Hiya tom :-). curious .. what happened to bil ?? Certainly sounds challenging .

I thnk Tantrums mostly equate to Emotional distress often combined with poor coping mechanisms .. I guess that could be viewed as an emotional weakness .

Hiya tom :-). curious .. what happened to bil ?? Certainly sounds challenging .

I thnk Tantrums mostly equate to Emotional distress often combined with poor coping mechanisms .. I guess that could be viewed as an emotional weakness .

why do I have a vision of you as the godfather cheeky grin

why do I have a vision of you as the godfather cheeky grin

hello me perhaps I will start allocating manpoints ., sounds like fun

Is it considered manly for a man to have a temper tantrum ???

what is the best way to help him cope

I often watch how a man reacts .. and his reaction tells me a lot about his character and coping skills .

Uh Oh... I'm feeling a manly emotional outburst coming on

Its been my observation that 'temper tantrums' are a sign of emotional immaturity. Most people that have tantrums often have other emotionally driven extremes and do not possess inner contentment.
They think they do.
They usually try to justify themselves with phrases that start as
"I Was Fine Until..."
In reality, they are sticks of dynamite just waiting for something or someone to ignite the fuse. Sometimes the fuse is already burning but nobody can tell how long the fuse is or how fast it burns.

People with personalities prone to tantrums often need to apologize frequently to maintain relationships. They react to stimuli without first considering the results of their actions. Many times their reactions are not reasonable to the stimuli but based on corrupt perceptions.

A child that throws tantrums when they don't get what they want is a result of what many call being spoiled or being catered to. The parents, or authority in their lives, attempt to quell their outbursts with rewards and the child learns that the louder, more disruptive they can be, the more they get what they want.
There are adults that have personalities based on the tantrum/reward system.

There are also adults that have tantrums because they are angry. The tantrum is how they express their anger. A lot of times, the angry tantrum adult doesn't even know why they are angry. They are just angry at everything in one way or another. This type of tantrum can be fixed with proper counseling many times. Isolate the source of the anger and deal with it so it is no longer such an over-powering emotion inside them.

Then there are adults that use tantrums as a method to direct a situation.
They use their intelligence and their empathy to direct others via outbursts that are strategically planned.

Finally, there are adults that are medically inclined to tantrums. In movies (like The Accountant, Rain Man and others) we can see some examples of special needs people with severe OCD having tantrums but in reality not all OCD challenged people are severely challenged to the point they are as readily identified like in the movies. For those people, tantrums are a result of a physical issue. A deformity or difference in how they process things. Sometimes the tantrums can be controlled by medicine, sometimes they can't. Tourette's Syndrome is a mild example of this type of tantrum.

Tantrums are the inability to properly express feelings according to society norm.

When the outcome is like John Wick, or the beginning of Con Air, yes.

When it's something like the Youtube rants of "leave Brittany alone!" or, No Trump "somebody better fix this right f'n now!" or some fat guy blubbering and crying and impotent to do anything but whine, no.


Depends on a lot of things.
Are you contributing to it?
Do they regularly have temper tantrums?
How old are they?
What kind of things do they value? I mean huge difference in how you can "help" with someone that eats their feelings and someone that punches their feelings.

Coping mechanisms tend to be unique.
There are many general ones that are then tailored to the individual.
But there isn't some magical "best way" to help a particular individual cope with some vague problem leading to a "temper tantrum."


The funny thing is in doing that, it may actually be exacerbating the problem causing a "temper tantrum."

I don't actually score men. LoL! A comedian at a local comedy house did a whole routine about "man points" once. It included a list of infractions. Holding a woman's purse while shopping is a 5 point offense. Things like that. He was hysterical.

When I'm pissed at my girl, I like my space to cool off. When I'm pissed at someone else, I'll tell her about it and vent to her, to help me cool off faster. If it's someone important to her, like her friends, etc. I'll let her know, after I cool off a bit, as to not say something stupid.

People acting like a "temper tantrum" isn't something we all experience. Life is hectic, difficult and frustrating. We all reach a breaking point where we lose logic and let loose to get that frustration out. I rather throw a tantrum and get my feelings out,than keep it bottled inside. Showing your pain, isn't unmanly. In fact it is far more manly, to express yourself and not care what other people may think.

For instance, last summer my cousin was murdered by her husband. I had a fit of rage, and while some may think that, perfect control is needed in every aspect of life to show manliness. To me that is absolute nonsense. I'm a human being, I like everyone else, women, children, etc will throw a tantrum when pushed over the edge.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, shedding a tear is also fine.I always shed a tear when I watch The Lion King and Mufasa dies. Or when someone overcomes a life obstacle, or anything that touches my heart really. Showing emotion is not a weakness and unmanly.

Temper Tantrums-a mature man, really? If I don't have them, than why should put up with them in another? Tell him to leave, here's your hat, what's your hurry,don't let the door bash your butt on the way-OUT! LMAO!

I'll make ya an offer you can't refuse.

if a man portrays himself as having a great sense of humour .. yet he has smoke coming out of his ears when others disagree with him or little things set him off .. then I would be wary of him

Temper Tantrums are a sign of weakness of emotion.
Its not manly to have any tantrum.

I have known men that are insecure and narcissistic as an over-compensating redirect.

I see men that do not have control of their emotions as weak and untrustworthy. I don't want to be around them at all, even when they are appearing normal.

I lived with a "mad all the time" man (BIL) that had tantrums and was very loud.
Even he knew to control himself in public but at home, Mr Hyde came out.
To me, that is psychological abuse. Nobody should have to walk on eggs living with pins & needles afraid the slightest thing might set them off an a vicious tantrum.

Wimps