The walls don't help us cope Sis, that's an illusion. The walls keep the pain inside, causing us to suffer longer, or at a later time. Usually when we enter another relationship, the pain trapped behind the walls resurfaces and interferes with the current relationship we're in.

Tearing down the walls and destroying them lets us deal with the pain, if there is any, heal from that, and be stronger in the light of any new pain.

It also frees us to love more fully

Your heart.? ss

Hugs.

That’s a very good explanation sis. I guess this reasoning of mine has something to do too with my heart condition anyways i will remember your advice and hopefully put it to practice thanks

The walls don't help us cope Sis, that's an illusion. The walls keep the pain inside, causing us to suffer longer, or at a later time. Usually when we enter another relationship, the pain trapped behind the walls resurfaces and interferes with the current relationship we're in.

Tearing down the walls and destroying them lets us deal with the pain, if there is any, heal from that, and be stronger in the light of any new pain.

It also frees us to love more fully

That’s a very good explanation sis. I guess this reasoning of mine has something to do too with my heart condition anyways i will remember your advice and hopefully put it to practice thanks

Thanks Crystal I always appreciate your advice by strong inside would that mean being able to forget past heartbreak and take another chance in love again?

Well, not really forget, but not let it influence you anymore. Heal. Really get over the wounds and fears that they created. Change limiting beliefs around, for instance "I'm not worthy of love" or "Love sux" or "All men leave me anyways" or whatever beliefs you hold deep down.
You cannot be open on the outside when you are reacting from fear still. Because first you need that inner strength to keep you up so to speak and once you got that you can open the doors to the outside and become open and receptive and so on (= feminine).
So inner work. Working on self-esteem, limiting beliefs and so on.
And yes, when you've done that, you will take another chance in love. I mean, isn't that what we all want? But you cannot get the whole enchilada if you yourself aren't the 'whole enchilada' as you hold back from fear of getting hurt again.
So yes, it may feel like taking a risk, but if it feels like that, a risk to get hurt again, it is actually an indication that you haven't healed everything yet.
Otherwise you'd feel it's another chance to find happiness, a new opportunity and the world is your oyster. You'd go for it, knowing you are deserving and worthy, and fully trusting. Which is trusting yourself. Trusting that not matter what you got you. You can handle it. Because you have this inner strength.

there is no such thing as just one soul mate.

Many say they would like to find and have a relationship, with a soul mate.

Eh.
That's your opinion and may be true for you, and may be true for you just because you want to believe it.
That doesn't mean it's true for everyone.

Might as well say there is no such thing as one god.

I mean:

Many say they would like to find and have a relationship with god.
...Some people are motivated by their religious faith, and want a more personal relationship with their god, strive to be better at their beliefs, actually hear voices, whatever.
...Some people don't believe in god, but they see community when they go to church, see people and how they behave when they feel they have a relationship with god, real or delusional, so feel their life would be improved if they could "drink the koolaid" so to speak and have their own "relationship with god" and the quality of emotional life they observe other people having because of it.

By saying something like "there is no such thing as just one soul mate" is little different than saying "there is no such ting as one god.

You might be completely missing the point of what and/or why someone is telling you "they would like to find and have a relationship, with a soul mate."
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That is Your opinion!

Post is about a soul mate not about God.

A soul mate is a myth, however, there is only One True and living God, Jehovah.

I agree there’s no single person out there who is our one true match.

I believe there are a huge number of people with similar enough values to possibly be a comfortable fit.

Then a much smaller number of those who will ever cross our paths.

Of those, a very small percentage might click with us on a more specific level; how we communicate, sense of humor, expectations in life and other commonalities.

Then an even smaller percent who we’ll be physically drawn to.

Of this handful, we find one who feels that we are also a good choice and see if we even spark. After all that, I think it’s easy to feel this one was meant for us.

But being a “one and only” from that moment on is all about our choosing them to be that to us.

That’s how I see it...sorry for getting so chatty about it. Lol!

YW
....and back to subject....

I guess I really am just waiting for my density.

Usually when we enter another relationship, the pain trapped behind the walls resurfaces and interferes with the current relationship we're in.

That is Your opinion!

Post is about a soul mate not about God.

A soul mate is a myth, however, there is only One True and living God, Jehovah.

Where's all the men, on this subject?

I’m finding it fascinating reading and quite gripping.

I couldn’t compete with the intellect in this thread. As I write this I’ve forgotten what the original question was.