Reference to a Relationship.

How many guys are a take charge man?

What does taking charge mean to you ?

Ladies, who wants a take charge man ? Why or why not ?

I do. A man who can make decisions, who's got life in him, who has things going for himself, and things he wants out of life.

To me a man who takes charge is not the old-fashioned 'he's got the authority' and lays down the law in the home. I don't believe in that BS, nor would I tolerate it.

To me it's more like a man with baws and a backbone. Or differently put: the one who carries the masculine load.

In a relationship of equals, taking charge is shared. One or the other may do it for some task based on their abilities and comfort level with the task. In some cases, who is in charge of something will alternate: it is your turn to plan where we are going on Sunday afternoon. Someone has to be responsible for all the pieces of a relationship or family; it is best when it is shared and divided up!

Whenever one person always has to be in charge, it is going to cause a conflict! The one always carrying the load is going to get tired of the lazy partner doing nothing; the one always being told what to do is going to get resentful.

I like to take charge, but there are situations where it best to let your partner take control. The most obvious is when you are visiting someone. Their house. Their turf. They call the shots. It's best to be flexible in all things.

Ok everyone move aside, I'm taking charge of this thread

Get in line I’m in charge

I wouldn't get in that one's way, Johnn.

You're dreaming, better wake up and apologize

Deciding on restrants and outings and opening doors is the mild end of control.

Some people, called submissives, thrive and get off being told what to do, and being controlled, in all levels of control even beyond sadism and masochism. They enjoy it.

I have had women myself who wanted to be told what to do because they hated decisions, and more than one wanted to be actually hit for some reason. "Hit me, beat me, whip me", one would say. Its very conflicting hurting someone you love because they want you to.

So folks get off on all levels of control - both ways.
Human nature is very variable and diverse. Especially throughout history.

Look at all the world 'rulers' over the ages, paranoid control freaks the lot of them.

DEVO: Freedom from choice, is that what you want ?

A. You have the authority to take charge.

B. You have the expertise needed to make a particular decision.

C. You do it because nobody else will.

I'm sorry but the realationships I form with a woman are equality.
Neither of us are 'in charge' of anything.
If I suggest something, she has the right to either accept or reject.
If she suggests something I have the right to accept or reject.
If yer talking about sex, I let her decide when and how because frankly, I'm game.
We communicate, so I know what she likes and what she doesn't and she knows what I like and what I don't.

This is well put and close to what I'd say adding that communication and flexibility are key.

I have baws and backbone (and balls).

Chrystal I really like your Response. However, I actually tend to agree with
Oldkid in a way.

This topic is not just about sex, but that could be included because most relationships have that!

Describes me perfectly! I guess I am a 'modern man' and as such I like to share responsibilities. I would not get on well with a 'submissive' but then such people would have no interest in me anyway!

I do not think one person in the relationship should Take Charge of everything. Just because one is in charge of writing checks or other methods of paying the bills, does not make them in charge of earning the money. Just because someone is In Charge of buying all the groceries, does not mean they have to cook the meals. I think duties need to be split according to people's abilities to make decent decisions.

I prefer to use my debit card. I don't care much for credit, never really believed much in it, although can be useful when done properly. I don't like carrying cash and coins.

I am a full embracer of 'gender roles'. lol.

I love take charge kind of guys, but not bullies. The same as I appreciate a confident man, but not a cocky one, an intelligent man, but not a pedantic one. There are levels to everything, and the EXTREME is never a good level. But a guy that basically has the wit and courage to see what needs to be done and speak up or do it, very sexy.

it should be a partnership of equals, as a couple of others have said.

I have ZERO interest in a guy who walks into a room and bascially says (or has the attitude) I'm in charge here...I know what needs to be done.."

Really buddy?
Based on *what*, exactly?

Let's use Dodo_Davids example:

A. You have the authority to take charge.

B. You have the expertise needed to make a particular decision.

C. You do it because nobody else will.

If you have all the above criteria..maybe you *do* get to be bossy..
But, what if someone is has thpse qualities?
What if they are looking for a concensus/ group agreement in how to proceed?
What if (*gasp*) a woman meets all those above criteria?

Are you willing to step back..or are you going to bully ahead because YOU know better..
And, even if you *do* "know better" in actuality (based on experience or training)
there are ways to go about it without beiong a dominant, pushy a**...