This just baffles me, especially since I wouldn't date guys who felt this way long before I had my own. Are they selfish and don't know how to share? This is something that has puzzled me for a long time and I'm seeing there are quite a few men on here that are "against women with children".

A Chick with children is a chick with baggage. and most guys dont like to be bell hops

I don't think that men with preferences for women with no children are necessarily selfish or against anyone. They probably just know themselves well enough to know that maybe they're not ready for children, or simply don't want children. Nothing wrong with that. I think it's more admirable for them to say so from the beginning, than to start something, maybe it gets serious then they say, oh, hey, did I mention?

We can't change people, we can only accept and embrace who they are. You may have the most wonderful, sweet, beautiful, well-behaved children ever born but if someone doesn't want kids, it simply does not matter.

urm excuse but ny son is no baggage mate and i dont need no handouts to bring him up

IF A MAN DOES DATE A WOMAN WITH CHILDREN, HE WANTS TO SEE THE RESPECT THEY HAVE FOR THEIR MOM..........A GOOD MAN WILL TAKE THAT IN A HEART BEAT...........ON THE OTHER HAND, A GUY IS NO DIFFERENT THAN A WOMAN..........IF DRAMA IS INVOLVED, HE WANTS NO PART OF IT

Amen sister!!!!

maybe cause when we loose the woman we loose the children too

we do become attached to them 2 ya know

true to a point hun kids can be a drama in themselves and thats not bringing hormones into it lol

roger

amen back hun lol

children are in no way baggage.. granted if ya got pain in the butt exs always causeing trouble that is baggage.. but thats fine.. if man has a problem with dating someone who has children fine with me, there are many others out there who dont have a problem with it,

everyone knows what they can and can not deal with in a relationship.. everyone has an opinion.. i'd rather know up front a guy doesnt want to be in a relationship with someone with children than have him start dating me it starts gettin serious my kids meet him and it doesnt work out cause he cant deal with my kids being around or my payin more attention to them than to him..

if a man don't want my son then he does not need me.!!!!!!!!!

my daughter is a small female version of me, and to those who know me,, yeah thats scary, but shes mine, and there aint a thing in this world i would give her up for, baggage,,, hell f***ing nah,, she a blessing, not something i regret,if you cant take her you damn sure cant take me

I don’t think it’s the children that are always the case, but the idea that you will be competing with them (and the ex boyfriend/husband) for the rest of your relationship. Also I don’t really believe there is a competition between boyfriends and children....children win hands down. The idea is that you will lose when caught between a decision that involves the betterment of the children, or the betterment of the relationship.

There are also men that don’t want to “raise another man’s” children. To me it does not matter where they come from, just where they are going.

When making a decision the person has to me mentally ready for the “package deal” and there are some men that just are not ready.

exactly

I date women w/children, but I can't speak 4 all guys

i personally am only looking to make my own kids with whoever i end up with. i dont want that added strain on the relationship. it might be different if i was older, but at 25, i'm not really ready for my own kids, much less someone elses.

its def each to there own on this one and havent got a problem with men who dont want to date women with children or vice versa but cant call children baggage, they are just an extension of the person you are dating or to me a bonus

call me a nutcase,, but i dont really wanna date a woman that dont have kids, cause they dont know what its like to have em, so they havent been put to the test, and to me it shows what kind of person they are the way they act around kids

Women do it too. I got kids and alot of women don't want to start a relationship with me because of that. These kind of conversations go both ways. Once you got kids your life changes and you should know what to expect.