy everyone reads some interpretation that I wasn't talking about at all.
I'm sorry I even started this topic :(