Is it OK for you to be Friends with your Ex??? : or and Now you are in a New Relationship. Is it OK for you to be Friends with your Ex and the Ex is the one before your New Relationship??? Your thoughts please...

Sure you can be friends with your Ex. Just because a relationship didn't work out..Most relationships start with friendship. So sometimes going back to that works well for some people. I see nothing wrong with it. (as long as that isn't hidden from their new relationship)

Absolutely. It's quite helpful if you have children together...

If I am dating someone and they are meeting their ex for drinks or doing some activity, I would not be in that relationship long. If they are in the same group of friends and happen to be around each other and are friendly, that's fine.

my 2 cents

Everyone is different some can handle it and have moved on, some it is constant memory and hanging around them for the wrong reasons..

My self I'm still friends with my ex which is my kids dad.. He still calls when it has something to do with the kids.. Heck he don' live but 10 blocks from me.. We are not buddy buddy but to this day if I called him and was broke down he would come get me...

Now as far as buddy buddy well that is not my thing but I would never be rude to a ex if we happen to be at the same place..

Heck the kids dad, we make all the games the grand kids play in and sit and cut up... And his gf of 15 years is right there too cutting up with us..

But we don't go places together unless it involves our kids or grandkids.

But I don't have a problem being friendly with a ex, just not one I would hang out with constantly...

It all depends.A case to case basis scenario kind of thing.

If your former has full of **** and treat you like a ****.Would you still want to be in touch even if for FRIENDSHIP sake?!

Thank you for your comments, I personally do NOT want to be friends with my EX. We tried... it did not work, Now time 2 move on.... No Looking back... I'm not designed to look backwardz...IJS

flowerforyou Thank you for your comments, I personally do NOT want to be friends with my EX. We tried... it did not work, Now time 2 move on....drinks No Looking back...waving waving waving I'm not designed to look backwardz...IJS

My ex and her husband are two of my best friends. My ex fiance and her new BF, which is a friend of mine, are still friends as well. So, yes.

Thank you for your comments, I personally do NOT want to be friends with my EX. We tried... it did not work, Now time 2 move on....drinks No Looking back...
;waving: I'm not designed to look backwardz...IJS

um ya I would not call it friends

mutually retreating to respective corners perhaps
a barely veiled olive branch for the sake of our children
there but then again only barely there..

we can be civil to one another
as long as our direct contact
is kept short and to the point
we do better with email or text

if we must speak
phone is better than in person
face to face
is do-able depending on the topic
and ...the tone of voice

but at any moment
ANY MOMENT
we can back slide
into immediate swift warfare

I think it depends largely on why you still want to remain friends.
If there's any sense of not being able to let go and thus friendship is a means to sort of hang on to crumbs of what you couldn't get... no way should you remain friends.

This can be from the one who got 'dumped', but also from the 'dumper' themselves:
I know people who are commitment phobes and remain friends with an ex/exes because then that person in is 'safe territory' --> They can still enjoy all the good with that ex / exes without the fear of having to commit surfacing.

If that is the case I think it's best to not remain friends either because then you're basically using the other or you are being used.
In a way I feel it's quite simple: you're either in or you're out. If someone doesn't want to be all the way in, then he doesn't get to choose the parts he can stomach either (friends & fun, maybe sex even).

I generally do not remain friends. An ex is someone I wanted to build a life and future with. To me "Friends" and "Partners / ex partners" are two totally separate things.

The fact that you keep repeating this, after asking first "is it okay?" leads me to suspect that either an ex is trying to force their way back into your life, on the grounds that you are SUPPOSED to remain friends after a breakup, or someone else who you hoped to be exclusive with, is demanding that you allow them to continue seeing their "ex," for similar manipulative reasons.

Either way, the bottom line is, that you, and your ex, and any new person you hope to be with, all have the OPTION to do as you wish with each other; but each of you also has to accept how the other REACTS to what you want.

So if it's your ex, for example, who wants to push back into your life, they can try to do that. But they have to accept that you will say no, and if they continue to push, that you might take legal action to have them constrained by the local authorities. Similarly,if a new potential mate wants to keep their ex involved, they have to accept that you wont like that, and that you will then leave and look for a mate who DOESN'T carry an "ex" around all the time.

My X has become everything I hate in a person.
I have to 'steer clear' of her or I get angry, I don't like being angry.
This isolation works fine except...
She likes to stir the pot like a witch.
She pits our children against each other.
It breaks their unity as siblings.
It was my job to try to reunify them and clean up the damage she does. It got really old and was very depressing.
I stopped.
They are all adults and I expect them to act accordingly.
It got to the point that the only time I would hear from any of them is when they needed to tell me, mom said this, mom did that.
I told them if they want to talk to me or see me, they need to do so because they want to talk to or see ME, not complain about what they let their mom do to them.
Now, I get no contact at all? So be it.

hell no.

Friends yes, not involved sexually!

My own experience: I didn't mind to stay as a friend when the relationship didn't work, but I'm quite certain that people will definitely think twice like I did, because it's still a month of the break up, I just couldn't help but started to feel 'wtf' when my ex kept telling me how happy she is with her new lover: my good friend

I was in the same situation he was still in contact with his ex stating we are just friend. But after 4 months I left him. She was intrusive into our relationship and he put her first all the time we argued. so my answer to you is better start a clean page and an 'ex' should stay an 'ex'

Well said...!!!