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Topic: To remember or to forget?
Narlycarnk Joined Fri 10/28/16 Posts: 814	Sun 07/08/18 03:17 PM
The memories I want to remember are the shared experiences. I am not the same person I was in the past - I look at things a different way knowing what I know now, and I sense things differently (senses can get damaged over time). I remember things that are relevant to me as I look forward to the future. The rest I forget but remember in dream. There is something powerful about shared experiences though.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33340	Sun 07/08/18 03:18 PM
Not really forget, hoping to never have to go through specific things, yes. But if you've really dealt with painful / less pleasant things, would you still feel the need to forget them, I wonder? There'd be no need for that. Accepting and letting go, one of the most difficult things in life.

Larsi666 😽 Joined Wed 01/31/18 Posts: 17181	Sun 07/08/18 04:17 PM
Memories are there to learn from, methinks

Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9013	Sun 07/08/18 04:28 PM
Hi again, guys. Everyone has a past they want to remember or to forget. So tell me (only if you're comfortable to talk about it), what kind of memories or experiences are those? hi Mavis I have been very lucky in life .. but one memory that stays with me is when my young pup managed to wriggle under the wooden deck and trap himself . The foundation was concrete so we had to remove a considerable amount of the deck to rescue him . Made me realise that dogs do not think about consequence .. he went on to give me several other nightmares .. laughing.. I swear he has nine lives .. but he is still with me

GalaxyStarz Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 2697	Sun 07/08/18 05:06 PM
go the f**k to sleep LOL Did you read it?

GalaxyStarz Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 2697	Sun 07/08/18 05:08 PM
well since some are trying to forget them we don't wanna chat about them Don't mind me, im a smartass

Aroundtheworld37 Joined Tue 09/05/17 Posts: 4122	Sun 07/08/18 05:10 PM
go the f**k to sleep LOL Did you read it? yea I read it.... ..lol.dub thinks he’s in charge...I keep telling him I’m in charge...men

Tom4Uhere Joined Sat 12/17/16 Posts: 16240	Sun 07/08/18 06:49 PM
go the f**k to sleep LOL Did you read it? yea I read it.... ..lol.dub thinks he’s in charge...I keep telling him I’m in charge...men By default, the woman is ALWAYS in charge. Item #2 on the list of 100 things all men need to understand about women. #1 is The Woman is ALWAYS right except when she's not, then she is in Error.

scepticalsoulmate Joined Wed 08/24/16 Posts: 9737	Sun 07/08/18 06:55 PM
I seem to have a very selective memory which really is an advantage for me but the lesson learned sometimes goes with it too

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sun 07/08/18 07:23 PM
I dont want to forget even the most painful experiences of my past. Most of my failures , mistakes, or gut-wrenching experiences ultimately served as helpful feedback for my improvement . But I admit that its an ongoing challenge to give the future my undivided focus as opposed to taking way too many glimpses at that rear-view mirror that Aroundtheworld described

d__u__b Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 15048	Sun 07/08/18 09:07 PM
go the f**k to sleep LOL Did you read it? yea I read it.... ..lol.dub thinks he’s in charge...I keep telling him I’m in charge...men

Aroundtheworld37 Joined Tue 09/05/17 Posts: 4122	Sun 07/08/18 09:13 PM
go the f**k to sleep LOL Did you read it? yea I read it.... ..lol.dub thinks he’s in charge...I keep telling him I’m in charge...men

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Sun 07/08/18 09:19 PM
Does being a wild child count

iammavis29 Joined Thu 07/03/14 Posts: 1046	Sun 07/08/18 09:20 PM
Not really forget, hoping to never have to go through specific things, yes. But if you've really dealt with painful / less pleasant things, would you still feel the need to forget them, I wonder? There'd be no need for that. Accepting and letting go, one of the most difficult things in life. I admire how you explain things logically, Crystal.

iammavis29 Joined Thu 07/03/14 Posts: 1046	Sun 07/08/18 09:21 PM
I dont want to forget even the most painful experiences of my past. Most of my failures , mistakes, or gut-wrenching experiences ultimately served as helpful feedback for my improvement . But I admit that its an ongoing challenge to give the future my undivided focus as opposed to taking way too many glimpses at that rear-view mirror that Aroundtheworld described Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Peggy.

iammavis29 Joined Thu 07/03/14 Posts: 1046	Sun 07/08/18 09:23 PM
Does being a wild child count Yes, it does Joe.

iammavis29 Joined Thu 07/03/14 Posts: 1046	Sun 07/08/18 09:25 PM
I seem to have a very selective memory which really is an advantage for me but the lesson learned sometimes goes with it too Yes, whether it's good or bad the important thing are the lessons we learned from those experiences that made us move forward.

iammavis29 Joined Thu 07/03/14 Posts: 1046	Sun 07/08/18 09:28 PM
I've had all sorts of abuses, embarrassments, and humiliations in my past. Remembering them can be like reliving them at times. But I don't think I would opt to erase them from my memory even so, because the lessons I learned because of them would, I fear, revert to being unlearned, and make me vulnerable all over again. Thank you for sharing.

iammavis29 Joined Thu 07/03/14 Posts: 1046	Sun 07/08/18 09:33 PM
Hi again, guys. Everyone has a past they want to remember or to forget. So tell me (only if you're comfortable to talk about it), what kind of memories or experiences are those? hi Mavis I have been very lucky in life .. but one memory that stays with me is when my young pup managed to wriggle under the wooden deck and trap himself . The foundation was concrete so we had to remove a considerable amount of the deck to rescue him . Made me realise that dogs do not think about consequence .. he went on to give me several other nightmares .. laughing.. I swear he has nine lives .. but he is still with me Good to hear that your dog is okay and that you've been lucky in life, Blondey.

iammavis29 Joined Thu 07/03/14 Posts: 1046	Sun 07/08/18 09:36 PM
Thank you guys for sharing your stories. Despite the adventures and misadventures in life, may we always remember that we are blessed. That life is indeed beautiful.