How likely are you to make the first move?
If you're not likely to approach him, why not?

I will definitely make the first move. I am not patient enough to know if he is into me or not. It is good to know if I am wasting my time.
It is called "Time Management"

I used to and started to again, but discovered my picker's broke so I stopped.

Over the last couple years I seem to pick the ones that only want to be friends. So now I'm less likely to make the first move, although I may still give a subtle hint. I prefer that anyways and not just because I don't like rejection, though that is part of it, haha... I'm just a little more traditional when it comes to that sort of thing.

If I attracted I make the first move. Unfortunately unless you spell it out all in capital letters some don't get it.

I have done so in the past. For some reason I found it scary when a guy did approach me. I wondered about that for years on end.
As it is I can give a guy a smile, might say something, but it depends on context. I do, however, not do all of the work, which is what I tended to do when younger.
It's the same online. I might send a guy a teaser message, but that's where it ends.
21st century or not, men still want to feel it's their idea and want to feel they won a prize that they made effort for. Which is great cos being quite the feminine energy woman I like to be conquered :)

Hummm normally if we are both interested it just seems to fall in place...

I'm one that will talk to anyone.. for first ya got to make sure they are not married or taken.. before you make that move..

But yes I have made the first move at times...

Its possible the 'first move' may not be what you think it is?

People are subtle.
There are many degrees of subtleness which require receptive acknowledgement.
Sometimes the 'real' first move is not the actual first move but the first acknowledgement.

When a woman is interested in a man they give off hints.
Many can't understand those hints.


Queenie is right, in a way.

If you are in a room of people, you may get the feeling that some people like you, some people don't and some are indifferent. All without anyone saying anything about it.
We all read those subtle hints everytime we look at another person.
Some know it (positive confirmation) and some do not (just a feeling).
The better you know someone, the easier it is to understand the tells.
Thing is, you pick up on the tells even with strangers.
Everyone has them, its all a matter of being able to recognize them.

Once you see a tell you respond with your own.
This interaction can go on for indefinite periods of time until interest is lost or actual verbal contact is made.
That interacting period may be deliberate or reflexive.

I will wait for his initiative

Really

Very very cool.

I've always said that women know what they want. I have told many men while out, that most will approach them if they find them appealing.

I'm just glad they don't approach my ugly azz, for I....can't find my mouth to speak, then my sometimers kicks in.

Whatever I checked out your muscles, very attractive btw. The face is alluring too lol. But the third pic scared the bejeezus out of me. Is that you?

Thank you for the wonderful amazing compliments, I'm honored that they're positive...

Yes, the picture is of me. Sometimes when one goes after bad ones, in very bad areas in this world, it takes something worse. and I happened to be that worse.

I will and have, protected others that can't defend themselves with my bleeding breath but have learned also that I can't save or fix everything or sometimes anything. I'm just tired. There's just too much bad. I'm not superman.


And sad sometimes. Greed is the worst.... it seduces the opportunist and makes em bad, and makes already bad people really bad. it's getting rampant now, and getting worse.

same here

I don't make the first move anymore, even if I like a guy. I decided to stop dating.

I agree on both points. I like the way you think. It's now 2020!
I love it when I am approached. Some, I would have hated to miss. However, and it applies both ways, I will always reply with a "thank you, I am very flattered" response to 'all' approaches.
Where there is no interest on my side, I try to be as honest and respectful as I can be, and always wish them 'happiness and success in their search'.
Nobody needs to feel deflated or hurt.

Yep I like this kind of response

I approach him right away ! I let him know that I'm interested in him! Even if he rejects me. I'm forward to irresistible men.

I don't play games with men .