What makes the woman Lonely in marriage or the man ?

the feeling that their partner only stays for the convenience or because they are afraid of change.
not doing stuff together,

not socializing together.

Goes for men as well. Lack of respect and used as a bank coupled with knowing in a divorce you're going to get shafted without the common courtesy of getting a reach around or Vaseline is another reason.

It depends on the people involved in the marriage. What makes one person feel lonely, may not make the other person feel lonely.

that's not an easy answer

my suggestion is to find out what or why that there person is lonely then you are on your way to a solution rather then the unknown

could be many things
body , mind , drugs , drink <shrug> the list really goes on and on

But how do one cope with a spouse who rarely tries to know what giving time my feelings due to working long hours????

Who's working long hours, you or her?
Why should your spouse try to work out your feelings? Why can't you learn to express yourself?
Usually a woman withdraws because her man started to neglect her.
Maybe try talking.

Expectations that differ from the actual marriage experience.

hello..you can texdt me private if you want

Here, say it with me...
Com...mu...ni...cation...
Communication.

Now, once more, with feeling....Communication...

Having no common topics, or common interests. In this situation, the couple should set up common things and communicate often to break the ice.

Very true

Do im bad bcos im looking for nice people or im here on dating site while im married but seperated im singlemom .
I escaped with my xhusband bcos he always hit me when hes drunk and always argue with money and insult my family also he treat me slave as a woman in bed . So now im here hoping someone accept me all .. all of you can you please answer if im wrong here im 26 and my xhusband 35 . .

I'm here for you...

Damn it! This time it was just water I shot out my nose but still...

this^

people want different things from marriage, they marry for different reasons. when those reasons no longer feel as if they are being fulfilled, problems arise.

maybe someone who enjoyed being pampered, does not feel pampered anymore. Maybe someone who enjoyed spontaneous intimacy is feeling like things are more rare or routine. Maybe a man who felt like a king feels demasculated. Maybe a woman who felt cherished feels taken for granted. A lot of time the feeling of 'newness' is the turn on, and nothing stays 'new' forever. it just depends upon the person and what they were expecting, as Igor stated.

Each situation is different ..the information given is rather vague..making it hard to form a conclusion suitable for the individual asking the question..

Could be lots of things.

Maybe the man/woman were lonely before the marriage, thought marriage would solve it, it only distracted for a while, now they're right back to where they were.
Maybe he/she is never around.
Maybe there's no real purpose to the marriage, it's just two people sharing a roof.
Maybe neither really knows what to do in a marriage, how to be a married person, they just knew how to date and be friends, now they don't know what's expected, what's going on, what to do, and they're feeling fear but it's being translated as "loneliness" to motivate certain behavior.
Maybe they aren't lonely but bored and feel they are "missing out" on something.
Maybe their spouse is spending too much time on online dating sites.

Who knows.


Through communication. Words, deeds, behaviors, ideas, and a persistent commitment to understanding their problems and your feelings.

A partner feels alone when what THEY identify as their need is not being met. It could be a need to be listened to or a need for the person's understanding, or assistance in some area or more sex or any number of things but the other posters are correct . Communication is the key. You really need to inquire of each other what your mutual needs are, and then try to meet them as best as you both can.


But be aware also that some partners have a deeper need/void within themselves that no amount of effort on your part will be able to fill . They have to seek that self fulfilment on their own and hopefully with your moral support