Why is it that apart from getting messages that says “hey sweetie” or “hey babe” which is yuck coming from a person you haven’t met it’s also the random messages that ask “ which country where you’re from” I mean whatever happens to conversation etiquette of asking a person how they are, what are their experiences on these site, what are their passions in life there are so many things to talk about, I just find it so off putting if the first question is which country “where you’re from” the question is just so broad like you can be from Asia but born and raised in Australia or middle Eastern but born and raised in America and so on... one message I replied I come from hell.

Btw any thoughts...

Well you have a, uh, ethnic look about you. And you haven't filled in all of your profile. So I guess people gonna ask. Although, yeah, it is kind of rude to hit someone with the "so where ya from?" right off. Kind of makes ya think the next question is gonna be, "so how much money do you make?".

Definitely indicate on your profile some general area from which you hail. Then when you get the "where are you from" question you know for certain your interlocutor is incapable of or disinterested in reading your profile.

It's sad but most people these days have no social graces.

Surely where you live and whether you can complete an English sentence should be more important than where you are from or you heritage ? - I am from a country that no longer exists having been decimated by wars - but think of myself as an Australian (having been here for over 30 years) ?

Mingle is an international site .. I don't think it is unreasonable to ask somewhere where they are from ... distance and ethnicity can be important social preferences for many

I think where people live is obviously reasonable - and distance - but ethnicity ?

Hi Lou .. sure ethnicity .. when it comes to sexual attraction we all have preferences .. .. some like to date within their own ethnic culture .. that is reasonable too

Depends on personal preference.
Some may like to know because of traveling distance, others may like to know if you can provide access to a first world country.

To me it matters as I only want to date within my own culture, and even then within a 155 km perimeter.

Hi inev, I agree with the others about it mattering and being a personal preference. I used to think it odd because I have it stated on my profile where I'm from, so why ask?

Working in the hospitality industry I am asked that pretty much everyday from guests... Even though my name tag clearly states where I'm from, haha. I believe for some it's more of a conversation starter, an ice breaker.

With this being an International site, some cultures may find it rude to ask that right off the bat... other cultures may find it rude not to ask that first. With messaging we are able to steer the conversation in another direction if you don't wish to discuss a certain topic... or you can just say you're not comfortable talking about it.

Well that clearly shows how others just randomly click like and messages other people without reading their profile like mine is Zürich that means Switzerland.

I think she gets asked because of what Poetry said: she's got an exotic background.
Her profile says she's in Zurich, but her ancestry isn't there.
In that sense a profile states where you live, not where you're from, your heritage.

That makes sense!

Hi, exactly my point asking “where you’re from” is a broad question as it involves heritage and in my case I’ve got Japanese blood,Spanish blood ( and I’m proud of that ) but born and raised and educated here in Switzerland

Where you from question is better than asking you "do you like to talk about adult topics"?

I like pizza.

I understand, but I think that's the reason you get asked that question a lot.
If that's it, you have to decide for yourself what your answer is going to be and how you're going to deal with that.

To me, it doesn't matter so much, where someone
is 'from'.

It does, however, matter, where someone
factually is, vs. where they're claiming to be.

ie: Lying about location, to seem more "local".

Switzerland?
So... A swiss bank account, huh?
Did I happen to mention, that I am a Prince of Yorkshire, and shortly due, a modest inheritance of 50 billion pounds
However due to circumstances, the money is currently tied up, and I am unable to get it
If you were to help me out, and send me a mere 20 thousand pounds, I would in return, be happy to give you 5 million pounds

Please note this poor joke and sarcasm is subject to taxes, and other assorted unmentionable illegible small print

It's being killed off by the ease of "ghosting" or simply not responding.


Okay.
Even if by some magical means people stopped doing that there's no guarantee they won't say something off putting in the next email, or next question, or whatever.


Everyone has the option of putting in their own profile a "correct" way of approaching them and what questions they do want asked.