I think I would be concerned if a guy didnt care about my looks. He has to be proud to some extent to take you out in public. That doesnt mean everyone around him has to think his g/f is hot. If he does, thats what matters. And I think only single celled brainers would really ONLY date a chick for her looks. Unless hes just dating her for recreational purposes.

stevie wonder maybe

totally uncalled for

funches you scare me

Well said.

Another thing that I wouldn't be attracted to, someone constantly complaining about the same ole thing as if it's a guys fault that he has a certain standard whatever it might be.

You don't see stupid people complaining, oh why am I being discriminated against cause I'm a moron. That's a deal breaker with me, no matter how hot a girl is, if she's dumb as a rock I simply can't see myself trying to talk to her. Or if a girl has a horrible personality.

It's about the total package. Which includes looks, personality, intellect, humor etc. Seems like this topic has been done to death lately. No matter how many times you start this topic, reality is what it is. Different guys have different standards, I see girls who I'm not attracted to with guys all the time, there is no 1 standard.

Yes looks matter, to a degree. You have to be attracted to the person at first and then you get to know them from there. But there are times when a persons personality will shine through making you attracted to that person. I've had one of those where noone thought she was that good looking but i though she was gorgeous for some reason. I knew she wasn't "hot" by today's standards but i was attracted to her anyways. Beauty is relative based on society though. Look at other cultures.... sometimes the girl with the longest neck in the tribe is considerered the most attractive, or the one the lip stretched out the most. Or the way it use to be in hawaii where the biggest girl was considered the most sought after because it showed she could take care of a family and cool. Beauty is relative to every individual. But my main point is that LOOKS do matter but there is a difference between LOOKS and ATRACTIVENESS. You don't have to have looks but you do have to have attraction

Hence the saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder, well said and i agree

And on that note, Im heading to bed. Its 2 am and I think Ive swapped out enough pics and posted enough of my opinions for one evening. So, until we meet again...peace, love and ROCK!

have a good night.

This is something I have wondered and thought about for a long time.

Geek brings up a very important point. When I'm looking for someone, I have the "ideal package" in mind, and that includes a lot of things. But my concept of what that encompasses is different than anyone else's, so you really can't compare apples to apples.

That said, the only person you can account for is yourself. Only you can say what it is and isn't that you are attracted to, and what you will accept in lieu of that.

I may have an "ideal package" in mind, but I have yet to meet anyone who fits the mold perfectly. Even in the remote possibility that I would, there is NO GUARANTEE that it would work; perhaps they would fit my interpretation of it, but maybe I wouldn't fit theirs.

Find two people that are sufficiently attracted to one another, and yet willing to put up with each other's "shortcomings", and maybe you have a recipe for some success...

Cheers!
Rrrr

To add on.... This ideal package is somthing we do look for that is physical. People look for this especially if they are wondering why theyre not dating, cant get a date so this comes into play, this mindset is on thier minds. Now for instance, What if you accidently meet someone attractive, a casual conversation in a store in which you noticed somthing you both like, however no intentions of asking this woman out, after 10 minutes of talking you really like who this person is, so you then decide to ask her out... wouldn't this be the better approach, i had this happen in best-buy weeks ago, she had a B/F lol but it made me think alot. I didnt realize she was attractive until after 5 minutes of talking.

I know part of my "package" is physical for sure. No question that it has been scientifically proven that first impressions are physical in nature; you're lucky if you get an opportunity to go much beyond that in most situations.

I do like it when that happens though! It's great to get to actually meet someone... and a lot different than sifting thru a bunch of pictures and profiles on a computer!

Rrrr

(the blind)

GUYS ARE VISUALLY STIMULATED AND GIRLS ARE MENTALLY STIMULATED. ITS THAT SIMPLE

That may be true in the long run but women, just like men need an initial physical attraction to someone.

WHOEVER "YOU" meet and fall in love with through time.
YOU "WILL" find "THEM" BEAUTIFUL, EVEN IF OTHER'S BELIEVE THEY ARE BUTT UGLY....
""THEY"" (In your eyes) will be "HOT", AND "beautiful", ALWAYS!

But Anybody to FIRST,, EVEN MEET, ANOTHER, they have to have the DESIRE to WANT TO KNOW THEM!!

And IN THAT FIRST DESIRE,,,,,,,,,,SORRY, BUT ""YES"" .
Part of THEIR THOUGHT is (WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE)!!!!!!!!!!! YES! Such is Living and Breathing!!

Very true.. I worked with a man who, bless his heart, was butt ugly but his personality was such that he had women falling all over him. His personality truly made him attractive!!

It reads more like you are leaning towards the standards that soceity may have indicated that one should look, beauty is in the eye of the beholder so everyone do not have the same taste because even super models get dump ...the way someone appears to you is only one of many factors that should be addressed when in the search for that significant other

NOt sure if anyone said this yet, but anyway..
For one, this is directed in the general direction of...anyone really. Don't generalize all men. It's not fair to the ones who aren't idiots.
2, The thing about looks is for a successful relationship there has to be a level of physical attraction. Otherwise things don't work. Anyone that says that they would be with a person who they consider hideous, but has a great personality is a liar. And also, at the same time, that person they consider hideous may be gorgeous to another person. It's all in the eye of the beholder.
The thing that makes a difference is guys is where they lpace looks on the priorities list. Personality SHOULD come first when you are thinking about having a relationship. But the looks will still have to be there for a good relationship.

I am sorry you can be the kindess sweeties man on earth and if you are unactive you are going to be just my friend. Women care about looks too. We just understand better to what degree out looks can get us what we want.