Many say they would like to find and have a relationship, with a soul mate. Actually, there is no such thing as just one soul mate. There are many choices for a match for a person. Match meanig having the same values.

I don't believe in soulmates.

I agree. You can really only call a couple soul mates after they have spent several years together and they still like and respect each other.

I agree there’s no single person out there who is our one true match.

I believe there are a huge number of people with similar enough values to possibly be a comfortable fit.

Then a much smaller number of those who will ever cross our paths.

Of those, a very small percentage might click with us on a more specific level; how we communicate, sense of humor, expectations in life and other commonalities.

Then an even smaller percent who we’ll be physically drawn to.

Of this handful, we find one who feels that we are also a good choice and see if we even spark. After all that, I think it’s easy to feel this one was meant for us.

But being a “one and only” from that moment on is all about our choosing them to be that to us.

That’s how I see it...sorry for getting so chatty about it. Lol!

There are many soul mates.
(digress to favorite quote)

Your task is not to seek for love but rather to find and destroy the walls within yourself, you have built against it. Rumi

Very thought provoking quote, and so true!

Thanks, I enjoyed reading your response! It definitely makes sense.

PM & Crystal

You got thousands of soulmates. A soulmate is not the other half of you.
Most everyone that means something in your life is a soulmate. Siblings, friends, colleagues, ex partners and current and future partners and so on.
Most don't get to meet their other half this life, although there is an increasing number that do because the time is ready for that.
However, coming together with them is NOT for the romantic "living happily ever after" purpose. They come together because they have a higher goal/task to fulfill. The journey for these souls -called Twinflames- is not an easy one and not for the faint of heart. The connection is intensely deep, deeper than any other connection, and thus you can trigger each other's old pains that still need to be purged. This can take quite some time and can be far from pleasant. The Twinflames more often than not don't make it as a romantic couple.
If you want the calm and peacefully fulfilling love, you better hook up with a soulmate, which is NOT your soul's other half, but usually allows for more a peaceful relationship.

The ones looking for their Twinflame won't find them either. They come into your life when you are ready for it and this is typically when you don't expect it at all. Meaning when you're not looking for it. It's divinely orchestrated as the purpose of them coming together has to do with a higher purpose, and that ain't sitting on the coach holding hands and feeding each other bonbons. If you want that, go find a soulmate. Which is what most end up with anyways.
It truly is a mere handful who get to meet their Twinflame as most aren't even close to being ready for such a connection yet.
A Twinflame connection cannot be sustained if there's still co-dependency, it cannot be anything other than interdependent. Totally accepting the other as they are, no judgement, not even when there's something you don't like.
And there you have your problem: almost everyone has some level of co-dependency still, fear of abandonment or commitment and so on. Meaning: not ready for their Twinflame.

Thank you! I love flowers

YW
....and back to subject....

I guess I really am just waiting for my density.

I can relate to that

I wonder though if we will recognize it when it arrives?

And You.

Destroy the walls within ourselves and leave us vulnerable and open to love and pain The walls were not there for nothing it was built because of reasons only we know. How do we cope with pain if not for these walls. But I do agree with destiny and choices and soulmates just skeptical about it

A sentiment that is SO consistent with a pseudo(name).....especially for this "particular" subject.

The walls don't help us cope Sis, that's an illusion. The walls keep the pain inside, causing us to suffer longer, or at a later time. Usually when we enter another relationship, the pain trapped behind the walls resurfaces and interferes with the current relationship we're in.

Tearing down the walls and destroying them lets us deal with the pain, if there is any, heal from that, and be stronger in the light of any new pain.

It also frees us to love more fully

PM