ive recently started chatting to a girl on this site...her personality is unbelievable..shes so open and honest..kind hearted and unique. i think ive found a gem...i think finding someone like this is very difficult..she must ne one in a million...maybe more...what are your opinions on girls personalities on here

That's very subjective. It rather depends on who everyone is looking for. One person's character trait may be attractive to some and a total turn off for others.

I agree with Delightful.

I also wonder why you're asking about other women's personalities? The only personalities that matters here is the one of the woman you're getting to know right now.

Good point River

Welcome on here

I'ym speshul... I lick a really short bus, drive windows, uphill, both ways, in reverse, in the snow, with 150 degree heat, 100 miles around a single block and the neighbors are concerned, but not worried.

You don't really get an idea of a persons personality on here, on the internet.

That only really comes over time, with direct interaction over time, in different circumstances and environments, with different stress levels.

At best, online, you get a glimpse of certain characteristics which you interpret cause or motivation for through your own bias and decide whether or not you want to continue simple shallow communication with them, the cost of continuing interaction.


What you mostly encounter online is posturing and facades. The things people use to shield their personalities, and use to manipulate your perceptions so you will see them a certain way, for their own benefit.


You ever see people that look "abnormal" so to speak? Lots of tattoos, maybe a brightly colored mohawk, piercings, clothes that are "inappropriate" in some way?

Some people go out and specifically get those things to cultivate a look, to get you to see them a certain way, because they want to be perceived a certain way.
Other people it's a natural extension of their environment, of their social group and culture which they've responded to. If they were friends or grew up in a different neighborhood or "class," their appearance would be something completely different.

Online you don't get their personality. You just get the verbal equivalent of their appearance, the tattoo's, piercings, mohawks, whatever.

You need to spend time with them face to face, interacting with them in different environments, in different conditions to figure out what's "underneath" that.

All you ever interact with online is an avatar. You have no "real" context by which to measure.

If you never meet them in person, it doesn't really matter. You can tell yourself that's their "real" personality, you can come to "like" or "love" them. And as long as you don't really interact with them in real life, you will never know that it's just a shallow facade.

You can't "get to know" someone until you experience first hand how they react to things they have no real control over, or things which force them to choose behavior.


A persons "personality" is just a persons emotional association network brought forth into conscious reality and behavior.
What makes them feel a certain way, why, to what degree, and what they do about it.

Online you can't see how they really react, how they really respond to their feelings, or know what's really triggering that emotion.
All you get is words, which may or may not be true, and you have no real feedback to determine what's really going on, and can't really rely on your built in systems like reading body language, or getting immediate feedback as they can choose to respond or express whenever they want to, not when it's actually relevant.


The only thing you get online is the "personality" they push on you in order to facilitate getting what they want from you, even if they don't realize that's what it is.

I have no real opinion on "girls personalities on here" because on here they aren't real.
It's not real until you actually meet in person and start dating.
Even then, it takes time to figure out what their personality actually is.
And even even then, what you figure out is their "personality" is going to be different than how they see themselves.

So good luck with that.

Very nicely said Tom....

great reply...started reading it an hour ago..just finished...i agree with you and disagree at the same time..i think people can be real on here without being face to face..obviously youre going to get alot of fakes as well...but im talking about a needle in a hay stack here..its a lucky thing when you actually can find an open and honest person.

I think you can tell some things about a person after chatting online for awhile. Of course you learn much more in person but this is a place to start.

i was just wondering about other peoples experiences on here when chatting..i wondered is it easy or hard to connect with other people realisticly online and can you judge the conversations you have by the replies that are received..

Indeed!

Chatting online yeah, smalltalk and stuff. But when things get serious, I prefer to look the other person into the eyes.

yeah..thats a great point

You say she is honest . Have you confirmed she is real and what she is telling you is legitimate . The online world is full of deception . Do you consider yourself gullible at all ???

So, who is she?

Learning about someone online is very two-dimensional, to really know someone
you need to spend some three-dimensional time together. Otherwise, you tend to
fall for the person you’ve imagined them to be.

You've only been on here for a few days, so be careful.

hi blondey...we all have that ptoblem when chatting to anyone online..but within conversations you can sense things...i always go with my gut feeling..usually thats good enough x