It would appear that more and more people are deciding against breaking things off with someone the adult and proper way, and instead choosing to ghost them (ignore texts and phone calls). This classless and cowardly practice is not just limited to the dating scene. In any arena of life, a growing number of people think it's acceptable to just disrespectfully ignore a person, a date, business associate, even friend, if the person no longer suits his/her purpose. I was ghosted by a lady after 5 dates, and a lady I am communicating with was ghosted by her best friend of 20 years. To this day, neither one of us have the foggiest idea as to why. Yet, at the end of the day, we realize that the practice of ghosting says a lot more about the perpetrator than the victim.

Have you experienced ghosting, or ghosted someone else?

Hummm ghosting has to do with relationships in personal ones not friendships...

Within a relationship when that happens it is basically saying the one that is doing is a chicken **** and don't know how to end the relationship.... maybe they have found someone else or the relationship is toxic and they have no idea how to end it who knows???

With friendships many times it has to do with the person that is doing it, and what they have gotten into.. that is causing problems within the friendship.. and that could be on either of the friends side.. Something has caused a issue.. or maybe the person they are with is controlling and limits them... One must dig deeper on these type of issues... When a long time friend quits talking to you there is something going on if it is not the one they are avoiding then it is something within their life they don't want them to know about..

Myself no I have never ghosted anyone I'm pretty point blank and don't have a problem telling someone that I'm just not into them...

What is kittenfishing?

Kittenfishing is so-named because it is essentially “catfishing lite.” Whereas catfishing is the practice of creating an entirely fake person to engage with someone while internet dating, kittenfishing is when a mobile date-seeker presents a version of themselves that does not come close to lining up with reality.

Very old or heavily edited photos, lies about height or background, and “farming out” conversations to others are all elements of kittenfishing, according to an article from dating app (and purported authority on the topic) Hinge.

Ha, never knew it was labeled.

As for ghosting
I nearly ghosted the entire planet a few years ago.
Will likely do so in the near future.

When that happened I was ghosted by nearly everyone I knew.
I'm still ghosted.
Meh

The more I learn, the more I appreciate the depth of the social skills of the women I talk to. I don’t actually place my trust in anyone until I really get to know them well, and if I get ghosted, I just look at the horizon and go to church. Ghosting is not always a bad thing. One time a woman told me I was clingy and not socially adapted, then blocked me. She did ghosting with style because she left me with a resolution. That is better than the way most things probably end. I hope she is doing well.

On the other hand, ghosting Heaven or Earth is rather tragic. One person kills their self every 40 seconds. I have no respect for anyone that would do that. I do like hearing about the vividness of life and how fellows and women are doing, here on the forums.

Thanks blondey made it to cuffing. that was a enough for me.

I'm sure you do!

Not really.

I mean when I was in 6th grade in the 80's my 5th grade "girlfriend" had her friend call me and say she didn't want to play with me anymore then hung up, then (girlfriend) wouldn't come to the phone, and her parents kept telling me she was out when I dropped by.

In middle school a girl sent me a note, telling me I was cute and wanted to date me, with her phone number. Then she never answered any of my calls, started pretending not to see me at school, ignored me or ran off when I saw her in the halls. I learned her friend is friends with a friend and a friend of that friend that was friends with my friend told me they didn't like me and told her she shouldn't go out with me.

In high school it was pretty common to hook up at beer parties and then completely ignore each other, pretend the other didn't exist whenever you saw each other in the halls. Lots of status and partner hopping and hoping no one would tell anyone what each other did when they were drunk.

In middle school through college I had several friends. As soon as we graduated many moved away to different parts of the country and we never contacted each other again.

Not to mention, I grew up on movies where a significant portion of the plot was "don't call her, when to call her, make her call you," or, "just have a one night stand and move on, while buttering her up by being her perfect dreamboat," or, "practice your excuse to keep them from spending the night, or having to sleep over."

I think "ghosting" is not a new trend nor "the latest trend in online dating."

I think it's been around awhile. I think the internet and interacting via such highly impersonal means has simply made the "cold shoulder" or "brush off" or "moving on" or "objectifying user" more effective and easier.

But it's nothing really new. At best a new term for an old phenomenon to make the kids today think they're special victims or something and deserve some kind of special prize and consideration and empathy and power.


Sure.
All the time.
Based on what's offered in the OP I ghosted a woman at Wendy's yesterday. We were all nice and had a pleasant conversation as she took my order, then when I saw her in the parking lot smoking...I didn't stop and have a conversation or have "the talk" about why I was only using her to get me a frosty! I just ignored her, got in my car, and left!


Why wouldn't it be.
- people aren't really all that dependent upon each other in communities, relationships are primarily pursued more for changing emotional benefit rather than group cohesion/security, cultural perpetuation, or basic necessities.

- with globalization, multiculturalism, diversity, easy access to thousands, millions, billions online, there isn't really a common culture applying social pressure against the practice. Not to mention they increase the disposability of the individual.

- there is no real reward for not ghosting someone. If every day someone you were in a relationship with said "thanks for sticking around, thanks for not leaving me today," they'd probably be labeled insecure, not offering a social reward for not ghosting.

- there is no real punishment for ghosting. You get ghosted, what can you do? Go online and post some butthurt comment they'll never read or care about and/or could quickly get over via the power of rationalizing.

- there are more negative consequences to going through a breakup. Stress, anxiety, social pressure, time, annoyance, drama, loss of control, miscommunication leading to furthering of an undesired relationship.

All ghosting really does is show you that you and your feelings aren't the center of the universe.


Maybe.
It could potentially be a passive means of communicating the personality type of the person being ghosted.

The less often it happens randomly or in general, but the more often one person does it, the more it says about the "perpetrator."

The less often it happens in general, but the more often it happens to one person, the more it actually says about the "victim."

The more often it happens in general, the less it says about either the perpetrator or the victim. It just becomes a norm.
Like saying "driving" tells you more about the person driving than the passenger.

I would think that those that follow you in here ...
are ghosting you ...

see know sign of them but yet their reading what you have to say ...
interesting ...

as far as a relationship ... if thats what they call it ... then it would be obvious to me they did not want to be with me ... and don't have the B*lls to tell me ... in any kind of relationship... so I would move on ... not saying I would not be hurt or thought maybe that was the reason they are not replying to me ... but have so much more in my life then to play their games ... I am spot on in telling you how I feel ... no games here ...

I have expirienced the same. The solution to them is when they ghosted you, ghost them back by blocking them from all your contacts, my judgenent!