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Good for you!
I m not Flirting with you! 
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Thank you Tom. Won't say that I know the channel or the radio station but there must be some coincidence there as I'm a sucker for blues Kool, You might like this thread for some blues http://mingle2.com/topic/550149 Oh wow, we're way 
Sorry Toody 
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Just that. !
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Good for you! I m not Flirting with you!
OK!..thank you very much!.. 
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Not online. But when you're at home town events or gatherings are you a Flirt or a bit shy around people you don't know? Would you make the first move? As asking for date? I'm outging and a bit of a Flirt. I've never made the first move. I'm not a flirt but I'm not shy either. I don't approach a woman with the ulterior motive of getting with her, never have never will. I figure if she's interested enough she'll approach me and it has been working out just fine for me. I'm kinda the same way too. I've never met a stranger in my life. I'm outgoing and friendly. But I've learned that for the most part, it's best to let the woman approach me. I was taught growing up that a man is supposed to go after the woman. Pursue her. And I did that for many years. By the time I hit my mid 20's, I stopped. I finally realized that things had changed so much that I needed to change. With some women, flirting with them can get you into trouble. With some, just speaking to them can get you into trouble. So, to avoid those that seem to think they are all that and a bag of chips and every man wants them, I just let the interested come to me. Many women still! Want the man to make the First move! Not that they feel they are all that, but prefer not to look desperate for love connection. I m not that way, I make a move, even if I get rejections. 
After all rejections are a part of life. Even though No one likes it! True. But many wind up sitting at home because they don't even want to hint that they are interested. Many want the man to do it all. Foot all the rejection. Let all the guys chase her until she decides to let one catch her. That's not really right either. As I said, I don't expect any woman to throw herself at me. But at the same time, I'm not going to foot all the rejection either. So, if a woman is interested but refuses to throw a hint, I move on to the next one. Her loss. |
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I flirt with my eyes and am a complete gentleman with my actions. Having said that, I am not afraid to make the first move. Romance is lost if the first step is not taken.
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Edited by
Piscesmoon02
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Sat 03/10/18 05:00 PM
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Not online. But when you're at home town events or gatherings are you a Flirt or a bit shy around people you don't know? Would you make the first move? As asking for date? I'm outging and a bit of a Flirt. I've never made the first move. I'm not a flirt but I'm not shy either. I don't approach a woman with the ulterior motive of getting with her, never have never will. I figure if she's interested enough she'll approach me and it has been working out just fine for me. I'm kinda the same way too. I've never met a stranger in my life. I'm outgoing and friendly. But I've learned that for the most part, it's best to let the woman approach me. I was taught growing up that a man is supposed to go after the woman. Pursue her. And I did that for many years. By the time I hit my mid 20's, I stopped. I finally realized that things had changed so much that I needed to change. With some women, flirting with them can get you into trouble. With some, just speaking to them can get you into trouble. So, to avoid those that seem to think they are all that and a bag of chips and every man wants them, I just let the interested come to me. Many women still! Want the man to make the First move! Not that they feel they are all that, but prefer not to look desperate for love connection. I m not that way, I make a move, even if I get rejections.
After all rejections are a part of life. Even though No one likes it! True. But many wind up sitting at home because they don't even want to hint that they are interested. Many want the man to do it all. Foot all the rejection. Let all the guys chase her until she decides to let one catch her. That's not really right either. As I said, I don't expect any woman to throw herself at me. But at the same time, I'm not going to foot all the rejection either. So, if a woman is interested but refuses to throw a hint, I move on to the next one. Her loss. Or maybe your loss... Or both of your losses? So what kind of hint are you looking for and would you recognize a different kind of hint if it wasn't the kind you're expecting? Like Poetry, I flirt with my eyes and a coy smile... I think, lol. I generally don't make the first move but I do show body language of some kind that I would hope is obvious. Some times though it's frustrating because some men are clueless to subtle hints. Guess that's where just speaking up and taking the risk come in. A little scary, but maybe it's time to climb out of the box a little more. Of course I don't get out in public and am not looking right now... least not in person/face to face but that's off topic so I won't go there.
Once I leave this work assignment and venture onto my next adventure, who knows... maybe! |
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Not online. But when you're at home town events or gatherings are you a Flirt or a bit shy around people you don't know? Would you make the first move? As asking for date? I'm outging and a bit of a Flirt. Well next time I'm near Capitol or you are up on the mountain, we'll just have to see. *Groucho Eyebrows...and Gauntlet Thrown* |
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Not online. But when you're at home town events or gatherings are you a Flirt or a bit shy around people you don't know? Would you make the first move? As asking for date? I'm outging and a bit of a Flirt. Well next time I'm near Capitol or you are up on the mountain, we'll just have to see. *Groucho Eyebrows...and Gauntlet Thrown*
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Many men cannot read body language! If they see an attractive woman, especially in person they look at looks! Men are visiual. I heard.
They may think she's attached to him! Wishful thinking! Note- not talking. About online flirting! But In person encounters. |
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I always had trouble making that first contact with someone I didn't know. The result was I never had any contact information for someone I might be interested in. When I retired, I had personal business type cards printed that included my name, phone number and email along with some tidbits. I now use those as an introduction to new people. Saves getting refused when you ask for a number, shows your interest, and gives the lady an opportunity to follow up if there is a mutual interest..
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Business card! That's an interesting approach!
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I flirt with my eyes and am a complete gentleman with my actions. Having said that, I am not afraid to make the first move. Romance is lost if the first step is not taken. Romance is loss if one does not make the first move! One will move on, usually that's the man . |
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The business card approach. I have seen it used by quite a few guys. I have never really been very comfortable with it. I always feel like with a business card you give the impression that you are showing off as in "here is where I work and this is what I do and this is my position at work". Guess my biggest problem with it is that it's so easy to attract the wrong woman that way. Person might call you and show interest in you when in actual fact it's the money they believe you earn that they are after. And just like women sometimes find it hard to see if a man is only after sex,we men sometimes find it hard to see if a person is only after money
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NO, No not your business card!!! That is poor taste and yes, can be seen as bragging. I mean a personal card that you designed expressly as a greeting to others. Maybe a catchy phrase like Live Well; Laugh often: Love much. Mine is a couple phrases about being retired. Grab something from a T shirt you saw or some other sign/placard. It is a way to get your personal information to someone for their future consideration..
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Not online. But when you're at home town events or gatherings are you a Flirt or a bit shy around people you don't know? Would you make the first move? As asking for date? I'm outging and a bit of a Flirt. I've never made the first move. I'm not a flirt but I'm not shy either. I don't approach a woman with the ulterior motive of getting with her, never have never will. I figure if she's interested enough she'll approach me and it has been working out just fine for me. I'm kinda the same way too. I've never met a stranger in my life. I'm outgoing and friendly. But I've learned that for the most part, it's best to let the woman approach me. I was taught growing up that a man is supposed to go after the woman. Pursue her. And I did that for many years. By the time I hit my mid 20's, I stopped. I finally realized that things had changed so much that I needed to change. With some women, flirting with them can get you into trouble. With some, just speaking to them can get you into trouble. So, to avoid those that seem to think they are all that and a bag of chips and every man wants them, I just let the interested come to me. Many women still! Want the man to make the First move! Not that they feel they are all that, but prefer not to look desperate for love connection. I m not that way, I make a move, even if I get rejections.
After all rejections are a part of life. Even though No one likes it! True. But many wind up sitting at home because they don't even want to hint that they are interested. Many want the man to do it all. Foot all the rejection. Let all the guys chase her until she decides to let one catch her. That's not really right either. As I said, I don't expect any woman to throw herself at me. But at the same time, I'm not going to foot all the rejection either. So, if a woman is interested but refuses to throw a hint, I move on to the next one. Her loss. Or maybe your loss... Or both of your losses? So what kind of hint are you looking for and would you recognize a different kind of hint if it wasn't the kind you're expecting? Like Poetry, I flirt with my eyes and a coy smile... I think, lol. I generally don't make the first move but I do show body language of some kind that I would hope is obvious. Some times though it's frustrating because some men are clueless to subtle hints. Guess that's where just speaking up and taking the risk come in. A little scary, but maybe it's time to climb out of the box a little more. Of course I don't get out in public and am not looking right now... least not in person/face to face but that's off topic so I won't go there.
Once I leave this work assignment and venture onto my next adventure, who knows... maybe! Me personally, I don't want a woman to chase after me. That takes the fun out of it for me. But at the same time, women can sometimes be too subtle. And sometimes body language just doesn't work. It's not always the guy's fault that he doesn't catch on. You may feel like you are putting it out there plainly. When in reality you may be coming more off as less than lukewarm. In my whole dating life, I've met one woman that knew how to put her interest out there. And she did it in a way that didn't make her look easy or desperate. At the end of our date, she looked me right in the face and told me that she liked being with me and she hoped I would ask her out again. Plain and simple. No eye batting. No flicking her hair or grinning at me. LOL. Just plain, simple and honest. I was 21 then. We were together for 5 years. She turned out to be my first true love. In the end, things didn't work out. Our lives carried us in different directions. But to this day, she is the only one that ever talked to me that way. There were no "subtleties" with her. No hinting. She said what she wanted and how she felt. If I could have my way and be able to change every woman to be that way, I would in a heartbeat. Because for every woman the process of "hinting" to a man is different. As I've gotten older I've learned to pick up on a lot of them. But, I will always remember the one that was willing to put herself out there. One night she held my hand. The next she was holding my heart. By the way, the day we met she followed me around like a little-lost puppy. That night we all wound up down on the lake. She had hung around me all day. Just sharing with me whatever came along that day. That night we all wound up sitting around a campfire talking. It was really innocent. By 3 am we had shared so much of our day together, On my way home I couldn't help but think about her. The next day I called her. And it went from there. |
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Edited by
Piscesmoon02
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Tue 03/13/18 03:40 AM
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Me personally, I don't want a woman to chase after me. That takes the fun out of it for me. But at the same time, women can sometimes be too subtle. And sometimes body language just doesn't work. It's not always the guy's fault that he doesn't catch on. You may feel like you are putting it out there plainly. When in reality you may be coming more off as less than lukewarm. In my whole dating life, I've met one woman that knew how to put her interest out there. And she did it in a way that didn't make her look easy or desperate. At the end of our date, she looked me right in the face and told me that she liked being with me and she hoped I would ask her out again. Plain and simple. No eye batting. No flicking her hair or grinning at me. LOL. Just plain, simple and honest. I was 21 then. We were together for 5 years. She turned out to be my first true love. In the end, things didn't work out. Our lives carried us in different directions. But to this day, she is the only one that ever talked to me that way. There were no "subtleties" with her. No hinting. She said what she wanted and how she felt. If I could have my way and be able to change every woman to be that way, I would in a heartbeat. Because for every woman the process of "hinting" to a man is different. As I've gotten older I've learned to pick up on a lot of them. But, I will always remember the one that was willing to put herself out there. One night she held my hand. The next she was holding my heart. By the way, the day we met she followed me around like a little-lost puppy. That night we all wound up down on the lake. She had hung around me all day. Just sharing with me whatever came along that day. That night we all wound up sitting around a campfire talking. It was really innocent. By 3 am we had shared so much of our day together, On my way home I couldn't help but think about her. The next day I called her. And it went from there. Sounds like you don't really want a hint, just for the woman to say it straight out that she's interested. And it sounds like she would have a really difficult time being herself, rather than feeling like she had to measure up to the standards of your first love. Good luck finding that Charles, hope you do and hope you see her for who she is rather than who she's not! |
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Me personally, I don't want a woman to chase after me. That takes the fun out of it for me. But at the same time, women can sometimes be too subtle. And sometimes body language just doesn't work. It's not always the guy's fault that he doesn't catch on. You may feel like you are putting it out there plainly. When in reality you may be coming more off as less than lukewarm. In my whole dating life, I've met one woman that knew how to put her interest out there. And she did it in a way that didn't make her look easy or desperate. At the end of our date, she looked me right in the face and told me that she liked being with me and she hoped I would ask her out again. Plain and simple. No eye batting. No flicking her hair or grinning at me. LOL. Just plain, simple and honest. I was 21 then. We were together for 5 years. She turned out to be my first true love. In the end, things didn't work out. Our lives carried us in different directions. But to this day, she is the only one that ever talked to me that way. There were no "subtleties" with her. No hinting. She said what she wanted and how she felt. If I could have my way and be able to change every woman to be that way, I would in a heartbeat. Because for every woman the process of "hinting" to a man is different. As I've gotten older I've learned to pick up on a lot of them. But, I will always remember the one that was willing to put herself out there. One night she held my hand. The next she was holding my heart. By the way, the day we met she followed me around like a little-lost puppy. That night we all wound up down on the lake. She had hung around me all day. Just sharing with me whatever came along that day. That night we all wound up sitting around a campfire talking. It was really innocent. By 3 am we had shared so much of our day together, On my way home I couldn't help but think about her. The next day I called her. And it went from there. Sounds like you don't really want a hint, just for the woman to say it straight out that she's interested. And it sounds like she would have a really difficult time being herself, rather than feeling like she had to measure up to the standards of your first love. Good luck finding that Charles, hope you do and hope you see her for who she is rather than who she's not! Hum? It sounds like you don't quite understand me. That happened many years ago. I know better than to look for that exact thing in someone else.As a matter of fact, I reasonably sure that was a fluke. The great majority of women that I've known are not that way. Plus, I think just about everyone has had their first love. No other will be like that first one for most people. That first love will always hold a spot in my heart. But that doesn't mean that no one else can measure up. And it doesn't mean she can't be herself. I wouldn't want it no other way. But to the subject of hinting. Yes, I'm OK with women who throw me a hint. All I'm trying to say is, many don't know how to be clear. And yes, I know that some men are just dumb when it comes to that. That's part of the point I'm trying to make. A great many men need a clear hint. That's just the way they are. Another reason to be clear, I'm sure there are other men out there that have come across women that (seem) to flirt with them. And when the guy returns it, they get upset. We come across women that will flirt with a man and then shut him down when he returns it. In other words, teasing. And yes, grown women do that. So' if you're not comfortable with just coming out and saying how you feel, at least throw a clear hint. Yes, there are some dumb men out there. And some that you might think are being dumb when they really aren't. You might not have been clear enough. Also, he might have had some women in his life that teased him that way. Which makes him take a step back and not accept the way you are approaching him. All I'm saying, Is just be clear. |
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I would smile at anyone who smiles at me In person and have a conversation if spoken to, otherwise I really don’t make the first move... perhaps that’s why I’m still here in mingle lol. And no feelings are authentic for me till I meet the person in person
at least no seriously all consuming heart stopping kind of emotions. I believe if I meet him online and he is dead serious about me he will do everything in real time. An interest is just plain interest till it develops into something else. I am openly getting to know people as I am not in any committed relationship. My flirting skills are just amateurish lol
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I would smile at anyone who smiles at me In person and have a conversation if spoken to, otherwise I really don’t make the first move... perhaps that’s why I’m still here in mingle lol. And no feelings are authentic for me till I meet the person in person
at least no seriously all consuming heart stopping kind of emotions. I believe if I meet him online and he is dead serious about me he will do everything in real time. An interest is just plain interest till it develops into something else. I am openly getting to know people as I am not in any committed relationship. My flirting skills are just amateurish lol
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