bluegrass,

I can only tell you the truth, sorry

If a woman is adamant in paying own way, fine, she can do with someone else if she thinks Im a bastard so be it.

Im interested in dating , courting the whole works, Im not interested in what friends do, friends go dutch, I also dont do dinner on the first meet either.

Guess what I also expect when I meet a woman , she will do a google search on me and guess what she will find? the name of my company, my staff, what I do etc.

I know this is the information age and I expect it, I also expect a woman to use discernment too.

Im not putting her in any danger and Im not putting myself either.

where you and I agree is Talk is cheap your action dictates, I live by those examples.

Telling a woman upfront before you meet that we dont agree on something and parting ways isnt harsh or anything to do with lack of respect for her feelings.


Im surprise that you would even bring that up.

Well..you *are* entitled to your opinions.¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Peace, and good luck on your quest.

and you're entitled to yours bluegrass if it works for you I say God Bless and I wish you the best of luck, as in for me this works for me

and by the way not that you care, but I was married for 10 years to not a pleasant woman, I thought I was married for the right reason it turned out it wasn't.

She pursued me , she paid for dates , I paid for dates, equality as she put it, she was a strong woman and me a strong man, 10 years of marriage only to discover the last 3 she was having affairs as I was building my business.

Turns out the men she was having an affair was the take charge type of guy , they paid for things and she enjoyed being treated like a lady instead of a partner ( her words)

Treated her like partner, never abused her physically , verbally nothing of the sort and bam just like that your manhood taken away, the first one in my family to get a divorced, I have a sister and brother who are still married, parents still married, grandparents still married and most of my friends still married except for one bachelor

I learned a valuable lesson.

And after that I know the type of woman I'm compatible with, a woman that wants to be treated like a lady, lover and partner and not a gold digger.

if that means I miss out on 80% so be it, because I'm only looking for ONE.

I put it above; but anyway; you wrote: you are here only for forums !!

And, diserli_gears...like you said about yourself...*I* learned a valuable lesson from my ex, in the 80's...
And, like you.."And after that I know the type of woman I'm compatible with", I know they type of man *I* am most compatible with.

Yet guys on these sites (dating sites) don't seem to care..
I should just ignore all that I have learned and experienced.
What *I* want and don't want...what *I* know works best for me, and doesn't...what *I* like and don't like...they don't care...
I should just ignore all that....because they say I should.

No darlin'....sorry.
Like you said .."if that means I miss out on 80% so be it, because I'm only looking for ONE."

If they are pushing me to do things I am not comfortable with, or things that I know (from 56 years of living) that just don't work for me..then they are NOT "the one " for me anyway..
The RIGHT man for me will respect me, and not try to tell me to change to suit him.
(as I would never try to make him change to suit me)

I had two good ones..and am widowed now.

I cant speak for any of the guys on here Blue grass

I can only speak from my own personal experience.

If a guy doesn't care what want kick him to the curb, which Im sure you do, just like I know what I want and it doesn't match so be it .

do you know how many women online over the years have said to me "come to my place" and I used to think WTF, do I look desperate or a horn dog to you?

Just like I dont do friends with benefits either, to me its either you're in all the way or you're out, there is no in between but that is me.

Yep..no FWB here either..

Either you are in...or you are *out*.
I have no time for those wishy-washy, wiffly waffly guys, or the kids (if they are young enough *I* could have given birth to them..i consider them kids) who say "how about Mr Right Now while you are waiing for Mr Right?"

Like I say in my profile...I am not on here because I am bored, or to kill time in an evening, or to f*** with people (there are a lot of those on her as well as the otrher dating sites)..I play it straight..I play for keeps.

Don't need more "friends"...I'm full up on friends, thanks..

My dad (who basically raised me) impressed upom me "know your worth"..
And "you may not be every guys cup of tea..but you are the tea you are, and someone will appreciate you...hold out for him.."
Meaning..don't settle, don't change yourself just to suit someone.

Ya got that right. My brain hurts just reading this.

I thinks it been pretty good, it made me realize somethings and I updated my profile to reflect what I believe in

so its all good, nothing complicated about it.

Threads are more interesting than some of these games daily.

So much for equality of the sexes. I'll usually pay for the greet and meet along with a couple dates. After that, you better be contributing to the cause!

I usually make the rules for meeting and dating!!

That's why it takes a while, to meet agreeable Gentlemen.

Your rules, my choice!

Jazzman!

Invit-ers always pay, that's the rules.

A lil off topic but I was invited to a wedding this summer with a specific request to make a contribution of 100$ per plate. Not my kind of wedding I guess, I like to "contribute" much more than that at weddings, just asking me to contribute is a complete insult and tacky.


Very tacky expecting a woman to pay their way on a date if I invited them. Also, I'd have none of it if they made a fuss about paying their way... It's a deal breaker!

Sits in the corner and laughs ... men and their ego

Leggo my Ego


I'm still waiting for my invitation Missy

Mr. J,


I want to congratulate you for finally becoming your own boss. There’s nothing more rewarding than being you own boss. I’m happy for you and wish you all the best with your business. I know you’re going to achieve remarkable things with it.

To add more, I think women can and will manage just fine on their own.

i sent you an invite ... but to find it it you need to navigate using your testicles .., it is a an ancient skill

You have no clue how badly I've been guided by them in the past Blondey

yes but you need to dangle them in water and let them sense the swell .. perhaps your wetsuit gets in the way