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What is true ? What is right? What is fair? These are questions we ask ourselves in loving someone we don’t like. Loving is a choice and not liking them or what they do is part of loving. We put aside our own feelings to do what is best for them and not ourselves.... Heard from instagram. What do you guys think? scepticalsoulmate, why don't you answer this for a change! |
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Hhhhmmm.... ok thank you all for your reactions and for understanding that I just heard this over social media. I was just intrigued about it that’s why I posted it here. The person who said it was some sort of preacher that’s why he said it the way he did I guess. As of my own opinion, I do agree with most of you guys here. Love and liking cannot be separated. You cannot love someone you don’t like unless you don’t have a choice given some factors. But but but... there is always a choice. Our choices makes us unique. Our choices are what we make of our lives but for me it does not define a person. The act is a separate matter from the person. If someone likes flowery scents it does not make him a flower. If a girl loves intimacy it doesn’t make her cheap. There is a story behind every act. We don’t have to like what a person does. We can understand and decide if it’s acceptable or not then move on. But most importantly is we know and accept ourselves for what we are and what we’re not. Peace to all ...
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"What is true ? What is right? What is fair? These are questions we ask ourselves in loving someone we don’t like. Loving is a choice and not liking them or what they do is part of loving. We put aside our own feelings to do what is best for them and not ourselves....
Heard from instagram. What do you guys think?" Allow me to take a hit here. What is true ?, what we believe to be. What is right?, what we feel confortable with. What is fair?, well. To love is a choice, I agree. not liking them or what they do is part of loving., I can not agree, I find it to be acceptance. We put aside our own feelings to do what is best for them and not ourselves...., as long as it does not hurt you, to me is acceptance, otherwise you are lying to yourself. Now the title for the tread, Loving someone you don’t like. As a form of faith we tend to love, accept, "personas" that we do not see as a first choice in our life. That is a totally different kind of love. If you love, as love is meant to be in a couples life, if you love someone you hate, that is lying and it is not fair for the receiving end. Situations like this define you as a person. So scepticalsoulmate, I still do not know what call your attention here? |
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It really doesn’t matter what caught my attention it was just the thought that we cannot really not like the person we love. That is all. I for one cannot hate the person I say that I love. It’s something very hard to do. IMO
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Hhhhmmm.... ok thank you all for your reactions and for understanding that I just heard this over social media. I was just intrigued about it that’s why I posted it here. The person who said it was some sort of preacher that’s why he said it the way he did I guess. As of my own opinion, I do agree with most of you guys here. Love and liking cannot be separated. You cannot love someone you don’t like unless you don’t have a choice given some factors. But but but... there is always a choice. Our choices makes us unique. Our choices are what we make of our lives but for me it does not define a person. The act is a separate matter from the person. If someone likes flowery scents it does not make him a flower. If a girl loves intimacy it doesn’t make her cheap. There is a story behind every act. We don’t have to like what a person does. We can understand and decide if it’s acceptable or not then move on. But most importantly is we know and accept ourselves for what we are and what we’re not. Peace to all ... Very well said Sis, thank you for sharing your thoughts 
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Thanks Sis
 I missed our exchange of thoughts too. Hope all is well 
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You're welcome, aside from a touch of the flu, all is well
 Hope all is well with you too
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With my feelings for ice cream, being lactose intolerant would suck!
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You're welcome, aside from a touch of the flu, all is well Hope all is well with you too Get well soon dear you need some tender loving care 
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With my feelings for ice cream, being lactose intolerant would suck! [/ The way I see this beach is like loving something you know you CANT love . Like my love for tom cruise lol  |
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You're welcome, aside from a touch of the flu, all is well Hope all is well with you too Get well soon dear you need some tender loving care Thanks  
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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Sat 02/03/18 06:36 PM
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sorry ss but loving someone, anyone that i don't like is not gonna happen. tom's ladder is a fair way to describe it. about the only exception i could see would be, for instance... i love that guy's music but nope i don't like him as a person.  I love their music but I do not like them personally ... I like someone as a friend or even love but not romantically ... I use to think relationships are to compromise becouse either is perfect ... but love is a emotion to hang on to or not and let it go ... if not loved back ... there are so many circumstances & emotions ... one could go through about what you are asking ... love them hate their actions ... but you can not live with their actions if you feel they are wrong ... they are all addictions ... seems to me anyway ... and u have to ask yourself what is good for you or your family... |
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Loving is a choice, I can love a person because they are a human being, and it has nothing to do with whether I agree with their views or their character! However, I don't have to associate with them. Wow, that just cheapens my whole idea of love. Might as well say I love this rock because it is part of Earth and I love Earth because it is where I live and it keeps me alive. However, I don't have to go stand in a volcano. I m talking about Humans not rocks! |
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I thought the logic chain on that one was pretty weird as well.
God is Love Love is Blind Stevie Wonder is Blind Stevie Wonder is God |
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That’s a good one
 
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Edited by
Two
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Sat 02/03/18 10:53 PM
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It depends on how good they at making love as to how much I can dislike them and still put up with them...
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It depends on how good they at making love as to how much I can dislike them and still put up with them... Kinda vague there 2em 
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The only thing I truly hate in this world is getting sick and deathly smells
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The only thing I truly hate in this world is getting sick and deathly smells Welcome to my world  Anyway, love as such? Dunno if it exists. I stopped believing in it at least 3 years ago. Though I am open to discover this feeling again. |
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Loving someone you don’t like .. Complicated, but not impossible. Usually we like and love. But you can also love a person, who doesn't act as you like .. sometimes .. or doesn't quite look as you would like to .. you may love his/her inner personality more than his/her visible disadvantages .. hoping that your love might change those aspects of what you do not like .. No one is perfect, and we must deal with that. Yup .. when the love hits in its unexpected ways, everything is possible, but usually we tend automatically like those people we love .. doesn't matter how imperfect He/She might be .. |
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