Topic: Holiday Depression?
SparklingCrystal ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’Ž's photo
Mon 12/02/19 11:16 AM

Sun exposure good for mental and physical health.

The ideal amount is 15 minutes of direct sunlight per day, or an equivalent amount of time from indirect sun or other UV light (but no more than 20 minutes of direct sunlight in one day, because this causes the skin to start to burn, even if imperceptibly),

ideally with maximum skin exposed such as with shorts and t-shirt that (human ancestors may have been half naked),

ideally during light exercise like walking.

Vitamin D3 (1000 to 4000 IU/day for an extended period of time) can also help since it is a vitamin produced by sun exposure.

Indeed Vit D3 and a daylight lamp if it's a problem. The sun outdoors isn't all that strong anymore during winter. Plus, during cold periods we wear woolly hats and gloves and to absorb the vitamines from sunlight our head and hands need to be exposed.
It's still good to go outdoors of course, but if you're troubled because of lack of light (I have that problem, very sensitive to light) you're better of with using a daylight lamp every day.

Rock's photo
Mon 12/02/19 11:22 AM
Me? Depressed? By anything? Ever?


Nah!

My mutts don't got time fo' dat.
They won't allow it.

no photo
Mon 12/02/19 04:06 PM
I don't think it has to do with lack of light. I think that during the holidays there are many people don't have a partner or family to be with.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Tue 12/03/19 11:42 AM
Edited by Tom4Uhere on Tue 12/03/19 11:46 AM
I've posted this before but some people might need it to help put the holiday blues in perspective.
Its called Right Now and can be found here:
http://www.appleseeds.org/right%2Dnow.htm

Right Now

Somebody is very proud of you.
Somebody is thinking of you.
Somebody is caring about you.
Somebody misses you.
Somebody wants to talk to you.
Somebody wants to be with you.
Somebody hopes you aren't in trouble.
Somebody is thankful for the support you have provided.
Somebody wants to hold your hand.
Somebody hopes everything turns out all right.
Somebody wants you to be happy.
Somebody wants you to find him/her.
Somebody is celebrating your successes.
Somebody wants to give you a gift.
Somebody thinks that you ARE a gift.
Somebody hopes you're not too cold, or too hot.
Somebody wants to hug you.
Somebody loves you.
Somebody admires your strength.
Somebody is thinking of you and smiling.
Somebody wants to be your shoulder to cry on.
Somebody wants to go out with you and have a lot of fun.
Somebody thinks the world of you.
Somebody wants to protect you.
Somebody would do anything for you.
Somebody wants to be forgiven.
Somebody is grateful for your forgiveness.
Somebody wants to laugh with you.
Somebody remembers you and wishes that you were there.
Somebody is praising God for you.
Somebody needs to know that your love is unconditional.
Somebody values your advice.
Somebody wants to tell you how much they care.
Somebody wants to share their dreams with you.
Somebody wants to hold you in their arms.
Somebody wants you to hold them in your arms.
Somebody treasures your spirit.
Somebody wishes they could stop time because of you.
Somebody praises God for your friendship and love.
Somebody can't wait to see you.
Somebody loves you for who you are.
Somebody loves the way you make them feel.
Somebody wants to be with you.
Somebody wants you to know they are there for you.
Somebody is glad that you're his/her friend.
Somebody wants to be your friend.
Somebody stayed up all night thinking about you.
Somebody is alive because of you.
Somebody is wishing that you noticed him/her.
Somebody wants to get to know you better.
Somebody wants to be near you.
Somebody misses your advice/guidance.
Somebody has faith in you.
Somebody trusts you.
Somebody needs you to send them this letter.
Somebody needs your support.
Somebody needs you to have faith in them.
Somebody will cry when they read this.
Somebody needs you to let them be your friend.
Somebody hears a song that reminds them of you.

IceCreeme's photo
Fri 12/13/19 01:05 PM
NO! I don't holiday blues, Just the opposite.. I love it when there are things going on.. I love the shopping... well even groceries.. I don't see the big deal in that ... why special cleaning.. I do special cleaning at least once a week, so no different...

I love the activities...
I enjoy and look forward to christmas and birthdays, easter etc.

I would get the 'blues' if I had nothing to do... LOL the more the merrier..

Cheers..

Raye Tan's photo
Fri 12/13/19 01:13 PM
How to use this one:sob:

Cutiepieforyou's photo
Fri 12/13/19 01:46 PM

I've posted this before but some people might need it to help put the holiday blues in perspective.
Its called Right Now and can be found here:
http://www.appleseeds.org/right%2Dnow.htm

Right Now

Somebody is very proud of you.
Somebody is thinking of you.
Somebody is caring about you.
Somebody misses you.
Somebody wants to talk to you.
Somebody wants to be with you.
Somebody hopes you aren't in trouble.
Somebody is thankful for the support you have provided.
Somebody wants to hold your hand.
Somebody hopes everything turns out all right.
Somebody wants you to be happy.
Somebody wants you to find him/her.
Somebody is celebrating your successes.
Somebody wants to give you a gift.
Somebody thinks that you ARE a gift.
Somebody hopes you're not too cold, or too hot.
Somebody wants to hug you.
Somebody loves you.
Somebody admires your strength.
Somebody is thinking of you and smiling.
Somebody wants to be your shoulder to cry on.
Somebody wants to go out with you and have a lot of fun.
Somebody thinks the world of you.
Somebody wants to protect you.
Somebody would do anything for you.
Somebody wants to be forgiven.
Somebody is grateful for your forgiveness.
Somebody wants to laugh with you.
Somebody remembers you and wishes that you were there.
Somebody is praising God for you.
Somebody needs to know that your love is unconditional.
Somebody values your advice.
Somebody wants to tell you how much they care.
Somebody wants to share their dreams with you.
Somebody wants to hold you in their arms.
Somebody wants you to hold them in your arms.
Somebody treasures your spirit.
Somebody wishes they could stop time because of you.
Somebody praises God for your friendship and love.
Somebody can't wait to see you.
Somebody loves you for who you are.
Somebody loves the way you make them feel.
Somebody wants to be with you.
Somebody wants you to know they are there for you.
Somebody is glad that you're his/her friend.
Somebody wants to be your friend.
Somebody stayed up all night thinking about you.
Somebody is alive because of you.
Somebody is wishing that you noticed him/her.
Somebody wants to get to know you better.
Somebody wants to be near you.
Somebody misses your advice/guidance.
Somebody has faith in you.
Somebody trusts you.
Somebody needs you to send them this letter.
Somebody needs your support.
Somebody needs you to have faith in them.
Somebody will cry when they read this.
Somebody needs you to let them be your friend.
Somebody hears a song that reminds them of you.



Thank you for posting. There are many people that are missing family members who have passed on and for other reasons are depressed this time of year. This is a nice read!

Tom4Uhere's photo
Sat 12/14/19 01:23 AM
Yeah, it kinda helps with holiday depression.
Makes ya think of everyone your life has touched.
Merry Christmas/Sweet Memories!

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/14/19 02:44 AM
All my brothers and sister get together in Australia, where they have moved to

That is hard for me, but they all hang out, go out all the time. Yes we are a close family.
I have had no desire to immigrate to Australia as I wanted to raise my daughter in New Zealand.
So without family here, my daughter and I used to buy junk food and watch videos all day, just chilling.
Being 21 now, she lives in a different town, but this year we are camping Xmas day and boxing day, the only days I could get off work.
Yes, I miss the big get togethers we had as kids and all the yummy food I won't be cooking.

joy1212's photo
Sat 12/14/19 02:51 AM
Hello pretty

no photo
Sat 12/14/19 03:09 AM
Edited by Unknow on Sat 12/14/19 03:20 AM
The last week has felt much like being on an emotional roller coaster. It could be holiday blues, or job stress, or the energy of the full moon and the year coming to an end... or a combination of all that. The anniversary of my son's suicide is also approaching, it happened a week before Christmas thirteen years ago. Since then, this time of year usually consists of a lot of flashbacks and other memories popping up... similar to your whole life flashing before your eyes.

@ Tom... The writing you posted, "Right Now" is beautiful and truly does help. Though when I first read it I found myself in tears and on a pity pot wondering where those people were, haha. They are there for sure!

Being one of those people who are vulnerable to emotional roller coaster rides and depression, I found it's helpful and vital to not entertain the negative thoughts that go through your mind when it happens. Simply let them pass, cry if you need to, write about it... that lessons the power it has over you, and laugh! Laugh even if you feel like crying, and even while you're crying. Might be best to do that in private though or with someone you feel safe with and trust, it could scare others into thinking you're a basket case, lol.

Anywho... one of my favorite expressions is "This too shall pass!". In this midst of emotional pain, that saying pisses me off, but in reality, it is so true!

Happy Holidays everyone! :heart: :angel: :heart:


Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/14/19 03:44 AM

The last week has felt much like being on an emotional roller coaster. It could be holiday blues, or job stress, or the energy of the full moon and the year coming to an end... or a combination of all that. The anniversary of my son's suicide is also approaching, it happened a week before Christmas thirteen years ago. Since then, this time of year usually consists of a lot of flashbacks and other memories popping up... similar to your whole life flashing before your eyes.

@ Tom... The writing you posted, "Right Now" is beautiful and truly does help. Though when I first read it I found myself in tears and on a pity pot wondering where those people were, haha. They are there for sure!

Being one of those people who are vulnerable to emotional roller coaster rides and depression, I found it's helpful and vital to not entertain the negative thoughts that go through your mind when it happens. Simply let them pass, cry if you need to, write about it... that lessons the power it has over you, and laugh! Laugh even if you feel like crying, and even while you're crying. Might be best to do that in private though or with someone you feel safe with and trust, it could scare others into thinking you're a basket case, lol.

Anywho... one of my favorite expressions is "This too shall pass!". In this midst of emotional pain, that saying pisses me off, but in reality, it is so true!

Happy Holidays everyone! :heart: :angel: :heart:




So sorry to hear about your son River. :rose::heart:

no photo
Sat 12/14/19 03:52 AM


So sorry to hear about your son River. :rose::heart:


Thank you Ladywind, I'm sorry for your loss as well. flowerforyou :heart: flowerforyou

Coldersky's photo
Sat 12/21/19 08:24 AM
Good morning love to all whom suffer
Yes it's real diagnosis like some folks have said some folks cannot get into all of this hoop la,I not taking about the real meaning like the birth of the christ
clild but things we can't control like the happy shoppers the anticipated of seeing loved one's well some folks don't have any loved ones left sad but true but yes that suffer you can can volunteer at soup kitchens, orphanages
Ring a bell, find a church and sing in the choir, be a grandparent. the food shelf
Get some fresh air it might not seem in your reach but it is been there done it all I am so thankful for what I have be it little or small the blessings are numerous I made new friends it's just something to ponder on when the blues come chase them away I'll keep you all in pray thanks that's why I am Coldersky:kissing_heart:๏ธ:heart_eyes:๏ธ:innocent:๏ธ:innocent:๏ธ:innocent:๏ธ:innocent:๏ธminus the halo Lol

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Sat 12/21/19 10:03 AM

I actually don't 'celebrate' any holiday anymore (not even birthdays).
To me, its just another day.

I do realize others make a big deal of them.
I can wish someone a Happy Thanxgiving, Merry Christmas or Happy Independence Day but I no longer need that boost.

I do not own any decorations, at all.
I do not sit and stare at other's decorations (unless they have art value).

I do watch seasonal movies but I watch the same movies anytime of year, when I feel like it.

I post horror movie lists for others at Halloween.
I post Christmas movies and music for others at Christmas.
http://ghostown.freeforums.net/thread/4162/christmas-movies-random-entries-limited
I post national pride movies at Independence Day.
I do this because I know it means a lot to some people.

I too no longer feed my depression.
I still get the blues from time to time but everyone gets the blues.
http://ghostown.freeforums.net/thread/3903/

Your serenity is always your choice.
It may seem impossible to beat the blues but it is all a matter of how you look at things.
The holidays can give you a reason to feel sorry for yourself.
If you feed it.
The trick is, stop feeding your depression.
Stop allowing it to have power over you.
If you can't have Happy Holidays, settle for just holidays or just another day.


That's me..
Even as a kid I was not a big fan of holidyas...always seemed to me a big build up to a let down..
Now, mind you, as a kid we had great/ good Christmases (by societies standard), so..that isn't it..it is *exactly* what I said...all hoo-hah and festivity..then ..pfft....

When I was married/ partnered, it was OK....I could get enthused for my spouse/ partner.

Now, as a widow with no living family (was an only child, no siblings..parents been dead for years)..I really have come to dread the holidays..all the family stuff and togetherness and so forth is pushed in one's face..in commercials..movies (which I avoid)..etc..

Yes, I have done the volunteering thing..and got so sick (flu) *both* times, so..not doing that again.

I am not a Scrooge or Grinch, as people like to say I am (because, who doesn't just luuuuuuv the holidays).
I don't care if others celebrate...I wouldn't say they are wrong..both those didn't want others to have a good time..
*Me* not being interested myself does NOT affect *you* (the generic you)

*I* personally just would rather hibernate like a bear from Nov. 1st to January 7th (need to miss Epiphany as well):thumbsup:

Mariel's photo
Sat 12/21/19 02:15 PM
Yeah, sometimes, it depends how lonely you feel i guess.

notbeold's photo
Sat 12/21/19 04:27 PM
My depression kicks in at the end of holidays, when I have to go back to work, and slave for peanuts for my psychopathic boss, and listen to his B.S. and get cut and crushed and strained and exposed to chemicals and dust and sharp objects and boring co-workers and incompetent office staff and government inspector bureaucrats and rats and mice in the lunch room and I could go on and on.
But I'm on holidays now, and don't give a rats A' about work right now.

Ladywind7's photo
Sun 12/22/19 12:48 AM
Bump.

Favour's photo
Sun 12/22/19 01:19 AM
Edited by Favour on Sun 12/22/19 01:20 AM
Always try enjoy your own company no matter what, For you to do that you got to love and appreciate you. If you do that people will also be able to love you and apprentice you to.
If you want to be among people and its not possible try go visit a children home. Those kids are amazing and by the time you going home you will be able joyous happy person.

Ladywind7's photo
Sun 12/22/19 01:59 AM

Always try enjoy your own company no matter what, For you to do that you got to love and appreciate you. If you do that people will also be able to love you and apprentice you to.
If you want to be among people and its not possible try go visit a children home. Those kids are amazing and by the time you going home you will be able joyous happy person.


Nice words. In the West it would be impossible to visit a children's home. (Can't have stranger's turning up to visit children these days).
Do you mean an orphanage?