Why is it that when you are on a site and finally get up the nerve to message someone that you feel comfortable about, they don't answer. Even a no thanks is better than nothing. Sorrry but I just think it 's rude. Everyone says how nice they are and caring etc. but don't show it when they don't message back. I guess it takes to long to say sorry , good luck elswhere ?

i think some people feel uncomfortable rejecting someone hun and some people dont know how to take no thanx and carry on emailing regardless

Just shake it off & move on my friend.
Sometimes it is just a time thing.
Don't take it personal.
Welcome to the family.

Some are not sure how to word not interested nicely and are afraid of hurting others feelings. Just keep emailing those who capture your interest and get active here in the forums, give people a chance to know you through your responses on the forums

Fairasea,

One thing I've found that is really helpful on here is the Mutual Match section. Its a great starting point to ensure that the people you communicate with you ate least start on somewhat of common grounds.

This is a fairly large ocean and there's many fish. And if this site is similar to many other sites then the ratio of guys to girls is quite high. As such I'm sure the people you are writing are probably bombarded with E-Mails and it makes it difficult to respond to all of them.

I'm sure not replying is nothing personal, please don't let it get to you and above all don't let it discourage you from trying again until you find what you are looking for and that person is looking for you as well.

Remember the true power of the internet, and online personals is the sheer volume of people you can reach. If you only connect with 0.1% percent of the people you find interesting, that means if you contact 1000 people over the time that you're here, you will find at least ONE that turns into something special.

Good luck in your search and always keep hope! Cheers!

I understand how you feel Fairasea, I have just sent out hellos and responses to the welcome and have received some pretty off the wall responses and some never responded. Their loss, now I come online and stick to the forums and must admit have more fun here and get to know these people, without any bad feelings.

welcome to jsh.

Some people just don't think about others. Just the wy the are and then there are just the rude people or it's just they over looked the email and just didn't get back to you because they were caught in there own thing. It could be many reasons, it happens to all of us and it happed to me alot when I was searching. When I was single and looking on this site, I didn't always reply. I think it was the way most of the emails I got at the time. Started out with somthing about my appearance on how much they liked this or that. So I thought to my self, this is going to turn in to a interesting conversation I really don't want.

Maybe she hasn t read it yet.

I have had the same problem, no one answers just to be polite.

I get it aaallll the time. And in other sites too.

I always try to answer emails. Then again I don't get that many so it hasn't been a problem.

it depends on what is written to me if i reply back

I was accused of not answering a message...but I never received the message to begin with...
It could be a variety of reasons....
I wouldn't take it personally...

I have only 2 replies out of 15ish messages I sent. I thought the point was to message anyone who is interesting to you though.

I answer every message that is sent to me,common courtesy