In Marriage if one of the two has a habit of watching porn with or without their spouse present, would it be Cheating in that Relationship ?

from man point of view NO

I doubt most consider it cheating if he’s taking things in hand. Does it matter if he’s thinking about the women in his head or the women on the screen?

I wrote that out assuming it would clarify things for me, but now I’m more undecided than before.

Some may consider it a form of emotional cheating .. som might see it as a sin .. others as an acceptable expression of sexuality ... depends on your views of poronography and expectations of your partner . Legally ... I would be surprised if it was acknowledged as a form of cheating .

Always tricky questions. I know I don't take to well to a man who watches porn a lot. I do know that how women perceive it is different from men, but that doesn't do much to change my feelings about it.
Simply put, I could not be in a relationship with a man who needed to watch a lot of porn. It does upset me and I've gotten to the point where I don't need any upset-ness and stress in life anymore. I want to feel good in a relationship and with a man, and him watching porn simply doesn't make me feel good.

I do wonder how men would feel if we would not be so interested in sex with them anymore yet would spend a lot of time watching porn with or without them present. And then not the porn that caters for men, but porn that caters for women.
I seriously wonder how their fragile egos would do under those circumstances? And that is a serious question btw.
To be honest, I doubt most would appreciate that much.

Crystal, when you said porn that caters to women, I pictured a channel of men doing dishes, vacuuming and cooking dinner.

for some non religious couples it wouldn't be

for religious couples it would be

Now that's the kind of porn I'd like to watch


I agree with what Crystal said. I wouldn't be okay with it if the man I was with watched it. I want to be the one he watches. And vise versa. I wouldn't want to watch a video of a man doing dishes naked, but would watch the man I'm with doing dishes naked.

To each his or her own. I believe it's up to the two people together to decide what is acceptable and what is not. If he/she likes porn and wants to watch it and you don't, then you're probably not a good match.

You mean something like this? Wasn't what I had in mind, but HELL YESSSSSS!!! I'm game!
And when he's done with all that, we can go straight into what I consider porn that caters for women, lol.

Interesting replies thus far, would be more interesting to see a few more comments.

I myself. Do believe many men enjoy porn whether they're married. Or single.
Marriage may not be broken up, however, trust maybe lost.

I would prefer that my spouse not watch porn but I wouldn't see it as something to divorce him over.

Affairs would be a reason for a divorce.

If a couple is just dating or is in a relationship, this is not an issue. Imo

Oh my!

Just answering the question logically. No, it isn't cheating. There wasn't any physical touch from porn star to porn viewer.

Is there much difference between watching porn and fantazising .. (women are particularly good at the latter)

Interesting reply !!!

Maybe that is Some men. !!!

Yes one is viewing and the other is in thought. Visual can be more stimulating!!!

I disagree ..the mind is our largest sexual organ .. I guess it depends on how creative that mind is ...

How many women read erotic fiction or watch soft porn .. 50 shades of grey comes to mind . Woyld anyone consider that cheating in a marriage .

Poronography has many levels ... it can enhance a healthy sexual relationship .. What matters is how comfortable you both are with your own sexuality

I feel comfortable in my sexuality.