I think some of the reasons for such behavior could be:
- to maintain boundaries.
- to maintain control.
- an extension of their values, morals, ethics, etc.
- to maintain identity, not get swept away in the others grand gestures based on an idealistic fantasy notion of the date.
- lack of attraction.
- avoiding potential arguments about who owes what to whom.
- to avoid issues of social reciprocity, feelings of "owing" someone, or indebtedness.
- to maintain personal security.
- realistically figure out budgeting and dating.
- they're dating other people and it seems "fair" to them.
- consideration based on previous discussions. Maybe the "all paid invitation" was made by someone who last week was complaining about not paying their light bill.
- some combination of the preceding and many other reasons not listed.

I generally find out this info prior to meeting, if Im interested in a woman and I want to meet her she already knows that I will pay for the first meet and if there is a first date.

if she believes that I have some hidden agenda or she is one of those hardcore feminists that believes that she has to pay her way, we are not meeting period.


A lot of women with the feminist indoctrination believes they are capable of paying their way, which is fine but dating , romance, courting is different, and if they cant understand that then Im gone

RIGHT ON DISERTI GEARS. you said it clearly. I feel the same way, it's a good measure of who she is. Interestingly, it's what I told my xc-wife when she just had to burden me with her dating story. So it's what I tell my daughters, so I do the same myself

Blondy-111 You are one HUMDINGER !