Topic: Hurting for the second Christmas in a row.
pauly628's photo
Wed 12/12/07 07:48 PM
last year I thought I found the woman I wanted to spend my life with well here I am alone again on x-mas I am trying to not look around and see the holiday its working so far anyone want to chat drop me a instant message

mry's photo
Wed 12/12/07 07:48 PM
My x husband had a depression problem... let me tell you something, you may very well be better off without her. I am not saying this to be mean, but seriously it can be way to much to handle.

klugman's photo
Wed 12/12/07 07:49 PM
Hey ARTGURL long time no see.

thanks yall

justme659's photo
Wed 12/12/07 07:51 PM
I understand the sadness that over comes us at this time of year. My kids are spending the whole week with their dad this year. I use to get out of town and visit family or friends. It helped to take my mind off my troubles. This year I cant do that, so I too will be in my decorated house and wishing someone was here to share all that with. Keep your self busy.

johncarl's photo
Wed 12/12/07 07:52 PM
i do not have my tree up yet i will be alone this xmass.it is not my year to get my six yearold girl.i had my daughter for five years when i was maried.now i dont. i left her over her depression.after trying to deal with it.and at 11am on 12-13-07 i find out if the judge will give me my daughter.and i am at peace with my self.sure i could be happer.i am glad i did it for me and my daughter.:smile:

johncarl's photo
Wed 12/12/07 07:54 PM

My x husband had a depression problem... let me tell you something, you may very well be better off without her. I am not saying this to be mean, but seriously it can be way to much to handle.
i agree:smile:

klugman's photo
Thu 12/13/07 12:03 AM
Here I am 3AM in the morning.

Because I cant sleep.

Because I dared to Love again.


Jura_Neat_Please's photo
Thu 12/13/07 12:10 AM
Klug I spent 8 years of my life with a woman I loved dearly that suffered from severe bouts of depression. I know all too well the hell you are going through. Just remember it's not you and it's not your fault. Hang in there brother.

stevenpwis's photo
Thu 12/13/07 07:26 AM
that sucks dude, sorry to hear that.

Kinnison's photo
Thu 12/13/07 11:22 AM
Well I do beleive she needs you, and since you want her too, you should do everything you can to be with her. Try to make her stop feeling bad about herself and about her giving you trouble. Hopefully that will make things better for both of you.

And sometimes it feels like there should be more understanding and love/acceptance from the world in general towards singles.... or maybe its just me, and my own being single is a bias to my point of view.

eskimo_nell's photo
Thu 12/13/07 11:24 AM
Oh my god thats terrible. sleepless nights are the worst.
I hope all goes well.flowerforyou

nurjoyce's photo
Thu 12/13/07 11:26 AM
i have no lights up
my kids decided to relocate back to fort worth to live with their dad
which is okay
so....when do you expect me at your house <klugman> for christmas? LOL

klugman's photo
Thu 12/13/07 02:38 PM
Anytime nurjoyce...

As long as you wont mind the crying.



no photo
Thu 12/13/07 03:29 PM
Poor baby! Life sucks! People come in & out of your life for a reason & a season. The tighter you hold unto something & depend on it, the harder it is for you when it's taken away. I know the hurt of betrayl & abandonment all to well, taught to me by my 2nd X. It's kinda like be constipated, this to shall pass (easier with the help of some emotional laxative!).

ArtGurl's photo
Thu 12/13/07 06:50 PM

Hey ARTGURL long time no see.



Hi Klugman! Yes it has been awhile... I am sorry it isn't under happier circumstances for you!

flowerforyou

s1owhand's photo
Thu 12/13/07 07:02 PM
it may not be something she can give right now
perhaps with treatment she and love will improve flowerforyou

until then, share pictures of your light with your friends
and share in the joy of redemption through the love of
your friends

that is support and nourishment on cold winter days

oldsage's photo
Thu 12/13/07 07:05 PM
This will be #10 with no family close & to add to it son In Iraq. I will spend it with friends & their families & lots pf good memories. If anyone thinks I might be able to help them, feel free to contact me.

hello56's photo
Thu 12/13/07 07:09 PM
Edited by hello56 on Thu 12/13/07 07:11 PM
Sorry to hear this. I know where your coming from. This will be my first Christmas in 28 years without my wife. Try to get together with other people and enjoy yourself. It will help keep your mind off it. When someone is depressed, they can't be there for anyone because they are not there for themselves. Hopefully she will get help and beable tp overcome it. Best Wishes

redhead0280's photo
Thu 12/13/07 07:18 PM

I married a manic depressive. It's not pretty no matter how well intended you are.

A Knight can only save a woman in trouble.....not a woman from 'herself'.:heart:


yes! i have also heard that if someone believes that you are too good for them....they are probably right.

Don't try for something that isn't meant to be. Don't try for something just to not be alone.

Christmas is just another holiday and this is my first one alone in a very long time. I am LOVING it. But only because I have decided to love it. It doesn't mean that I don't have a bad day or a sad thought. It just means that I'm not going to ruin a whole Christmas season because of somebody else. I never even decorated my house when I was in relationships because I was never truly happy in them. It is now fully lit and green and red!!



P.S. don't listen to sappy christmas songs. only bouncy ones allowed :wink:

klugman's photo
Thu 12/13/07 07:27 PM
Well folks,

Tonight she came, and I helped her load the stuff into her truck.

I kissed her cheek, and went inside before the tears came.

She is gone.