Yes!
And, to qualify, you'll have to be able to fart
the national anthem of Belgium, by noon today.

I'll settle for Dixie in a week.

Done and done. What’s next?

Prove it...lol

You’ll have to either come here and see or take my word for it.

your right most are not helpless ... but will admit there are time I am ...
do not know everything ... so if I ask a ? its nice for another to answer me so I have a idea how to do something ...



not sure why you think a women should provide transportation...
for the date... especially if its the first date ... should they pay ...

that would be nice ... but honestly if found I did not like them ... and they came from a far ... I would pay for my own way ... and don't really care where we would eat ... I figure I have fav places and can just get my own when I want ... so that does not matter to much ... I have been in expensive places to eat... but would expect them to pay if that is where they want to go ... becouse I figure they have more $ then I do ... laughing :>) whether I like them or not laughing ...


I did get annoyed on one first date once ... he did not have transportation
and came to meet on the bus ... he paid for lunch ... I ask about a tip he said u have $ leave it ... what ! it was just the way he said it ... I said I needed more to drink he said meet u outside ... ok ... and needless to say that did not sit well with me ... so in my mind i thought before I would give him a ride home ... well after that I said you better hurry to get your bus ... laughing ... and we went our separate ways ... so rudeness does not fly with me ...


I have heard where a couple met ... at some expensive restaurant ...where he wanted to go and he said he needed to go t the rest room never came back ... left this women with the bill ... now that would p*ss me off ...

Yet *another* reason why I always pay my own way on a first date..
Separate checks....
Dude left?
Not my problem...here's his name and cell phone number...call the cops and have *him* arrested.

Now that I've helped the worms wiggle out of the can a little, let me share my definition of a "lady":

First she is a female
Her language and grammar are acceptable in polite society
She dresses appropriately for the environment she is in
She is capable of intelligent conversation
She treats others in a respectful manner especially those who would be in the service industry or considered below her in social status.
Her behaviors are not an embarrassment to me or others around us

If there are some people that think a lady has to wear heels sometimes, that is not me. I have severe problems with my ankles, knees and hips. I'll never wear heels again.

Well I don’t wear heels either, bad back.

I dress how I feel like dressing, comfort is for me.

If a guy isn’t interested in me the way I am, take a hike. There’s plenty of fish.

I like to have fun and enjoy life. I feel like I’ve wasted so much time trying to please others.

I respect others, hurt nobody but if I wanna act the fool, then I do.

I’ve had so many people say they want to hang out with me because I’m having so much fun.
That’s life!

Exactly!

I find it ironic that there are so many that say they want someone "real" but then turn around and expect that someone to act like a "lady" according to their definition of what a lady is... If women/men act according to someone else's idea of what it means to be a lady or man... that is not "real". I refuse to conform to preconceived ideas of who I am supposed to be.

Exactly!

So you women will embrace similar behaviors in men? Work jeans and boots out for dinner is fine? Needed a hair cut several months ago? How about overindulge in drink or excess swearing? Ranting at the bar tender because his drink isn't perfect?

Somehow I think not; behaviors and appearance of those we are with are important to all of us!! We make allowances for the personal situations of others but not for those who just don't care about their offensive selves.

If you don't care for the behavior of others, you simply don't date them. I don't expect the man I'm with to change, it's silly to hook up with someone you aren't compatible with and try to mold and shape him into something else... may as well get a puppet.

Men who excessive drink and swear would not be a good match for me, so I wouldn't date them. Accepting someone for who they are doesn't mean I would date them, it simply means I don't expect them to change. If I choose to be around someone who does something I don't like, that's on me and my responsibility to decide if I want to continue to hang out with that person.

And yes, if I choose to be with a man, I would embrace his right to be himself!

I agree with what you said and some people I too choose to not be associated with. Some I find to be a public embarrassment even if I'm not associated with them!! Just tolerating them in some public environment is extremely difficult.

Clothes don't make a lady! You can wear whatever, and still not be a lady.

I wear heels at times, and know several women , who do as well. l like dresses and skirts, Jeans , sweaters, sweat pants.

Some Men prefer a woman to wear dresses on dates, depends on the man and where he takes her.

Most people have Preferences, it's YOUR choices.

I t's more about Character.

When/if I find myself in those situations I have to ask myself... "What is it about me that bothers me about that person and why does it bother me?" I'm no better than anyone and who am I to judge?

My choosing not to date someone with certain behaviors doesn't have to do with my feeling embarrassed around them, it has to do with not wanting that in a relationship. If I'm out in public and there are men who drink excessively and swear or women in the same environment, it doesn't bother me... they have a right to do what they want. If I'm uncomfortable, I have the choice to leave.

Not being able to "tolerate" someone out in public is putting yourself in a higher than thou attitude and saying you know better as to how other's should "act". Something about their behavior is a threat to your well being and that suggests you aren't secure with who you are.

Too many people believe another person's behavior is a reflection of them... and it is not. It is a reflection of who that person is and is none of my business!

If he’s wearing work boots and jeans, we will go somewhere where that’s ok. My bf is in desperate need of a haircut (his daughter owns a salon) but it’s not up to me to tell him to go for a haircut. He is an adult. He can drink and swear where it’s appropriate to do so. I would never tolerate bad behaviour towards another person from anyone. I also wouldn’t accept offensive behaviour but none of what you mentioned is really offensive to me.

When we go out and have fun, we get noticed but not because our behaviour is offensive. It’s because we don’t care what others think, we just have fun. If you don’t like it, don’t look. I have found that most people wish they could be as carefree as we are.

You only live once, let your hair down and enjoy yourself.

Amen

Exactly... There was a time when other's silly behavior bothered me, but after looking at why I found it was because I wished I could just cut loose and have fun.

Just being you and enjoying life is far different that being obnoxious and rude to others.