Men feel thus they act whereas women feel thus most of the time we talk if men talk more rather than act , don’t you think relationships will last longer? Or if women act more rather than talk, life would be more peaceful? Lol.

This is you tube overload for me

Men and women are different.
We speak differently
Think differently
Act differently
And expect different outcomes from the same realities. All those differences highlights our qualities and faults.
Those differences are to be celebrated in a spirit of inclusiveness, not bemoaned as something to be changed or controlled.

You mean in a more platonic way? this is the internet world..Where everyone is in title to expres their opinion about almost anything.

With one more mention. It would be nice if the respect was/is mutual. The way i see it everything is changing.

Rooster I am not complaining. I am just in my usual curiosity mode. I agree with your thoughts . In our differences we find solace and in our differences we complement. Opposites do attract but don’t you think similarities are a very good thing too

And I strongly agree with you Lou

As with most things, if you want it you got to give it first, and first to yourself. So if you want respect you have to start with respecting yourself. You cannot expect others to respect you if you don't. And from there you can be respectful to others. And receive it. And if not, you respect yourself enough to remove yourself from a situation. Problem solved, lol.

I don't think men mind talking, but they'd appreciate to be listened to.
Also, if you want to talk about something and you communicate it in a feminine way a man will listen. Then he will also open up and you can have a good conversation, provided you listen to him as well of course.
I think the problem often is that we women tend to bottle things up -I guess that's in our upbringing?- or keep worrying about something in our minds even after it's been dealt with. Men are often much easier. You had a problem, you discuss it, it's over and dealt with and they let go. We keep going over it in our minds, thinking "Oh chit, I should've.... why did I say XYZ? Maybe he doesn't love me anymore blablabla" while a man has already forgotten about it.

As for talking about every single detail of the day... men don't have that need like we do. It's best to do that with a girl friend and not bother your guy with it.

I am not sure what the question is. If you are asking about a reversal of 'roles' where the men would talk and the women would act, we would have the same endgame.

If you are asking about men being more like women, and both 'talking', nothing would get done.

If you are asking about women being more like men and both 'acting', than noone would make real emotional connections.

I think it is best when they compliment each other and understand what their partners strengths and weaknesses are so they can work with them.

Exactly, i should have added that as well. Thank you for noticing it in time, Crystal. A know fact indeed.

I didn't think you were complaining at all.

Similarities are great too, of course, and as Human Beings it's obvious that we will have similarities.
The way I see it is we're all sisters and brothers and siblings don't always get along but, hopefully, the family bonds are stronger than arguments, pride and petty differences.

Well said

Not necessarily.
But it's just as possible a relationship could last longer than is healthy. Maybe the relationship shouldn't last longer but neither are willing to talk about anything meaningful, of value, or truthfully, instead putting on a false smile and talking about how everything is "fine," and what makes it "fine."


Depends on how they "acted."
I've heard stories of one of my great great grandma's that would hit her husband with a skillet when she was mad at him for some reason.
She also carried a brick in her bag wherever she went.
She had a tendency to swear a lot and explode with little provocation.

Other than that, asking people to change or act against their nature tends to force them to suppress their nature, which ultimately comes out in other ways that in many cases is destructive as they wish to break the facade.
Of themselves, others, or both, as a coping mechanism, a means of compensation or overcompensation. Combining the two (experienced behavior/talk and compensation/coping behavior) tends to lead to a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding.

Uh oh. This thread needs . . .

I was reading something similar a few days ago.

Early men and women were equal, say scientists
http://www.theguardian.com/science/2015/may/14/early-men-women-equal-scientists


“Sexual equality is one of a important suite of changes to social organization, including things like pair-bonding, our big, social brains, and language, that distinguishes humans”

The findings appear to be supported by qualitative observations of the hunter-gatherer groups in the study. In the Philippines population, women are involved in hunting and honey collecting and while there is still a division of labor, overall men and women contribute a similar number of calories to the camp. In both groups, monogamy is the norm and men are active in childcare.

I don't think the communication problems are gender driven.
In most relationships the talking and acting fluctuates.
I think the problems arise when one gender tries to live up to the hype of stereotypes.
When someone is constantly driven to "Be A Man" or "Be A Woman" it widens the gap.
Men can 'very much' be sensitive and women can 'very much' be productive.
I have witnessed it first hand.
Communication, honest communication is what causes relationships to last longer.
But not 'just' communication.
Learning to understand the other and accept the other is also vital.

Crystal women are more emotional than men and that is a trait I think that helps us become stronger if we use it in a positive way. I do feel with what you wrote that we have the license to be complicated and feminine at the same time lol but kidding aside I know we shouldn’t judge a persons character by their gender. Thank you your advices always speak to me in a positive way. I want to ask again, do you have any single men relative ? I was just reminded of Dutch men and my past post

^^^This! I agree, I believe we're the way we are and different for a reason. It's not about changing how someone thinks, feels, reacts to something so that we can get along better and have lasting relationships... It's about celebrating those differences, embracing them and the challenge of making it last comes with learning about each other, respecting who and what each of us are, and discovering a way to make it shine rather than letting it tear us apart.

You have one unique intense great grandma there ciretom I am sure you have a lot more relatives who have very strong personalities I do admire people like them who are not afraid of their own individuality and go for what they want and what they are. We either communicate well or just just or to the extreme not communicate at all, Men and women choose what they choose and deal with consequences all in our own unique way

David thanks for the popcorn ... we should wash it with something though Pepsi or coke? Lol