Hi! Im a single mom to be.. Im having a hard time now accepting the fact tha Im goin to be a single Mom since my boyfriend left me. Ive been looking for a group of people that will going to understand my situation.. Yes I have friends, they gave advise.. but I know they cant understand what Im going through right now..

i am a single mom of three after i got annulled for 11 years. do not worry you’re not alone. just stay strong for your baby coz he/she would be the best thing that can ever happen to you. they are true blessings from above. learn from the mistake that you made with your bf and be wiser. good luck here in mingle and dont let anyone take advantage of your vulnerability . God bless

Thank you.. but I think Im on my way to depression.. everytime I wake up and before sleeping I have this feeling as If My sadness, problems anf fears are hoing to eat me.. Im struggling..

I would encourage you to go in and talk to somebody darling
I don't know where you live but a doctor or a counselor maybe?
friends, family to support you at this time
not sure of your age but you look young
just take this one day at a time

Nice advice.

Right now, it is overwhelming for you. Trust me when I say the moment your baby is in your arms, you will change.
You will find the strength to live day by day, as your child will motivate you
Celebrate this new life ahead. Finally you will have someone to love and that love will last forever and ever.

TMommy is correct, if you are experiencing what may be clinical depression, I would talk to professionals and not random people on the internet.

Mother hood is not easy, especially when a two person job is forced into a one person job instead. Your baby will love you, but it will be hard work, but you need help to fine the balance of accepting the 'job' and finding the 'joy' of the fruits of labor you will observe in the walking miracle you created.

My heart goes to you. Shame on your bf for leaving you in your condition. I hope he burns in hell... oh he is not dead? Well he should be.

It is not going to be easy. I hope you get emotional support from your friends and family. And financial support from your bf (if he is not dead yet!)

Well, from experience my Dad died suddenly at 33 yrs. Mom raised all of us.. 8 Kids. ( city kids.. we were ball busters) she was 30 yrs old at the time. And looking back .we were poor. She did it. and we all turned out fine.

Single Mom women hold my highest respect.

You will find the strength within you.

Take it one minute... One hour... One day at a time...

Find someone to talk to whether a trusted friend, family member or professional.

It IS overwhelming in the beginning.

You are much stronger than you know.. You can do this...

When I became a single dad I had no male friends that were single dads,also I had no time to seek groups or advice. Between work, food shopping, laundry, cooking, homework, soccer, baseball and on and on, where do you find time for that? LOL

I would say just follow your instincts, it can be a brutal undertaking and you live almost in a state of perpetual exhaustion but you adapt and get use to it.

The great benefit of being a single parent is that you get a much more profound and closer relationship with your children then any married couple would have. Good luck

Be comforted in the fact that the baby has you as his/her mother.

I don’t know the whole story but on face value, if a guy can leave a girl while she’s pregnant with his kid, then he’s not worthy to be his/her father.

I am looking for a single mom who is independent and wants to travel and have fun

Yeah lonliness and depression mostly seem to bite when a person is alone, but can bite when a person is in company too.

Best thing is to stay close to family and seek help in God too (if you are a believer).

Like ScepticalSoulmate mentioned:
Stay strong for your child

And Like T Mommy mentioned,
Seek PROFESSIONAL advice.
Take baby steps.
One day at a time.

Good Luck

Jaan

No one change the fact but people around you can play supportive roles.
Suppose that your boyfriend is no more. you are the father mother and every thing for your baby.
Be strong take the responsibility and in future every one appreciate for your strong and bold personality

And what.. drag the kid around while you have " fun".. kid = school.. stability... structure

not plane hopping with some playboy. Oh I mean" Adventurerod" Lol

I completely understand how you feel. I'm going through the same thing right now..I am talking to a professional but you don't necessarily need that. If you think you do there is no shame in that but even if your friends aren't in the exact same situation, they might genuinely care and want to be there for you. Give them a chance. Talking to other single moms is a big help though, so definitely be open to starting new friendships with them.

Edit: I just saw the follow up post where you said you think you may have depression. Definitely get help. Even if it is grief and not depression, they can help you through that. Good luck, hun *hug*

First thing i would say is go and speak to someone professionally about how you are feeling. The other thing is you are going through huge changes right now without even adding being a single mum to the equation. When your little one is born you will feel an over whelming sense of love amd being complete.
I am second time around in a situation of being a single mum my kids are 15 .. nearly 16 and 10 and the last week or so i have felt quite over whelmed by situation the last time was when my nearly 16 yr old was a baby.. but i got there it now has gone wrong but i did it once i can do it again.. and so can u.

^^^ this

Well think being a mom is not end the of the road for a woman.women are already the caretakers of the house except with the financial support when we men comes in. But with a good job a believe they can do it all. And from my experience it is good to date single mom because most of them have had experience from their past relationship and they become better wives on next relationship.....