Why can't a person find love after 40? Is that old?

I hope not Kat, but even if it were old I don't think that disqualifies someone from finding love. Love can come to anyone regardless of their age.

I agree, River.

I think heartbreak at any age makes it harder to 'find love' because of the defense mechanisms that can develop. So those who live longer, by virtue of time, have more opportunities for more heartaches and therefore more defense mechanisms and precautions that cause 'finding love' to be more of a challenge.

But of course, every individual has had different experiences and heartbreaks (or lack of)

cuz they are looking in all the wrong places. and if 40 is old then i'm ancient

And where exactly are the right places?

the song never said

You can't lump all guys into that group of men that you think are only after one thing. I'm well past 40 and yes love can happen after that age and that thing you say men are just after never came into the equation for me. That's not all what love is, a part yes but not all. You'll know when it happens but you won't find it by searching for it. It has to happen naturally when you least expect it. You don't find love, love finds you. You will feel it inside your very soul. After all, I feel love is a gift from God that you feel for another person.

Nope.

Once ya hit 40 ya might as well chunk a live toaster in the tub with ya...

you willl find dear

At one time we had enough hormones to have sex, and romance. As our hormones went away, so did the romance.

We gotta look at priorities-what's more important?

Am not 40yet don't wanna get to that without settling...but I think yes after 40 divorced or not can still find love, you just have to put yourself out and try. But kick any man's butt who is just after that certain thing...he is internally a teenager

I think maybe I was the last poster who sent her off. And she was pretty too.

She needs thicker skin, more patience, and a sick sense of humour to be on here.

Oh well, another one bites the dust.

The problem is FEMINISM has ****ed it all up. Women just don't get... Men don't mind a proper courtship and getting to know. But all we seem go get for our efforts are court cases, false chafges, planned child suppirt, sexual harassment charges and a got damn FIGHT from a woman insisting she can be "The Man" in the relationship. So men have been over the years TURN OFF to chivalry

sure you can.

oh no no no
it is quite impossible
something to do with eggs shriveling up
hormones bouncing all over the place
this is why middle aged women get granny hair cuts
buy small dogs, dress them in clothes
and talk to them like they are babies

Oh, I thought the older women who live alone get cats and become the "cat lady".