I've been seeing a girl for almost a month now, but I have no idea what is going on. She wants me to hold her and we hold hands, but we have never kissed, she isn't even ready for a kiss yet, what's up with that i know. We aren't considered boyfriend girlfriend yet. I really like her, but I get mixed signals with her. I don't talk much, I am very quiet, that's just who I am...could that be why?

Unless you are a teenager, I would say something is not going correctly. I'm mean slow is ok, but a month and not even a kiss. Even on a 3rd date if things are well I'll go in for a little kiss at least. Unless she attacks me first, which i am always fine with.

But from what you are saying, I sense problems.

Sounds like she doesn't fully know what she wants either and thats why she gives mixed signals... I would flat out ask her what's going on? What does she want or looking for so you know what route to take...

How old is she? Maybe she is too young for you.

maybe she never had a kiss before teach her

she is almost 26, I'm 28. I honestly don't know if she has ever kissed before, the way she talks to me it sounds like she never has, she is a virgin.

Maybe she's waiting to kiss because it would mean that much to her.


When I dated this one girl I was her first bf and she wanted our first (her first kiss) to be special, so I waited 6 months to do so...


it's worth it the wait.

6 months is a long time for a kiss

good thing your shy also

take your time and go with the flow , let it happen on it's own , iif it's meant to be it will hapeen

Yeah I know it's a long time for a kiss. But if you like her that much and think she's worth it... then it is worth it.

Yeah

i think JOSHY should date her , he sounds more patient and willing to take his time to collect the prize

What should I do about my quietness problems? She talks a lot and I don't seem to talk back much

she does realize I am quiet though, of course something like that is pretty obvious. I never know what to say. I have always been afraid that people wouldn't be interested in what I say, so I just don't talk.

I met a couple once who's first kiss ever ( to anyone) was on their wedding day... They thought it was well worth it. If you think it is than wait but if you're not sure, then you need to ask her what she wants.

Are you quiet with everyone or just her?

It sounds to me like you have a winner. If she's never been with a guy, chances are she has never been kissed, or has but not very well. I would definitely talk to her more on the subject. Maybe she's really nervous and shy and waiting for you to make a move. I would keep on with the affection, cuddling, holding hands, etc. Then if you find a good time to give a kiss, then don't pass it up. I say if you play it out and don't force it, you won't regret it in the long run. Anything worth doing, is worth taking your time and doing right.

Don't worry about it, bro. I mean, she should like you for you, right? So if you think you're being dumb when you talk or whatever, she might find it cute. Trust me, when i feel dumb when I talk she thinks it's cute.

Just be yourself and be patient. Take nothing in life for granted, because if you do you might regret it.

I'm quiet with everyone Jill, even my parents

Then you're just a quiet guy, no harm in that.


But if you wanna try and talk more to please her just say what's on your mind, what your thoughts are.